To wish that nurses would think twice about calling older people 'sweetheart' and 'darling'

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TheOriginalSteamingNit Thu 11-Jul-13 09:36:12

I know, I know, they are trying to be nice, they are good people, if all I have to worry about is the terms of endearment the HCPs use, I have a lucky life, etc.

But I can't help feeling that many older people (and younger, too, actually, because they do it to them too) inwardly flinch at being called sweetheart and darls, with lots of 'bless yous' in between. Which is what nurses in particular seem to do.

My grandad's a grown up man with all his faculties; he's not quite with it at the moment after surgery, and the indignity of that position seems to me to made worse when, towards the end of your life, you're suddenly addressed like a baby. 'Alright darls, ooh you don't like that do you, bless you' etc - I know they're trying to be kind, and they are kind, but couldn't they just think twice about how they address people older than them, and consider that it might be a tad patronizing?

Or is that unreasonable of me?

lessonsintightropes Tue 16-Jul-13 19:20:51

Verlaine concur with everything you have said. You've articulated - extremely well - my feelings on the subject, having had experiences of my own and that of my now departed DGM and partner's DGM who has been in an out of hospital for the last few months. Empathy should be about the feelings of the person being treated, not the ego of the care giver which as others have stated is in a position of power. I know nurses do an amazing job but this can make a real difference to how the patient feels.

sagfold Tue 16-Jul-13 19:22:49

I'm with you there, TheOriginal, absolutely. And for what it's worth this nurse finds that post by Justkeepon nauseating.

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