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to want to scream at these relatives!

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missesjellybean Wed 17-Jul-13 14:56:01

so I'm at the hospital now ... I've just had my 20 week scan, I had an operation a few weeks ago on my cervix so I'm not supposed to stand for prolonged periods but I've just been sent through to wait to see the doctor...and told there is a 2 hour delay...and there isn't one single seat to sit on.
the waiting room is about 30 degrees with no windows or seats and every single pregnant lady here has at least two relatives with her and they're all occupying the seats
I thought some kind relative who is just here for moral support would give up their seat for a clearly pregnant lady but they're all just pretending not to see me stood here absolutely roasting with no where to sit so they don't have to move. wibu to throw a massive diva strop at demand a chair....or at least ask the receptionist who is also pretending to ignore me to ask able visitors to stand so actual patients can sit....shockangry

bumpybecky Wed 17-Jul-13 14:57:38

you poor thing! go and speak to receptionist and explain, I'm sure they can sort something out

I'd ask the receptionist to sort out a seat for you. Get her to check your medical records (or tell her the reason) if you like. Then its up to her whether she asks someone to move or finds you a chair.

poopyisapig Wed 17-Jul-13 14:57:56

Please ask someone if you can sit down! Very rude of them not to offer. Please don't put yourself at risk.

rubyslippers Wed 17-Jul-13 14:57:56

of course throw a diva strop

and speak to the receptionist

teaforthree Wed 17-Jul-13 15:01:53

Sit on the floor in front of them, huffing and giving death stares. Or just say, 'could I sit down please, I'm not feeling too well.'

HopALongOn Wed 17-Jul-13 15:03:13

Ask someone to move. Or speak to the receptionist. Not UR at all.

Tee2072 Wed 17-Jul-13 15:03:19

Go up to someone and say, "you're not pregnant, stands up now!"

Or maybe more politely

squeakytoy Wed 17-Jul-13 15:04:30

I would go away and come back in a couple of hours.

HopALongOn Wed 17-Jul-13 15:06:56

I imagine she can't go away because there is always the chance that the clinic will speed up and eat away some of the delay.

Seriously though, ask someone to give you a seat. There is normally a poster or notice about allowing pregnant patients to use the seats in antenatal clinics. Plus, it's good manners.

MaxPepsi Wed 17-Jul-13 15:07:00

Jesus how fucking rude and ignorant.

I'd be tempted to just ask the room at large who was going to move to let a clearly pregnant and advised by the doctors I need to sit not stand lady a seat.

They don't have to be there, you do!

YouTheCat Wed 17-Jul-13 15:09:35

What utter knobends!

defineme Wed 17-Jul-13 15:09:58

I would say very clearly 'is anyone able to stand because I need a seat as I have a serious pregnancy related condition?'
If no one stands up then I'd ask reception.

combinearvester Wed 17-Jul-13 15:10:01

You need to ask one of the partners to get up. Loudly. Bet this is my old hospital grin

PumpkinPie2013 Wed 17-Jul-13 15:11:08

Definitely ask someone or the receptionist for a chair!

It's rude of no one to offer! My husband has stood up while waiting for both our scans so pregnant people could sit down x

EvieanneVolvic Wed 17-Jul-13 15:12:14

What the fuck is the fucking world fucking well coming to , I am fucking appalled.

And breathe....

Go to the receptionist and ask her to organise a seat for you. (as per Dinosaur) If s/he doesn't, I will fucking well orrganise a fucking MN flash mob to fucking sort them out.

Yes, there are other things to go to the barricade for, but at the moment I can't think of one!

handcream Wed 17-Jul-13 15:12:55

I had a scan many years ago at a private clinic and a group of very rowdy ladies from the Middle East came in for one of them to get a scan. TBH they were all in burkas and could I say a little frightening....

The receptionist jumped out of her seat. Demanded the person who could speak English and literally threw the rest of them out. These were scans for abnormalities so a senstive area...

Also at our local hospital (wont mention it) it is cultural that when a member of the family hurts themselves not just one person attends A&E with the patient. I did once have to sit on the floor because of a family of 5 who had all come in for a young boy who had hurt his finger

EvieanneVolvic Wed 17-Jul-13 15:13:13

or even organise

HairyWorm Wed 17-Jul-13 15:14:00

Speak to the receptionist. Ask her loudly if there are any other chairs that you could bring through to the waiting room or could you come back as you can't wait in this heat.

At one private scan appt at approx 28 weeks had to stand in full waiting room of seated people of which about 3 were pregnant! One had 5 people with her. One had 2 teenagers. Not one of them offered to stand or asked their precious teenager to. Luckily we were just picking up prints and only stood for 10 mins. Looking back I find it really odd no one even offered.

I always thought I'd be the type of person to make a point about this and ask if anyone would stand but I find it very difficult.

KobayashiMaru Wed 17-Jul-13 15:14:11

Seriously? Just tell someone to move, why on earth wouldn't you? confused

EvieanneVolvic Wed 17-Jul-13 15:15:19

....sheesh is there not ONE topic that doesn't bring the xenophobes out to play? Handcream your post stands up very well without the irrelevant demographic detail.

KobayashiMaru Wed 17-Jul-13 15:15:34

meant to add, there is no need for any of the passive aggressive nonsense as mentioned above, we're not children.

missesjellybean Wed 17-Jul-13 15:17:02

just asked reception if I could have a chair, I had to wait until the midwife was free so the receptionist could ask the midwife to ask relatives to stand...I now have a seat yay! and a room for of angry relatives glaring at me shock oh well ...

HairyWorm Wed 17-Jul-13 15:18:25

I'm constantly shocked how totally ignorant people are by not offering seats to people who need them.

EvieanneVolvic Wed 17-Jul-13 15:19:00

I'm glaring straight back at tham if that's true jellybean...but it could just be that you're imagining it (feck, in this heat I am imagining all sorts!)

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