Teacher gift etiquette

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Onroute66 Wed 17-Jul-13 20:19:09

An individual gift for a teacher and TA. What's reasonable, what's not?

I won't say what I've bought just yet as I want to know if it's crap or ott.

clarasebal Wed 18-Sep-13 19:15:56

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Balaboosta Thu 18-Jul-13 19:33:13

I got a job lot of quirky fridge magnets off eBay and some little Chinese cloth bags to put two or three into, also from eBay. But theyre quite kitsch and some peoples fridges dint have magnetty doors... My problem is that all the staff in the school are lovely and helpful to me and DTs - one has sen so lots of support - and where do you draw the line? Even the janitor that holds open the gate is deserving of a gift so i could end up with a huge box-load of gifts...

fudgeit Thu 18-Jul-13 19:12:55

and i was really hoping that mis-post hadn't gone through confused

fudgeit Thu 18-Jul-13 19:11:55

i resisted last year but felt bad after. this year i have collected this and that from sales at Paperchase and the like. so the TAs get chocs and little diaries for next year, the same for teacher plus a little charm key ring. again cards and gift bags on sale so it might look a bit OTT but actually isn't.

fudgeit Thu 18-Jul-13 19:09:51

i resisted last year but felt bad after. this year i have collected this and that fr

Caitycat Thu 18-Jul-13 12:45:27

I am a secondary teacher and we very rarely get anything in my school. The exception is sixth form leavers who will often buy something for me as a class. I absolutely love getting a card with a gushing message - these feel all the more genuine for being only occasional!

oscarwilde Thu 18-Jul-13 12:30:56

My MIL was a teacher and said that nice biscuits, nice tea and coffee and wine were the crowd pleasers. They don't have a kettle in the classroom nor a dishwasher in the staffroom so one clearly identifiable (and large) mug is preferred.
She got this one year and loved it
My sister is a primary teacher and spent a year teaching in a private prep. She left at the end of the year with Clarins gift sets and all kinds of expensive toiletries most of which she gave away rather than store 10 yrs worth of the stuff. We were all gobsmacked at the average value of the gifts she received. Madness.

lachrymavitis Thu 18-Jul-13 12:19:32

The teacher and TAs will get homemade cards and homemade biscuits this year.

They may go in the bin but hopefully the teacher and TAs will appreciate the effort that will go into making them. The children will enjoy making them too.

BiddyPop Thu 18-Jul-13 11:59:51

Sanity, in our case it is up to each parent to decide on participation or not, as they wish. The secretary minds all envelopes and it is only the Class Rep who gets it so sees the list of names. And as there is a range of incomes etc in school, there is never any disctinction drawn between those who can or cannot participate, and I know the card the teacher gets is signed as "On behalf of 1st Class 2013" or whatever is relevant - no names are included on card. And you do see some children bringing something different, or just cards, or nothing - but as they could well have put into the collection, that doesn't mean they aren't giving. So it actually means that any who CAN'T give are not singled out in any way - they become annonymous instead.

SanityClause Thu 18-Jul-13 10:18:49

One lovely teacher DS had, came to his naice prep school from a much tougher school.

She told me that the first time a load of parents came in at the end of term to give her a present, she thought they wanted a row!

I quite like the class collection idea, as it means the teachers aren't innundated by small bits of tat presents. I do appreciate that a class collection brings its own problems, however.

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Thu 18-Jul-13 10:01:34

I have 2 teachers and 4 TA's to buy for so the teachers each got a nice tin of biscuits from M&S and the TA's got some shortbread stars, and one TA also got a best TA keyring (only £1 in card factory) as she has really helped my son with his writing this year. They all got a card which my boys wrote saying thank you and I also wrote in the card saying how grateful I am and especially to the teacher of my son who struggles a bit with his writing as I feel he has made such a difference this year and I wanted to acknowledge it. The gifts didn't cost much each but add up. I am hoping the cards mean something more to them.

BiddyPop Thu 18-Jul-13 10:01:26

DD's school generally have envelopes in the Secretary's office for each class, so parents can drop in €5 or whatever they want for each child - that is used to buy a voucher each for teacher and TA in the room.

DD then does a card which she makes herself (but which she generally doesn't give herself enough time to write, so I do a message from us all inside). One each for teacher, TA, SEN and reading group leader (and this year there was also one for the TA who had them 1st term).

We had to get a present for the SEN seperately, I got her a bag of nice "relaxing tea" and I know another 1 of the small group (3) that DD works with got her a nice mug - so it looked coordinated. grin (The kids all know she loves her coffee in the mornings and then green tea and other infusions).

Seperately, we also have the 3 minders in the afterschool club in creche, and the 2 drivers to the creche - they each got a box of chocs and a shop bought "Thank you" card, written by DD.

I figure that's enough organising to have to do. We got one of the drivers calling to the door at home (she lives nearby) to say thank you as she was out when DD dropped it off (not organised enough for her day driving) - as almost no one gives anything to the drivers and she was delighted with it. (Including the Christmas present she kept forgetting to give her blush - a hand knitted facecloth and nice soap).

frangipan Thu 18-Jul-13 09:52:32

I have made bookmarks from wide ribbon with a fabric rosette and button sewn on. Took me about 2 hours as i was making 19 of them (3 dc separate schools) cost approx 50p each but i already had all the bits anyway. DS1 13 made up the following Poem to go with it, and we wrote a personal message also.....

This little homemade gift
Is to help you mark your place
And to be a constant reminder
That (little frange )thinks you're ACE!

They've gone down well so far i think <hoping they don't think i am cheap>

Thereistoomuchconfusion Thu 18-Jul-13 09:51:48

Fauxfox that is reallyy lovely, where is this school my dd does not 'get' learning I want him to be my dd teacher. Although my dd teacher is brilliant. We had some old tins in the cupboard which hubby took to work and spray painted them in the TA and teachers fav coulours (not so subtly found out by dd). The dd decorated the tins and wrote the teachers names and put stickers on them and we filled the tins with pens fancy tissues and some nice smelling hand stuff, and a tiny Yankee candle in Clinton's for 80p bargin!! And I did get some moon pig cards and got dd to write a little note which is hard for her and is not readable but her teacher will understand it is difficult for her to write so hopefully appreciated xx

JazzDalek Thu 18-Jul-13 09:36:23

Disposable income hit hard by birthdays and sale spending recently blush so have only bought one present - DS is going up to year 1 next year, so his teacher has had him all through nursery and reception and she has been brilliant with him (he was slightly challenging at first). Have bought a card and a bag of summer fruit chocolate from Rococo.

DD's teacher is also lovely but she has her next year too so will get her something at the end of her two-year stint with DD.

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos Thu 18-Jul-13 09:21:10

Oh, and I checked what the setting wanted before I bought stuff ...... That's at Pre-School level, though. Bit different when they are at school.

SweepTheHalls Thu 18-Jul-13 08:33:19

Every hand written note goes in a file that I read when I have had an awful day and need to remind myself just why I teach.

jojane Thu 18-Jul-13 08:16:56

I think I am gettin one funky pens etc. ds1 has had a supply teacher most f this year due to maternity leav who left last month so we got her some gardening stuff - funky trowel, kneeling mat, seeds etc as she had said in her leaving note that she was looking forward to spending some time in her garden.

FauxFox Thu 18-Jul-13 08:11:36

I try and give gifts that mach my level of appreciation. Some years I just do £10 in the class collection, but teachers that go above and beyond the call of duty to help my kids get more. DDs teacher has spent plenty of his own time making personalised resources to encourage her and for the first time she's really 'got' the point of learning, she adores him. I've got him a family day pass for a local attraction so he can spend a cool day out with his own kids to make up all the time he's spent on mine grin

27cats Thu 18-Jul-13 07:54:07

Giving something to the nursery setting is a good idea. Books and jigsaws are especially useful, as they do get worn out. smile

GangstaGranny Thu 18-Jul-13 07:48:24

I generally make a batch of chocolate fudge that I can share out in home made boxes. My fudge seems to be getting a bit predictable so had to rethink this year.
My fridge is full of Wicked Baileys Truffles! Easy to make, not too evpensive over 3 teachers, 3 TAs and after school club. I'm even taking a batch into work today. Even at £5 a head I would have spent £30 before cards and wrapping.
He husband works at a school (but doesn't teach). Recently he threw away 2 boxes of "No 1 Teacher" type mugs that weren't wanted, such a shame as they all had to be gifts.

Onroute66 Thu 18-Jul-13 07:37:54

I think what I've got should be ok.

It's a small sweet, let's say a mini box of nice sweets, but something they're unlikely to have another of. And a little stationery item.

funkybuddah Thu 18-Jul-13 07:31:20

Ds constantly talks about his cooking passion so he is making the teachers his special Brownies and writing out the ingredients and instructions. They got his writing and grammar up to scratch for the yr6 says so he wants to show them what he can do .

musicposy Thu 18-Jul-13 07:27:16

Just let the child make a note. Or get something really little. Don't spend over a fiver. Here it really is the thought that counts.
I'm a teacher smile

TwoAndTwoEqualsChaos Thu 18-Jul-13 07:20:45

One of my DCs is going up to Reception this year so, as a thank-you at two settings he is leaving, I have spent or given about £30 to the organisation for something they want (e.g. for one, I got a good deal on ebay for some floor cushions they were after). When a DC let presviously, I bought some nice jigsaws, that sort of thing.

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