M&S staff inappropriate about my post pregnancy size

(86 Posts)
Onthebuses Fri 19-Jul-13 21:59:05

Looking for new summer clothes in branch of m&s, carrying my 10 week old son, hot and uncomfortable as still having to wear pregnancy clothes as last summers clothes don't fit. I ask a sales person where the shorts are, she explains they are now selling autumn clothes, adds there are a few shorts left over the other side of the store

Then touches my hip and says but I don't think they would be in your size!!!

Taken aback I leave the store and email a letter of complaint for a) inappropriate touching and b) her making a snide judgement about my size

V standard response from complaints/brush off.

Not on??

TiffanyAtBreakfast Sat 20-Jul-13 23:12:27

YANBU!

Regardless of whether the OP is feeling delicate about her weight or not, a retail assistant should not be making a judgement (and definitely not a comment) about someone's size unless specifically asked by the customer. The OP asked where the shorts were, not if the assistant thought they would fit her!

The appropriate response would've been "they're over there, but unfortunately we don't have many sizes left".

The touching would bother me as well. It's possible to be a warm, friendly person and provide good customer service without invading personal space IMO.

arabellasknickers Sun 21-Jul-13 00:26:30

tell you what is sizeist, my experience today in M&S: me buying one item of fruit... checkout assistant (3x my size) ''my, you have put on weight, tell me what you're eating so I can avoid it'' me- ah, yes, so I have

confused

when did this become ok?! I am not actually fat, I am a size 12, so I'm larger than I was.. but still...

flowery Sun 21-Jul-13 07:04:43

See, on a hot day, carrying a 10 week old baby, I'd much rather the assistant tell me there were none left in my size rather than let me traipse over there knowing full well I would be going on a wild goose chase just to avoid offending me.

Any good sales assistant will be able to judge what approximate size someone is, and if there were only size 6 and size 22 left, it is not being judgy or sizeist to tell the OP that none will fit her to save her a trip.

Dolphinnoises Sun 21-Jul-13 07:13:09

The OP has said the assistant said it in a snide way, and I have no reason to disbelieve her. YANBU

MrsCampbellBlack Sun 21-Jul-13 07:18:20

My local m&s only seems to stock size 18 and above so maybe she meant they'd all be too big for you

LessMissAbs Sun 21-Jul-13 07:44:47

Clearly the assistant should have given you no information whatsoever before going on a post pregnancy awareness course, size diversity training and running it past their lawyers.

Meanwhile op you better not go into Harvey nicks. Ir Reiss. Or top shop. Or new look. Ir ever visit France. Or Holland...

ANormalOne Sun 21-Jul-13 07:59:31

YABU How is saying that there's no clothes left in your size making a snide comment about your size? hmm The touching of the hip is inappropriate but some people are just very tactile, I think you're being very over sensitive.

MaryPoppinsBag Sun 21-Jul-13 08:15:39

What size are you OP?

I'm a 16 and find BHS great for shorts. My baby is 4 yo and I still haven't lost the weight.

I hope you feel better today. If you feel the woman was being snide then YANBU.

SoupDragon Sun 21-Jul-13 08:38:21

The OP has said the assistant said it in a snide way, and I have no reason to disbelieve her.

I disagree - I think she is feeling sensitive and, IME, that often makes you attribute intentions to things which really weren't there. My gut feeling is that it was imagined because she is sensitive about the baby weight.

fairylightsinthespring Sun 21-Jul-13 08:38:50

I'd be more pissed off that their autumn range is being put out already. I know these things work so many months ahead but given the odd weather and very delayed summer this year, its a shame there's no flexibility in the system. I might be a little hmm at the incident but wouldn't be writing emails.

Onthebuses Sun 21-Jul-13 08:42:52

Thanks for all the responses, really interesting to see the range of views. My body image is thankfully intact, but sadly I am still hot and uncomfortable in my lack of summer clothes. BHS I'm on my way.

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