to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

(162 Posts)
fridgealwaysfull Sat 13-Jul-13 12:27:25

Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

wordfactory Tue 16-Jul-13 22:49:44

The main reason I don't do FB is that the odd times I've looked at freinds' pages, they are so obviously a santistised/photoshopped version of themselves and their lives, that I don't feel I'm learning anyhting about them.

I find MN far more interesting in that posters do let you in to their little worlds. The domestic minutae of their days and inner thoughts is far more valuable than an ersatz version!

pussycatwillum Tue 16-Jul-13 20:08:59

I always thought the public thank yous on fb were given by people who don't go out that much so they're acknowledging something different from the norm
Yep, that's me grin

exoticfruits Tue 16-Jul-13 18:28:01

You can come off- you can de friend!
I started a thread on what people liked on FB- it was very short. Nothing was the answer- or nothing that everyone agreed with!

x2boys Tue 16-Jul-13 18:21:39

I had a very good friend who I lost touch with for several years found her again on FB she is always going on about her marvellous life and thanking people for there fantastic seven course dinners talking about her wonderful house/husband /child I just find her an annoying twat tbh

Mintyy Tue 16-Jul-13 17:53:54

Zactly roundtable.

roundtable Tue 16-Jul-13 17:46:58

I always thought the public thank yous on fb were given by people who don't go out that much so they're acknowledging something different from the norm?

equinox Tue 16-Jul-13 17:44:16

I've got sick of facebook and came off it last weekend!

Fillyjonk75 Tue 16-Jul-13 17:39:50

I get highly pissed off with it st times, changing the default privacy settings and so on. I prefer Twitter, but also use fb in a similar way to twitter and have had some great discussions on current affairs. Also there is a great local parents group. So it certainly isn't all people showing off. Also I've got some work through it and promote the WI and PTFA through it, so it's very useful.

Bonsoir Tue 16-Jul-13 17:17:01

I'm not impressed. I think Facebook is the spawn of the devil.

ChocsAwayInMyGob Tue 16-Jul-13 16:05:53

Bonsoir- if Mark Zuckerberg had thought like you, he wouldn't be worth 25 billion.

People WANT to broadcast their lives!

I find it especially nice to keep in touch with my cousins who live overseas. We can see each other's holiday pics and watch our kids getting older. Before Facebook, it would be years between seeing photos or hearing from them apart from Xmas.

Facebook is a page about your own life, therefore you can put what you like about yourself and your life. Other people shouldn't think that they can control what others should or shouldn't write. The Hide button is for things you don't like.

*Disclaimer, obviously anything racist, or bigoted or harmful is excluded from this.

WinkyWinkola Tue 16-Jul-13 16:03:27

I'm glad people broadcast their lives. I'm a nosey cahh and love to have a shufty.

Bonsoir Tue 16-Jul-13 15:21:48

Why broadcast your life though?

whois Tue 16-Jul-13 15:12:48

In the words of TOWIE, OP, you are well jel.

To be annoyed by this is not cool, basically marks you out as bitter and sad. Be happy your friends are having fun surely?

Fillyjonk75 Tue 16-Jul-13 15:04:52

I don't think it's showing off necessarily, (though it can be) it's more like "my news". Broadcasting yourself. Discovering your inner journalist. Much more akin to a round robin (though a steady stream of updates, not a summary of the year) or the bit on PM where they read out people's personal news. I find mundane 'news' about individuals I know in general often more interesting than the local or national broadcast news.

I also think the purpose of Facebook is indulging noseyness. I find it fascinating what you can find out on there.

Bonsoir Tue 16-Jul-13 14:56:14

The whole point of Facebook is to show off.

Fillyjonk75 Tue 16-Jul-13 14:54:19

I sometimes do a status update tagging several people who were there if it was a big group - saves sending 15 text messages saying "Was great to catch up". I sent one the other night to have a laugh at myself for dropping my phone (smashing the glass) on the way home and to share some pictures of the night. It got lots of likes though, granted there is no "I am highly irritated by this status update" button either.

But then I also don't get out much, so I feel like advertising when I do. I am out. On a Saturday night. With no kids. Woo hoo!

cheerfulweather Tue 16-Jul-13 14:40:22

I love that, it is almost like an endless, constant round robin, Facebook is.

Rufus20 Tue 16-Jul-13 14:38:10

My point about round robins is that social mores have changed. If twenty years ago, you'd sent a letter to all you friends and relatives to say "and then we went for a lovely meal with Bob and Janet (thanks Bob and Janet)" we almost certainly would have found it odd.

differentnameforthis Tue 16-Jul-13 13:01:35

It is not up to your friends to censor their page because you don't like their posts.

Hide or de-friend.

Wbdn28 Tue 16-Jul-13 12:56:58

> We did all used to laugh at Christmas round robins, didn't we?

Some still do grin They're nothing but a boast-fest, usually!

Mintyy Tue 16-Jul-13 12:13:06

I went to a lovely barbecue on Sunday. There were about 20 of us there, some on facebook, some not.

Dh and I sent a thank you card in the post! Can you believe it?

<old gimmers>

If we'd said "thank you" on facebook it would have been meaningless to 95% of my friends.

See, obvs I know how to use fb properly and the rest of you don't grin.

I occasionally post a thank you on fb, mostly to prove that I do actually get out of the house once in a blue moon, and I am not actually a sad little loner without any sort of social life. Which I am really, as the social events I post about happen about twice a year, if that! grin

Rufus20 Tue 16-Jul-13 01:08:17

We did all used to laugh at Christmas round robins, didn't we?

Wbdn28 Tue 16-Jul-13 00:55:02

YANBU. Agree with 80s mum! You've thanked them face to face, so why the need to ensure you also thank them in front of an audience?

LessMissAbs Mon 15-Jul-13 23:04:41

I think this type of post is done publicly because it involves a social activity. ie other people. If you think this is some form of boasting, perhaps you need to develop more of a social life yourself instead of sitting on the fringes, criticising.

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