To ask the neighbours to keep the noise down?

(75 Posts)
BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 20:06:32

Our neighbours have invested in a temporary hot tub.

It's 20.05 and there's about ten squealing, screaming, shouting, laughing, shrieking women in the garden right under our toddlers bedroom. They have music blasting and look to be settled in for the night.

Our toddler has been in bed an hour and they've just woken her up.

How late would you let it go on before asking them to keep the noise down? I'm thinking 9? Too early?

BeanoNoir Sat 20-Jul-13 20:52:06

Or you could be really passive aggressive and get your dcs out in the garden at 6am tomorrow to play noisily grin

Not a serious suggestion btw, but I bet it's tempting.

MiaowTheCat Sat 20-Jul-13 21:02:48

I've got a neighbour who has late night barbecues in the garden all summer. I don't think he's malicious - I think he just got into the habit of having an empty house next door to him (took them at least 2 years of having it on the market before we bought it) and not having to consider noise, especially since usually they've taken their garden fence panels out and have the neighbours on the other side in the thick of it... trouble is it's right under the kids' room (and only a 2 bed house so not easy to move the kids unless you fancy a sleepless night of toddler restraint under the guise of sleeping) and their conversation gets progressively louder as the night (and alcohol) runs on.

I tend to view pre-10pm as the "world doesn't revolve around the kids' bedtimes" territory, 10pm-11pm as the "getting mildly irked" territory and post-11pm as the "I'll give it five more minutes and then dither about pretending I'm going to say something but then bottle it" time of the day.

Dreading the royal baby coming - he was still barbecuing in only his pants and a Union Jack top hat at 5am the day after the Royal Wedding!

Miaow your neighbour sounds fab! grin

alabasterangel Sat 20-Jul-13 21:04:58

You said they are 'new' neighbours? Is the hot tub a new thing too?

Yes, it's only mid-evening but maybe because they are new it would be an idea to say something politely, if you don't then they may continue to make it a regular event, quite innocently, not appreciating that you are being disturbed.

In my unfortunate experience there are two types of origin here, those who genuinely don't think about whether they are disturbing you or not, and those who maybe do and just don't care. I'd like to hope yours fall into the former category! Sometimes just a calm word can be enough.

You have my sympathies. My neighbours drive me insane & I know how invasive it can be.

BiscuitDunker Sat 20-Jul-13 21:20:22

I'd would go and politely go and ask them if they could turn the volume down a bit now tbh,you have a toddler who needs sleep a damn sight nore than they need deafening music. Yes its early,yes its a saturday and yes we're having amazing weather at the moment but that's not an excuse to force the neighbours into listening to a racket or waking up kids up.

Regardless of the time of day the noise shouldn't be so excessive that you can't even hear your own tv. I have personally gone upstairs and banged on my neighbours door to complain about her music because it had completely drowned out the sound of my tv-and it was only 10am! Most neighbours are nice and considerate enough to turn the volume down if you ask nicely but also explain why you're asking too. I'm sure the lovely ladies in the hot tub don't actually reaslise how loud they're being or that you have a young child that has been woken up because of them and I'm sure they won't mind keeping the noise down once you've made them aware of the disturbance they're causing smile Mine was perfectly happy to turn her volume down to an acceptable level when I asked,she simply didn't realise that it wasn't just her who could hear every single lyric lol

DrinkFeckArseGirls Sat 20-Jul-13 21:22:02

My tenancy agreement says 11pm.

maddening Sat 20-Jul-13 21:28:27

but that doesn't give you carte Blanche to make any noise you want to - any time it is unreasonable - especially living closer to other properties - eg flats, terraces etc.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 21:29:19

I'd pop over and ask about 10pm if they could try keep it down please thank you very muchly.

BuntCadger Sat 20-Jul-13 21:32:36

Can you pop her in your bed? It's hard as we have little ones here too and I love wet cold nights purely for the peace wink

JackNoneReacher Sat 20-Jul-13 21:44:06

If you can't even hear you're own tv, they need to turn it down. It doesn't matter what time it is.

BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 22:03:43

They've turned their music down now, but they're screechingis getting louder!! Theyre swearing and screaming ridiculously loudly. I've been out to speak to a few of our other neighbours about it (none who live as close to them as we do) and they're cross too.

I don't mind anywhere near as much if its just going to be an occasional thing but I'll be angry if its going to be a weekly occurrence.

I mind a bit more now they're shouting the words of 'better the devil you know' at the tops of their voices.

They're showing no signs of getting quieter either.

Turniptwirl Sat 20-Jul-13 22:07:33

Contemplating shutting my window and melting in my bedroom (hottest room in the house, it's st the top and gets the afternoon sun) because the neighbours are having a party in the garden. Don't feel I can say anything as my housemate semi-regularly sits in our garden being loud with her friends and they don't know that I'm quietly tucked up in bed when she's out there! Also as i rent a room I can't really move elsewhere in the house to sleep :-(

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 22:08:42

Tell them to be quiet!

Seriously, they are being utterly selfish and thoughtless.

CalpolInMyEar Sat 20-Jul-13 22:09:52

Do you live near me? My neighbours are currently alternating singing and shouting along to their loud music, shouting at each other and chanting "Po-LAND, Po-LAND, Po-LAND...'

This is all still preferable to the people who used to live in the house adjoining ours who would regularly play their music loud enough to drown out our TV...

Twatbadgers at the top of our street have been having a party since tea time. They are getting louder and louder and I may have to kill them soon. DD is having trouble sleeping and is in the quietest room.

OK it's one of their birthdays but ffs, there are 10 kids under 5 in our cul-de-sac - show some fucking consideration you wankers.

BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 22:27:58

Went round.

Asked very politely for them to keep it down a bit.

The woman who actually lives there said sorry and they'd try to keep it down. Then.....

Her friend came running through the hall 'what the f**k does she want?' Followed by a barrage of abuse, telling me to f**k off, they're not being that loud, she has kids at home and she wouldn't complain, then had to be held back by her friends as she wanted to ' kick my head in'

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 22:31:17

shock. That did not go well sad
Oh dear! I am sorry to hear that. I hope the nieghbour is mortified.

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 22:33:01

What did the neighbour say?

That's awful!

JackNoneReacher Sat 20-Jul-13 22:34:05

charming...

still if she's threatened to 'kick your head in' I think you're well within your rights to call the none emergency police number and speak to them about her behaviour.

alemci Sat 20-Jul-13 22:35:34

her friend sounds a disgrace, how selfish of them. plus swearing at you is uncalled for when it isnt even her house. sorry to hear about this.sad sad

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 22:36:00

I second jack

If they don't quieten down (a lot!) then call 101 as say that you're too concerned to o back as you were threatened.

Terrible behaviour!

Callmedreckly Sat 20-Jul-13 22:36:55

Fuckinghell I knew it!

I was going to post earlier & say - approach with caution if they are pissed up.

Wankers.
Hope you are ok.

BetterNotBitter Sat 20-Jul-13 22:37:41

The neighbour was just trying to control her and saying 'I have to live here' and trying to get her to calm down. She was ridiculous. They're not young girls either, they're grown women in the 30's and up over!

Obviously overestimated them expecting them to handle it properly!

To be fair, they're very drunk. Just hope they feel embarrassed by their antics tomorrow and get bored of the party soon. Although if anything, it seems to have made them louder not quieter.....

BuntCadger Sat 20-Jul-13 22:40:35

The fact that you were threatened means you'd be very reasonable to contact 101. Shocking behaviour

MrsWolowitz Sat 20-Jul-13 22:41:18

Then report them!

You don't have to put up with that.

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