To cringe when i see people wearing the 'wrong' colours..?(338 Posts)
Ok it all started a few years ago when I had my colours done, was told I was an Autumn, after hiding in black for years and although I was initially v unhappy with the diagnosis, I eventually accepted it and over time changed my clothes and ditched the black.
I now have a fantastic wardrobe of beautiful colours that really suit my colouring and all match. I often get compliments on what I'm wearing and I know it's just cos I'm wearing the right colours for me.
However, it's meant that I have become a bit of a colour fascist! I have 2 friends with similar colouring to me, pale, freckles, blue/ green eyes and reddish tints in their hair and for ages I have been trying to get them to ditch their black and wear warmer colours to the extent that they call me the fashion police and worry about what they are wearing when they are with me ( in a tongue in cheek way, obviously...)
Also when I see women wearing colours that really don't suit them, I have an overwhelming desire to go up to them and tell them ( obviously I don't, as I don't want a mouthful of abuse and its none of my business..)
But it bugs me! Yesterday I saw a woman with dark hair wearing a black and white jacket, a lime green jumper and cerise lipstick. It was just all wrong!! I don't know why it bothers me so much, but it does....What to do??
I know I'm late to this but I haven't been on MN for ages and this thread has reminded me of all the things I love and hate about it. From colour analysis to chuff munching, F&B and the usual class-oneupmanship.
And the artful juxtaposition of "Who the fuck cares about looking good?" with "No-one who does this shit could possibly look stylish."
I know all's well in the world
fwiw, I know lots of women who have had their 'style and colours done' and they all look stylish and individual, not a tropical jellyfish amongst them, but the main thing I notice is how much happier women feel about their own shape/quirks/size/colouring afterwards.
It's not for everyone but it really isn't about being told to wear just 3 awful colours. The Bridget Jones connotations are as out of date as artex and avocado bathrooms.
OP - shall we do all this again in S&B now?
I'm not touting anything, merely explaining. I don't think any cult is going to do very well recruiting with a single morning of advice in some old lady's living room. The personality assessment was just a questionnaire FGS. Given that my friend was an escape from a cult I think I have a fairly good idea of what that really entails.
Really there is no need to be so unpleasant. So I and a few others here wanted a bit of advice as to how we could buy clothes that suited us better. Big deal! In real life no one has even sniggered, and I had a lot of compliments at work on the clothes I bought subsequently (and yes there was a dress code, but 'smart business wear' is a fairly meaningless phrase really).
Hunting shooting and fishing? Sorry love but that's basically the definition of provincial. You don't get much bloodsports in the city.
Those of you touting this sort of stuff need to take a step back and take a long hard look at what you're saying, you really do. 'A sort of low key personality type assessment' REALLY? You do know that this is how cults reel people in? Never been stopped in the street by the scientologists offering free personality assessments?
A bit of tax deductable wardrobe advice for people in the public eye who are liable to be ripped to shreds in glossy magazines or the DM week after week is sensible (although even then - look at the hold Rachel Zoe had on her clients at one time. Not entirely healthy on several levels). But for normal human beings? If you work in an industry or profession where it matters the will be a dress code and personel will have rules. If you don't, you should under no circumstances be paying someone to put you in a straitjacket of their making that most people will be laughing at!
Oh, and I was at that point a total city girl, and I come from what most people would consider a posh family (hunting fishing shooting on one side, generations of academia on the other). My friend is American though
I had the style consultation/conversation too, and neither my friend or I were told to look like regional newsreaders. It was mostly talking about what overall designs suited our body shapes, what sort of fabrics we liked and the kind of style we wanted to portray/felt comfortable with. A bit of low key personality type assessment really. Same sort of categories as the OP, so I chose natural and dramatic and she chose gamine I think.
It was interesting as on the surface we look fairly similar: tall, thin, dark with pale skin, but the style and colours that we feel great in are very different. I like strong bright but relatively dark colours, natural fabrics with a soft sort of flow and 'big' designs. I don't like a lots of contrast, fussy prints (flowers etc) and I don't look good with round cuts. She likes sharp suits and strong contrast (so black and white with lime green and cerise might well look fantastic on her). Our colour palettes overlap, but not by very much.
For both of us we were at a 'reinvent yourself' stage in life so it was really helpful. I was brought up by a mother that felt thinking about what you wore was terribly vain. I wore mostly hand me downs as a child and I was a goth as a teenager so I never really played with colours/styles. My friend had just left a commune!
I think that colour/clothes stylists have a secret agenda to make all women look like female regional newsreaders. I am not a female regional newsreader; nor do I wish to look like one.
OP you lost me at 'scientific', I'm afraid.
Greythorne I laughed out loud at OP - have you discovered the science of homeopathy? Think you're going to love it. I'm afraid that this 'colourme' (probably colorme originally) nonsense is twaddle for the gullible. At least it's not as dangerous as homeopathy, other than to the wallet.
You're completely right. If all the bashers got their colours done they'd be the same as you - pissed off ar first and then eternally grateful.
Bridget's mother was not suburban, she lived in Grafton Underwood. She was provincial.
It was even in Bridget Jones, her mother trying to force her to get her 'colours done' in her suburban semi with her Boxing Day turkey curry nights. It is. And I view it in the same way I view net curtains and over cleanliness. Common.
Um... I'd love an avocado suite.
Chocolate brown would be even better
Trust me, coloured suites are coming BACK.
<charges everyone on thread a tenner>
Seriously Bridget - who nowadays chooses avocado baths and artex?
I drive a ford, but I don't care about cars.
Do have a nice handbag though In a lovely colour
Yeah if you say so Bridget couldn't give a fuck TBH
Like avocado bath sets, artex and driving a Ford?
Isn't getting your colours done whisper, terribly lower middle class?
Quirky people use clothes as an extension to their personally. Following rules, means you can not do this. Clothes are not a uniform (unless of course they actually are!). You should not confirm if you do not wish to.
So you can cringe all you like. I, however, will judge you back as being rather narrow minded and far too obsessed with what other people think of you rather than being brave and confident to just wear what you like and what you feel comfortable in.
Ok Toby I will wear what the chuff I like
Thanks for that point about needing pictures with us wearing everything dark. It was a nice idea to get our colours done for free though.
I wear mainly blue's, greys, whites and blacks. I have no idea if I look good or not.
Loads of people seem to get their colours done now - you only have to read S&B to see that.
Its not for me, to be honest, I think its a tad exploitative of women. And yes it does have Bridget Jones connotations.
But if someone wants to spend £100 to be told what colours to wear, well its up to them.
Not sure there was any need for the mean comments about the OP's size though.
I love clothes but would never offer an opinion on someone else's outfit unless invited to do so. Well I'd compliment them but would never criticise.
I used to have a friend who was totally preoccupied with what everyone else wore. I'd see her looking them up and down and she always had something disparaging to say. She was a colleague and other colleagues noticed it and she made everyone feel uncomfortable.
The problem is, when you openly scrutinise people like this it opens you up to judgement from others yourself. So make sure you always get it spot on, or they'll be gossiping about your own stylistic faux pas!
Me and DH do laugh when we look at our washing hanging up. His is ALL blue and grey and mine is ALL black and charcoal
Thanks for answering DarkWinter - I have no clue about it at all. I'm totally happy with my style though...
Mostly I'm waiting for the zombie apocalypse so can drive around in a tank and look like Tank Girl.
I wear black, grey, white and beiges. I have on white jeans today and a grey and white t-shirt.
I have dark hair and dark eyes and mid toned skin. It might be all wrong, but I simply can't abide brighter hues or strong colours on me. I have just remembered that I have a navy sun dress though!
I had to wear dark green as a bridesmaid not long ago. Gruesome.
Gertrude. Bloody hell! So what colours do u wear then...?
But I hate green, yellow, orange, blue, pink and red.
If I was told they were 'my' colours in any shade, there's no way I'd wear them.
<gathers uniqueness round herself like a cloak. A fuchsia pink cloak>
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