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DH is being unreasonable [title edited by MNHQ]

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expatbrat Sat 06-Jul-13 03:27:58

To think that it's bloody ridiculous how much research is going into which Doctor to go to for a vasectomy and how little (none on his behalf) it was for me to go on birth control?
I mean REALLY... Get over it and get it snipped!
Happily married, 2 grown kids, no plans for any more (fingers crossed) Time of life I would like to not be screwing up my hormones and reach menopause in some kind of natural state. All he has to do is pick which Dr he would like to go with and in/out Bobs your uncle.
IABU to think Google is a bugger and should be banned from all Husbands on a quest for vasectomy horror stories?

Should add he really does agree/want to get it done.

mynewpassion Sat 06-Jul-13 03:38:32

YABU. If he's already agreed to get it done, let him choose a doctor that he will have confidence in.

Ubermumsy Sat 06-Jul-13 03:45:27

I'd rethink your thread title if I were you...

Rulesgirl Sat 06-Jul-13 03:46:54

Leave him to it. Thing is vasectomys are not always straight forward. There can be a lot of pain for weeks or months after and general aching in the balls. Let him do his research. If he is doing this for you and him then support him.

expatbrat Sat 06-Jul-13 03:47:50

Ubermumsy why?

prissyenglisharriviste Sat 06-Jul-13 04:01:42

'Special'? Let's hope you aren't using it as shorthand for special needs, eh?

I think 'precious' may have been more appropriate.

Wtaf does 'special' mean, here?

nooka Sat 06-Jul-13 04:09:01

I've heard 'special' being used to mean right pain. For example I arranged a course at my previous work and some of my team were really quite difficult. The course leader said they were very 'special'. I would suspect that it's this sort of meaning that the OP has in mind. Not sure if there is or isn't any relationship to the use of 'special' as in special needs.

ThisWayForCrazy Sat 06-Jul-13 06:01:37

A vasectomy is a major op, which can result in some unfortunate circumstances. How about you support him rather than belittle him?

My 'D'H refuses to have one angry

The fact I've had 15 years on the pill, 2 pregnancies & I'm still sorting out birth control is irrelevant apparently. Bit of a sore point in our house wink

Oh & I've been awake since 5 due to his snoring...wonder if I can do a DIY one on him grin

Sorry I didn't answer... YANBU wink

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 06:55:23

Reportedfor most offensive thread title ever

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 06:57:16

'special' is regularly used to be derogatory about SN, usually accompanied by a silly voice too

Ubermumsy Sat 06-Jul-13 06:57:32

nooks, I've only ever heard it in the context prissy describes. Even if not meant that way here, it seems an unwise choice of word.

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 06:58:30

Yes, meant or to,I dont want to read it

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 06:59:01

Grr or *not

Tee2072 Sat 06-Jul-13 06:59:26

Hardly the most offensive thread title ever but agree it's stupid.

It's surgery. Let him deal with it his own way.

Tee2072 Sat 06-Jul-13 07:00:26

But then again, what's the name of Justin's show? Something Special? Is that offensive?

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 07:00:31

Tis the most offensive I have seen on here

FanjoForTheMammaries Sat 06-Jul-13 07:01:44

Comparing name to a show for kds with SN is fatuous and obtuse.

I've said my piece, not debating it. That title is offensive.

yanbu.
and i didn't even think of the word special as being related to special needs at all.
i took it as it was probably meant.
that your hubby is being a bit of an arsehole.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sat 06-Jul-13 07:03:19

I think the OP may have meant "Precious"

ShaggingZumbaStylee Sat 06-Jul-13 07:04:07

It depends how it was meant I guess - "special" I have heard used in place of the horrible R word.

OR it could mean

"Acting like he is something special" = Acting like he deserves more than me

Lweji Portugal Sat 06-Jul-13 07:05:08

Stop having sex until he does it?

Surgery is surgery and why didn't you research when going on birth control?

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sat 06-Jul-13 07:05:14

yes Shagging

OP

I think if this is how he approaches big life choices (lots of research) then let him be. It is a big deal

Ubermumsy Sat 06-Jul-13 07:05:40

In this thread title's usage of the word, I certainly thought it was offensive.

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