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That this School Gate Mum is Rude

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threerings Mon 08-Jul-13 18:37:33

Waiting for my DC at home time today, I don't normally go into the School and wait as DC is at that "It's not cool mum" Stage. But wanted a lolly from the Mums selling them to raise some School Profits.
Anyways I saw one of the Mums who I speak to , As I don't really speak with a lot or any mums there, New to the school just recently. I go over and say hello to her and as I say it one of the other mums who I have not ever seen before says " O there she is the Lady of the night" to me!!! The other mum tells her not to be so rude, so the other mum repeats herself and says " What, I'm only saying she looking like a lady of the night"
Well it was awkward tumbleweed moment going on. I didn't know what it meant so just carried on talking. I got home and looked it up to see what it means, And I now feel as though she deserves a fooking slap the cheeky bitch. How rude.....

LimitedEditionLady Sat 13-Jul-13 07:21:59

Did you look tired?

kali110 United States Sat 13-Jul-13 02:56:31

Maybe she got you mixed up with somebody else? Either way she maybe spreading random things about you. Sounds like her friend was impressed by it if she was shushing her! Hats off to you for confronting her. Maybe she never got over high school and is showing shes top dog. By moving the cash box straight away just humiliated and demeaned you. Id steer clear, sounds like a right stuck up saddo!

kali110 United States Sat 13-Jul-13 02:41:11

Even if shes goth thats hardly an excuse.op shes rude. Take no notice. Iv had people raise their eyes when i go out, just for being rocker,piercings and tattoos. I take no bloody notice as theyre obv not people i want nor need in my life! Appearance shouldnt matter. My friends know im kindest ( sometimes too kind) friendliest person.
Also i think to women who was sent out of playgroind for what she was wearing, thigh high boots, so what? Shes picking her child up noones business what she wears.

DoubleLifeIsALifeHalved Fri 12-Jul-13 23:57:19

Well done! She has alot, erm, alot of something to come up with the weird reply... Strange strange strange...

SoleSource England Fri 12-Jul-13 21:27:12

Oh I skipped through thread and missed update but I am very tired tonight, sorry OP.

Good for you smile she is a bare faced liar!

Fuck her!

scottishmummy France Fri 12-Jul-13 21:23:23

It's sad that you have to endure such offensive rudeness op
Hopefully you'll get oppurtunity to meet some other nicer parents

CSIJanner Fri 12-Jul-13 21:20:47

Well done on confronting her - from the way she sent her friend away and acting and answering defensively, I think she was expecting to be pulled up on it.

And rightly so.

scottishmummy France Fri 12-Jul-13 21:20:19

Lets nip the mental illness thing,you are purely speculating
Maybe the woman is simply rude,boorish
Not all intolerable behaviours=mental illness

SoleSource England Fri 12-Jul-13 21:14:27

Oh ffs sad

Confront her, what if she is spreading rumours about you and your children hear about it?

Call her a racist!

scottishmummy France Fri 12-Jul-13 21:05:29

Good you had the confidence to call on her on it
I'd have been unhappy but too cluck cluck to say owt
No I wouldn't approach the head teacher,it's not a school matter

QueenofWhispers Fri 12-Jul-13 20:13:05

she's probably jealous or has the beginnings of a mental illness. It's not normal to say things like that to anyone, unless they have something you don't and you feel a need to 'shame' which rings true for both jealousy or mental illness.

I have nothing to be jealous of, but I have run into quite a few characters that say all sorts of things to me (not all at once, or else I would think it was me...but distant and random encounters that statistically can be explained...1 in 4 people do experience some sort of mental illness in their lifetime. (Sounds super high to me...but I googled it).

sparklekitty Fri 12-Jul-13 19:05:43

Jeeze, if she wants to see mums dressed as 'ladies of the night' she should come to my school. We had to send a letter out about it and everything!

CeliaFate Fri 12-Jul-13 19:04:13

"I'm sorry you were feeling that way, Thank you for bringing it to my attention" In other words, I don't apologise for what I said.
It's a stock answer to make you go away.
What an utter cow.
I can't believe someone could be that rude to your face!
I would speak to the Headteacher - it happened on school premises and if nothing else you'll get your side of the story in before that cow does!

Theselittlelightsofmine Fri 12-Jul-13 18:57:10

Well done OP smile

Well done for calling her on it. She sounds nasty.

Vivacia Fri 12-Jul-13 17:17:21

Good for you, she either sounds a bit scared of you calling her on her nastiness. I don't think it will change her, but I don't think she'll make you a target in future.

Cailinsalach Fri 12-Jul-13 15:28:53

You are so much braver than me, Threerings, and good on you for challenging her.
She sounds like a bully ( and a possible racist to boot). In my experience bullies are intrinsically cowards and it sounds as if you sent her running.

loveliesbleeding1 Fri 12-Jul-13 15:25:53

Well done you for not whacking her , now you have stood up to her she is sure to leave you alone .

JaceyBee Fri 12-Jul-13 15:18:28

Well done on standing up to her! What you said was assertive, not overkill and definitely would have let her know she can't behave like that with you. Perfectly handled! smile

YouTheCat Fri 12-Jul-13 14:56:56

What an absolute bitch! She knew what she was saying and who to. She'll not do it again though.

PrivateBenjamin Fri 12-Jul-13 14:47:34

"Thank you for bringing it to my attention." WTF?!? She knew full well what she was doing.

Well done for being so calm threerings she sounds like a horrible snide bully.

Buzzardbird Fri 12-Jul-13 14:47:10

So, no explanation as to why she called you a prostitute?

threerings Fri 12-Jul-13 14:18:20

Westmorland we moved schools at this short time due to last school closing and wanted to settle DC before September so would of made friends before.
So I bump into her and a Friend of hers, To which as I approached her she told the the Friend to go and wait for her over there. I called her out on what and why she said it.
"Are you normally so rude to people you don't know? "
"Sorry who are you?"
Are you xxxx Friend"? Not the Friends name at all she mentioned and who she was standing next to at the time, ( The sush Lady) But a totally different persons name!!!
"I'm the Lady of the Night as you put it the other day" "Why would you say such a thing"?
"Oh my gosh I didn't realise I was speaking to you, Are you sure I was speaking to you?"
"You called me by my name, So yes you were speaking to me"?
"I'm sorry you were feeling that way, Thank you for bringing it to my attention".
" My only feeling was how rude you were as a person and I would prefer it that you don't speak to me like that again".
"Thank you" she said, Then I walked away from her, Because at that point I could feel my hand wanting to rise and slap her off her condescending arse...

By the way... not actually bothered myself but just trying to think of alternatives to they think your a prostitue or they are blatant racists!

I might have missed it but why are you so new to the school only a few weeks before summer? Perhaps there are rumours going around about the reasons for that as its pretty unusual at this time of year for people to change schools

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