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aibu to have loved the space with dh away for a week? is it a sign I should break up with him?

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thispunderfullife Wed 17-Jul-13 14:37:33

Dh and I haven't had separate holidays in years. He has been away for a week and I have loved it. Loved it. Skipped about the house, sang in the shower, giggled with my ds, hung out with the neighbours, loved every second. Fallen asleep blissful every night totally happy. I've been with dh for about 7 years .... am I being unreasonable to think this is A big sign that we should break up, or is this a usual feeling among people in long relationships?

froubylou Wed 17-Jul-13 19:28:45

I love it when my DP has to work away. I love the peace and quiet in the evenings, and having something 'girly' like jacket potato or pasta for tea with DD. Love having the bed to myself and love the peace and quiet at 3am with no snoring/snuffling/going for a wee/blowing his nose loudly etc etc etc.

BUT when he was in hospital for 2 weeks the other year I missed him desperatly. 4 nights for work is fine. 10 nights for work would be fine too I think though we haven't tested that theory yet.

I adore him and love spending time with him. But he's a loud, noisey bugger who channel surfs and eats biscuits in bed. And I like peace and quiet sometimes.

He's not even quiet when he's asleep lol.

Its normal to enjoy some time away. And be more relaxed I think. But its not normal to have an 'upsetting' row every week. Me and DP been together for 7 years. We have had 3 shit hit the fan rows in that time. I couldn't cope with them every week. No wonder you are skipping and singing if you have that sort of upset once a week.

lordleofric Wed 17-Jul-13 19:31:22

We used to live overseas. I moved back to UK first, leaving DH and 3 DCs behind. I loved it.
We're all back together now. [shrug]

DfanjoUnchained Wed 17-Jul-13 19:43:55

I love how tidy my house stays while H is away

thispunderfullife Wed 17-Jul-13 20:09:33

E.g. I posted the above during dinner and he got upset and said I'd spent half the dinner on the phone and got upset... Just now I said I was going to make a couple of phone calls while he did bath time and he said... 'I'm not impressed' that kind of thing.

Bowlersarm Wed 17-Jul-13 20:12:13

He sounds like hard work sad

LittleBearPad Wed 17-Jul-13 20:12:58

'Im not impressed'??

What did he think you should be ping whilst he did bath time?

LittleBearPad Wed 17-Jul-13 20:13:13

Ping. Doing!!

Euphemia France Wed 17-Jul-13 20:16:22

something 'girly' like jacket potato or pasta for tea

What does DH like for tea, woolly mammoth steak? hmm

Euphemia France Wed 17-Jul-13 20:17:16

I wouldn't be impressed with anyone pissing about on their phone during dinner.

ithaka Wed 17-Jul-13 20:24:19

I would be annoyed if my DH was on his phone/tablet during dinner - it is rude and sets a bad example to the children.

However, I do miss DH terribly when he goes away - which isn't often. In the words of the song - the beds too big without him. I don't sleep nearly as well by myself and love it when he is back so we can settle happily into our natural sleeping positions - we have been together over 20 years.

I also miss his support and being there and well - just him really.

froubylou Wed 17-Jul-13 20:48:41

Lol. Not woolly mammoth no. Just something more substantial than jacket potatoes with cheese. He's a builer, does 12/14 hours of hard graft and is starving when he gets home.

Hes quite happy to have a jacket potato as the carbs part of a meal. He just would like it with some protein and veg or salad to go with it. Not just a dollop of coleslaw or handful of cheese.

Typical meat and 2 veg kinda guy.

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