To sellotape a bow to her head and have done with it?

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Whenever I take DD (8mo) anywhere, she always gets mistaken for a boy. This doesn't bother me at all - she's bald as a coot, never wears pastel pink (hate the colour), rarely wears dresses, is often in some of her brother's hand-me-downs, and let's face it, babies of that age are are often pretty andogynous anyway.

So anyway, I really don't care if people think she's a boy - it matters not a jot. If they ask 'his' name, I'll tell them (obviously girl's name), or say '"she's 8mo" or whatever. The past few weeks I've had people absolutely ranting at me, telling me I should make it clear she's a girl, I should stop putting her in boy's clothes (once she was wearing stripy yellow and brown leggings, once a blue and white spotted dress ), I'll scar her for life if I insist on dressing her as a boy, she's very ugly for a girl (silly cow, she's gorgeous), plus a whole load of other crap, and I'm fed up. I don't care if people think she's a boy, but I do find some of the comments quite hurtful.

Do I just shop with a load of nutters? Today, for example, she's wearing stripy multicoloured leggings with bows on and a bright purple t-shirt, and I still had some arse of a woman telling me off for dressing her in boy's clothes. So, WIBU to sellotape a bow to her head? Alternatively, if anyone could come up with a good response for me ("did you mean to be so rude" just escalates the ranting), that would be fab!

Tommy Tue 09-Jul-13 17:20:34

Someone once commented to me "oh how lovely - twins - one of each" when I was with my 2 year and 6m DSs.....
hmm

it's them - they're all maaaaaaaaad

TenToWine Tue 09-Jul-13 17:23:06

Your DD is gorgeous!

When DD was born, we had to stay in hospital a few days. I did not know if we were having a girl or boy, so she was in white or cream babygro (and probably would have been anyway even if I had known!).
Anyway, the doctor doing the rounds one evening said "Oh, she looks like a boy". She had quite a lot of hair too so she was clearly taking about her features! I was really upset, particularly with the comment coming from a doctor and when I was quite vulnerable.

ClartyCarol Tue 09-Jul-13 17:26:24

Bloody Hell, I don't know how you managed to stay relatively calm when some bitchone called her ugly. I'm sure I would've bellowed "Well have you looked in the mirror lately, HMMMM?" and stomped off.

Who are these people?! I said it on another thread: I have never come across these sociopaths in my day to day life. Rather disappointed actually.

Dorris83 Tue 09-Jul-13 17:37:24

duchess she's lovely, ignore the crazy opinionated fools that you come across in supermarkets.

Did have to laugh at the woman in the library trying to convince you that your DD was a boy though, Beamae - cos it's not like you'd know, right?

Maybe I just have an inbuilt nutter magnet hmm

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 17:41:17

She is super cute!

On a completely random thing, where did you get the blanket she is sat on from? I've been searching for one like that for ages!

NorbertDentressangle Tue 09-Jul-13 17:44:29

YABVU....what are you thinking of? Sellotape will never work.

You need no More Nails/Gripfill. wink

iamadoozermum Tue 09-Jul-13 17:45:22

I've also been berated for not dressing DD "properly". I had one woman say quite aggressively to me that she "can't tell what sex that baby is because you've not dressed it in the appropriate colours". I got the feeling I was supposed to apologise profusely and perhaps promise never to dress DD in a plain white sleep suit again. Got the same from the doctor who did DDs peds check at hospital hmm

conantg Tue 09-Jul-13 17:46:47

She is a lovely smiley baby and looks full of fun. I cannot believe that someone could call her ugly. If that had happened to me I would have gone into full aggression mode and informed the person that she was ugly herself and also had bad breath, BO, and an extremely low IQ and atrocious manners.And that if she did not back off quickly I would bash her ugly mug and make it even uglier.

FairyJen - at a market in Mexico I think, or possibly Guatemala, can't remember, so not much help, I'm afraid

I think it must be me, DS has very red hair, and also attracts weird comments. Which I find particularly bizarre as I'm not English and where I'm from, red hair is lucky (when I take him to visit family, people will stop him in the street to touch his head "for good luck", and give him a coin or a sweet).

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 17:48:15

If it makes you feel better duchess my do attracts nutters as well. You must have a look grin

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 09-Jul-13 17:53:14

I don't get it, who even cares if she's a girl or a body.

Why does the sex of random baby's matter to weirdos in supermarkets?

Lovecat Tue 09-Jul-13 18:06:53

Gorgeous baby grin

I was once crossing a road with DD in the pushchair, she'd have been about 6 months, dressed in a pink summer hat, purple summer dress with a pink blankie over her knees - a bloke coming the other way grinned down into the pushchair and said 'Cor, 'e's a right little bruiser, innee?' * and was gone before I could say anything.

Those wigs are MENTAL! As are the people you keep running into.

*I live in East London. People do talk like that.

FairyJen A quick google has thrown up this website , which has similar blankets. They are acrylic though, rather than wool / cotton. There's also these ones, if that helps?

selsigfach Tue 09-Jul-13 18:14:41

The gay baby comment is amazing/ridiculous/hilarious. Will dressing your baby boy in blue turn him into a rampant ladies' magnet? It's a mad world out there.

There are people like this out there. I once had a random stranger insist that DD and DS3 were identical twins. When I tried to gently correct her, she got quite stroppy.

McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Jul-13 18:17:27

Dd had a bright pink dress in a pink pushchair and I still got asked if she was a boy or a girl.

Some people are just plain weird.

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 18:18:49

shock and there's a sale on! Dp may just kill me grin

flowers op

I used to get this a lot when DD was younger and I tried not to let it drive me mad but sometimes it did. I HATED shopping girl's departments as everything had bloody pink glitter all over it, so I'd buy her boys jeans and trousers quite a lot. People always though she was a boy.

Ignore them, they're obviously mad, and to call your baby ugly!?

I'm slightly terrified by "baby bangs" though....<<shakes head in disbelief>>

ThreeBeeOneGee - something similar happened to my friend. An elderly lady asked if her twins were a boy and a girl - she said yes - 'Oh' said the old lady, 'are they identical?' My friend did this face - confused

Timeforabiscuit Tue 09-Jul-13 18:26:16

The dyes that make that lurid pink colour lower babies IQ.

You can say you read it on the Internet....

And from the comments your getting whose to say its not true smile

Scruffey Tue 09-Jul-13 18:28:34

Ignore!

If they say what's "he" called, say Harry and get on with your shopping!!

My dd used to have the same thing - in ds's old blue and yellow buggy dressed in some of his handed down tshirts. I didn't bother correcting the, in the end.

meganorks Tue 09-Jul-13 18:42:11

Often used to get people thinking DD a boy, but never had any vaguely rude comments. How about
'She's ugly?! Do you own a mirror?'
Other than that probably 'would you and your ridiculous opinions please fuck off'

Hasitfallendownagain Tue 09-Jul-13 18:48:42

I once had a woman tell me off for having DD in a blue baby carrier on my front, as apparently this was misleading people into thinking she was a boy confused.

I thought she was joking, so laughed politely, but turned out she was deadly serious.

StickEmUp Tue 09-Jul-13 18:54:49

there are lots of ways of addressing a baby when you don't know the sex

'well what is this little gorgeous one called' usually works.
you get the name, work it out, then say 'he/she is adorable'

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