That this School Gate Mum is Rude

(151 Posts)
threerings Mon 08-Jul-13 18:37:33

Waiting for my DC at home time today, I don't normally go into the School and wait as DC is at that "It's not cool mum" Stage. But wanted a lolly from the Mums selling them to raise some School Profits.
Anyways I saw one of the Mums who I speak to , As I don't really speak with a lot or any mums there, New to the school just recently. I go over and say hello to her and as I say it one of the other mums who I have not ever seen before says " O there she is the Lady of the night" to me!!! The other mum tells her not to be so rude, so the other mum repeats herself and says " What, I'm only saying she looking like a lady of the night"
Well it was awkward tumbleweed moment going on. I didn't know what it meant so just carried on talking. I got home and looked it up to see what it means, And I now feel as though she deserves a fooking slap the cheeky bitch. How rude.....

frutilla Mon 08-Jul-13 21:15:35

...Or she mixed that up with Wilkie Collins' The Woman in White. Clutching at straws here....

BlueSkySunnyDay Mon 08-Jul-13 21:21:58

It sounds like you looked more vampiric than like a prostitute - do you think she meant that?

BlueSkySunnyDay Mon 08-Jul-13 21:23:12

Rude whatever as you didn't know her - if a friend said it I would probably find it funny.

morethanpotatoprints Mon 08-Jul-13 21:23:44

Maybe there are rumours because you keep yourself to yourself. Do there appear to be certain cliques, parents that always stand together and don't seem to talk to others.
I'd walk straight up to her and slap her, but then don't advocate doing what I do.
She sounds a nasty bitch who knew what she was saying and the other woman sounds like she knew why she was saying it.
I bet they have started rumours because they are so boring and have nothing better to do. Ignore them for the loons they are.
Or slap the bitch grin

threerings Mon 08-Jul-13 21:35:36

LookingForward I agree that it does indicate that she knew what the comment was for. Seen as she repeated it, she knew she had said it once and was told to hush but then she said it again but in a different style!!! Cant see it being mistaken Identity cos not many dark skinned Mums at the School and I am the new kid on the block!

LookingForwardToMarch Mon 08-Jul-13 21:47:04

Hmmm it is so odd!!!

I would need to find out if it was me, whatever the meaning behind it it can't be a nice thing!

badfaketan Mon 08-Jul-13 21:47:05

Just seen your skin comment.Is it some kind of horrible racist thing?

LookingForwardToMarch Mon 08-Jul-13 21:48:55

Oh lord hadn't even considered that!!!

If thats it then its beyond vile and rude would be a hideous understatement!

That can't be it can it?

threerings Mon 08-Jul-13 21:53:36

I didn't want to go down that route of the horrible racist thing. But when she blatantly moved the cash flow box away it made me feel very uncomfortable and like she was being a Bitch on purpose. I,m not vampire looking just an Afro Caribbean Mum with A mixed raced DC.

fuckwittery Mon 08-Jul-13 22:01:08

god, lady of the night, some kind of comment on your dark skin, I bloody well hope not. You have to ask the other mum what she thought, and I think you do have to call this women up on it
Did you mean to sound so rude when you called me a prostitute the other day?

LookingForwardToMarch Mon 08-Jul-13 22:08:34

Agreed

You need to speak to the 'other' mum aswell. It seems she knows what the other was implying/meant

At best the woman was rude

At worst she is a bigot that needs challenging!

Theselittlelightsofmine Mon 08-Jul-13 22:12:59

I really think your best bet is with the other nice parent or even asking directly to bitchy parent why did you call me a prostitute yesterday?

I'd ask the other parent what the woman meant and to put it straight, because it seems she knows what the other parent was trying to say and whether it was related to race, rumours going on about you, jealousy or whatever else it's a vile thing to say to someone.

What a complete moron.

PureDeadBrilliant Mon 08-Jul-13 22:36:27

Oh, that does not sound good.

I think that she is a loon, and possibly a bigot. Pathetic really.

threerings Mon 08-Jul-13 22:37:32

yes I am going to approach the nice mum and ask her what was all that about? Agreed a complete Moron.

HairyWorm Mon 08-Jul-13 23:00:57

What a dick.
You could ask her if she knows what the phrase means and does she realise she's called you a prostitute?
I'd go from the angle of 'you obviously didn't mean to call me that', to keep it a bit friendlier.

She seems to be referring to how you look so could easily be trying to refer to you as goth but getting it totally wrong. It doesn't sound like you were dressed in a way that could be construed as a prostitute so that doesn't really make sense. It might be that she's being a dick to you because of race but it doesn't really read as a racist comment in itself, so that doesn't make sense either.

Maybe she's just the local idiot.

I think the way you handled it was great. Just carried on talking and ignored her.

Either way If I were in your positions I'd need to know... can you speak to the nice mum and find out?

HairyWorm Mon 08-Jul-13 23:02:19

oooops x post.
come back and tell us what happens!

M0naLisa Mon 08-Jul-13 23:03:30

id have asked her what she meant

She's either incredibly nasty, incredibly racist or both.

Lora1982 Mon 08-Jul-13 23:52:07

To me it sounds like she was saying it because she rarely sees you. I don't think she meant it rudely but that's how it's been construed. People say that all the time round my way... (we aren't all prozzies just busy)

Buzzardbird Mon 08-Jul-13 23:56:56

Wow. I thought I knew some rude and ignorant people.
Ask her what she meant.

"To me it sounds like she was saying it because she rarely sees you."

I agree, but it is not something you say to a virtual stranger, a new mum at the school! It is something you say to somebody you have known a lot longer, so either racist/rude/judgmental, or over-familiar. Weird anyway. Especially as the others called her on it, and she stood by it, and added insult to injury by removing the cash away from OP shock

To be honest, I would go in and ask to see the HT to find out if there were any allegations of theft against you or your family, on the basis of this behaviour. I would be very keen to find out what has been said in school about your family. Or if your son is bullied. If he does not want you in the school play ground, do you think it is because he wants to shield you from something, rather than being an embarrassed age?

Sunrunner Tue 09-Jul-13 10:06:21

Hissy - is the school in a place beginning with A?

mrsshackleton Tue 09-Jul-13 10:08:17

She didn't know what it mean, she meant she hardly ever sees you.

threerings Tue 09-Jul-13 10:55:24

She knew what she meant when saying it, As she was told to hush and don't be so rude, Then she repeated it. I now don't believe it was unintended.
This morning I was on the opposite side of the road to her and another mum, And she looked over at me turned her head away and blanked me. Yesterday she had the nerve to say this to me and this morning she felt the need to blank me. My DC is not bullied at school, And has made lots of friends for being there for such a short time which we are both glad about.
Don't think any rumours of us going about as not been there long enough.
seems to me that she is a cow bag that thinks I'm a prostitute and a thief, And she has judged me badly without even knowing me, As I've never seen or spoken to her before.

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