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AIBU That I need a shag

(99 Posts)
Ringodingo Tue 16-Jul-13 14:23:19

self pity thread, Its been a long 23 months without having had one and got to be honest its driving me up the wall. missing the closeness of another body to hold, hug, have a laugh and then to bed...

HairyGrotter Tue 16-Jul-13 14:24:30

YANBU, I went 3 years without (after DD was born, lone parent, etc etc) and by the end of that I was climbing the walls!

kim147 Tue 16-Jul-13 14:27:02

4 years. But it's not going to happen until a few "alterations" are made grin

I do miss having someone to hug, cuddle and kiss though.

Ringodingo Tue 16-Jul-13 14:43:13

3/4 Years is hard going. Kim147 "alterations"?

aldiwhore Tue 16-Jul-13 14:44:54

YANBU.

Hope the drought breaks for you soon, in the nicest way possible, even if it's just a naked cuddle with someone you vaguely like.

YANBU at all.

Bakingnovice Tue 16-Jul-13 14:50:12

Yadnbu.

kim147 Tue 16-Jul-13 14:52:09

ringodingo You need to search me on here grin

Ringodingo Tue 16-Jul-13 15:06:07

In my desperate state I think I might jump the postman (past silver fox looking)!!!!

MannishBoy Tue 16-Jul-13 15:14:06

YANBU join the club. Though I do have someone to hug, have a laugh with mind. Just not getting any. That sounds very selfish.

cos it is grin

faulkernegger Tue 16-Jul-13 15:52:18

Go to your local Ceroc - it's all happening there!

LurcioLovesFrankie Tue 16-Jul-13 16:14:41

I've just realised I've lost count. Thinking back, it must be coming up for about 8 years. But as a single mum in her late 40s I don't see the situation changing ever, so I guess I'd better get used to it. But, no yadnbu (that's a definitely in there). I think it's the hot weather. I'd shag anyone available who was up for it at the moment.

Cambam2010 Tue 16-Jul-13 16:20:03

Another one joining the club (4 years). It's the closeness that I miss and having someone wrap their arms around you in a hug when you are trying to hold it together but failing miserably.

EBearhug Tue 16-Jul-13 18:17:00

I'm another in the years camp. In fact there have been far more times without than with since I lost my virginity, and long stretches of it.

I can live without sex with others (though I feel guilty about my battery consumption at times), but what I find really hard is that I've had about 2 hugs this year, and one handshake. No other human contact at all, and not that much more in the year before either. (I am not counting being on the Tube in rush hour. Nor being at the doctor.) Sometimes I wonder if I might as well be dead.

Ezio Tue 16-Jul-13 18:33:04

I've done 4 years no sex, i thought i had a man to change that, alas it didnt happen.

SneakyNuts Tue 16-Jul-13 20:32:50

Feeling your pain
AND the lovely man I'm seeing "wants to wait"

Gaaaaahhh

Ezio Tue 16-Jul-13 20:37:03

Sneaky, how frustrating.

Im at the point now, when i just want a man to ruin me, shag me into oblivion, i needs it.

susiedaisy Tue 16-Jul-13 20:38:45

Me too been 3 years now and I'm really missing having someone to cuddlehmm

Ringodingo Tue 16-Jul-13 20:41:59

EBearhug, feeling for you and understand what you are saying about the human contact. I find myself holding on for dear life when getting a hug from a relative. As it is very far and few between. sending you hugs from me please don't wonder your last sentence.
Sneakynuts hopefully he will be worth the waiting time.
I do think its the hot weather making me up for a shag tho.... come the winter all I want is my jimjams on and a good book...

susiedaisy Tue 16-Jul-13 20:43:37

Anyone else notice that there's so much sex, flirting etc on tv, I think because I'm not getting any I notice it much more than I used to!blush

kim147 Tue 16-Jul-13 20:45:22

susie You mean everywhere you look you see couples, sex and people in a relationship.

I miss human contact and someone just to share and offload things to. It's kind of drummed into us that is what happens and what is normal - and you do feel like you're missing out.

susiedaisy Tue 16-Jul-13 20:46:30

Yes Kim you're spot on, all I've seen today is couples of all ages holding hands strolling in the sun!

Ikeameatballs Tue 16-Jul-13 20:49:15

Over 2years for me though I do get hugs and kisses from the dc and hugs from family but I really miss the delicious pleasure and intimacy of sex.

Once I have the house in my own name (so less chance of ex p being an arse about it) I will def be getting myself some.

TroublesomeEx Tue 16-Jul-13 20:49:35

Oh I totally agree.

I've got a date tomorrow (whoop, whoop) and, although I wouldn't do anything on the first date, I'm hoping we hit it off and I don't have to wait too long blush

Poor bloke won't know what's hit him! grin

susiedaisy Tue 16-Jul-13 20:50:46

grin Good luck

AmIthatHot Tue 16-Jul-13 20:56:23

YANBU

It's just over 9 years for me. Luckily DD loves hugging her mum, so I get plenty of human contact, but I would chop my right arm off for even a kiss from the opposite sex.

I've given up though, it aint going to happen sad

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