school report bragging on facebook

[emanjay]

AIBU? Can't stand this. My friend has written "*'s report was brilliant! Bet he keeps it up next year "

[xylem8]

one of my fb friends has scanned in and posted their enire 6 yos report

[Theimpossiblegirl]

Year 6 SATs results today so it will just get worse...

[Arisbottle]

Why on earth would you be pissed off that your friend's child is doing well?

[MadCap]

Yabu op, you come across as quite petty and small.

[mynameisslimshady]

Fb is for sharing your families news and achievements isn't it. Why do you think thst a friend being pleased her child did well is a bad thing, would you rather she didn't give a shit?

[ARealDame]

I am not a member of FB.

But I would like to be - if only so I could do a spoof.

Am thinking:

1. Updating my 'relationship' status on a daily basis.
   
2. Holiday pics, some of them real, some of them pasted.
   
3. My son's school report.
   
4. My dinner last night (incl photo).
   
5. My breakfast this morning (incl photo).
   
6. My suicidal thoughts 10 seconds ago.
   
7. My weight loss today.
   

and so on ...

[LynetteScavo]

I am always bemused by school report bragging. I mean, you have to be a really little shit with a grumpy teacher to actually get a bad school report these days. Believe me, I have a DS who was a little shit, and his Y6 teacher was a right grump. She still found really nice things to write in his school report.

[brilliantwhite]

so being proud of your child doing well at school is wrong now .

[SoupDragon]

You sound bitter and miserable, OP.

[chocoluvva]

It's a tricky one.

On the one hand it's bragging, "brilliant" and insensitive to any friends whose DCs didn't get "brilliant" reports. On the other hand, it's nice that they're proud of their DCs and how else would you know if they didn't tell you.

FWIW, I don't think YBU. If they'd said, "We were delighted with DC's report. We're very proud of him", do you think you would feel differently?

[TheOneWithTheHair]

I don't think it's being proud that's the problem. It's the way it's done.

"Oh look what a genius xxxxx is! I'm overwhelmed and so, so proud. Xxxxx is going to be a brain surgeon/ prime minister/ astronaught for sure with results like that!! Love you so much Baby. "

Accompanied by copious pictures of text that's too small to read easily and show good but not genius results.

What's wrong with a simple, " xxxx got a great school report. Really proud. " ?

[LadyBryan]

I put something along the lines of

"Just read a really lovely school report. Incredibly proud of DD"

She's done SATS a year early and achieved a score two years ahead of where she should be. She's got the Form prize. People keep telling me what a lovely, kind girl she is.

I'm bloody over the moon but feel like I can't be overtly proud in case it offends people - and that to me makes me feel like I'm doing her a disservice

[LadyBryan]

Her school does other tests too. She scored 99% and 100%.

I didn't post that either!

[bico]

fb bragging is tedious and mostly tends to be unmerited too. What is the point in posting this stuff? The person who needs to know you are proud of their achievements is your child. If they are under 14 (or whatever age it is for fb) posting your proudness on fb won't be seen by them so why bother?

The only reason to brag on fb about your dcs is to imply that they and their achievements are better than their/your friends' dcs.

[HoneyDragon]

Ooooh another school report on face book thread in active convos

[pinkmoomin]

I'm very proud of all my DD's achievements but don't feel compelled to broadcast this on Facebook. I just think that would be a really naff thing to do.

[MadCap]

There's people on here that have a problem with whatever people put on Facebook because someone might be offended about it. Can't post scan pics because it might hurt someone who's ttc or holiday snaps because someone might not be able to afford to go on hols. God forbid you talk about your kids or talk about the more mundane things in life or you're too boring for words. Some people should just stay off Facebook. It isn't compulsory you know.

[tapdancingelephant]

I posted about my dd's report.

I was (and still am) very proud, and pleased (both with and for her).

I posted to share with far flung friends, relatives and godparents etc - same as any other post I make.

I have also scanned/taken photos of various certificates/achievement awards that she has received.

I don't seem to have lost any friends over it - why would I? My friends list consists of people who like me and my children, and who are interested in our news, both good and bad.

[Sirzy]

I sometimes wonder what people are allowed to post on Facebook? From threads on here it seems very little is 'allowed' without someone getting annoyed/taking offence at it.

If you don't like what people post then don't be friends with them on Fb

[AllDirections]

I agree with pink that it's a really naff thing to do. I even read one earlier that I know isn't 100% truthful

[LynetteScavo]

None of my DCs school report was news to me.

I knew already knew how fantastic they are, and what levels they are working at.

[chocoluvva]

Nothing like a FB thread to divide opinion

[LadyBryan]

Agree totally with tapdancingelephant

FB is a quick way of letting those who care about us know about her achievements. including older relatives, godparents who all live considerable distances.

I like to think I'm a nicer person than just assuming someone is bragging because they post something nice.

[SoupDragon]

I often think that the people who are critical of what other people post on Facebook are probably people who have accepted too many friend requests.