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To think that 'Big Head' is a horrible way to refer to a child?

(33 Posts)
PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 10:57:49

Dd is 8mo and my pfb, so am willing to accept I may be being a little but precious.

SIL has recently decided that 'Big Head' is an acceptable nick-name to call DD. Every time she sees her it's "hey Big Head!" angry

Now aibu to think this is horrible and DD will grow up thinking it's true?

I'm thinking I'll either start calling SIL the same name or suggesting that we save the nick-name Big Head for when she has children wink

So AIBU?

maras2 Wed 03-Jul-13 12:22:13

Silly cow and very rude too.Tell her to call your baby by their propper name.That has to be the nastiest nickname to inflict on a child.

imnotmymum Wed 03-Jul-13 12:02:38

Big Head seriously ?? That is awful just tell her and you not being uptight just the most ridiculous name to call a baby angry

aldiwhore Wed 03-Jul-13 12:02:16

To say it once may be forgiven, my nephew has a big head (98th centile, body much lower) and my sister and I have commented on it, but gently, without cruelty.

I'd never NAME the child that way.

Just tell her to stop, and if she doesn't start calling her Fat Arse or something so she understand how annoying it is.

Elquota Wed 03-Jul-13 11:58:32

YANBU. Not acceptable at all. Just say "Would you mind not calling her that please?" She'll probably protest but hopefully still get the message.

FannyFifer Wed 03-Jul-13 11:54:51

I would prob be real passive aggressive and say to the baby something like, "now big head, what's that silly fat arse saying now, oh yes look at her big fat arse, isn't she a silly billy" . grin

pianodoodle Wed 03-Jul-13 11:52:50

It's not exactly original or unique either. I mean, they nearly all look like "big heads" at that age lol

Mind you, DH calls DD "fat pants" which is the same thing.

For some reason it seems more acceptable when it's the parent doing it though.

Beeyump Wed 03-Jul-13 11:51:04

I take it she's doing it in an affectionate, rather than horrible way though. I'd be devastated if I was stopped from seeing my niece and nephew because of a silly remark I wasn't aware was causing offence.

carolthesecretary Wed 03-Jul-13 11:48:43

What?! Rude cow. In what way does she think that's okay?

I would start calling her big arse if she did that to a child of mine... Oh, and be too busy to see her.

PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 11:46:06

22, old enough to know better IMO, but likes to play 'the baby'.

Won't make it a big deal, I'll just say something about it being horrible next time she says it.

I loathe any kind of confrontation, but know I need to stand up for DD.

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:42:04

How old is she?

If she's not normally insensitive or nasty could you have a quiet chat away from prying ILs ears?

PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 11:32:34

Thanks for replies.

Yes I will tell her to stop, but just know in laws will all pile in, stand-up for SIL and use this as another example of how up-tight I am.

SIL isn't generally nasty. I think it's more wanted to have a 'special name' hmm that she calls DD. This is the second NN, the last one was calling her by the first letter of her name. That used to piss me off as well, but at least it wasn't horrible.

Gah. You spend months picking out the perfect name for your DC, why can't people just use it!

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:29:42

Haha Funghoul it's a SIL this time ;-)

Funghoul Wed 03-Jul-13 11:28:29

Oh god I'm a mil basher...
Hi jem blush

Chivetalking Wed 03-Jul-13 11:27:14

Unkind and unnecessary. "D"B nicknamed DC1 something faintly derogatory as a baby and it always made me angry when he said it. He'd have been the first to whinge if I'd done something similar with his kids when they arrived hmm.

YANBU

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:22:16

I used to call mine "seal pup" and "chubber" because she was 10lbs 14oz when she was born, she grew into it though (now 16months and tall for her age, plus she was my child so that's ok, someone else doing it, not so much. Would have cracked me up.

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:21:43

Yes, I think there is insecurity involved.

Maybe a mechanism to deflect attention/ criticism from themselves.

Or then again, maybe just plain lack of emotional intelligence combined with a mean spirit.

LookingForwardToMarch Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:50

I call mine stinky bum

But then she is only 4 months old

And it's generally around changing time that I call her it

grin

Cheeseatmidnight Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:40

Call her big gob next time she says it

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:23

They are the ones who normally have some insecurity am I right Salmotrutta? She was prob the bully at school when she was younger, just don't let her start on your baby.

Beeyump Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:54

What's wrong with having a big head?? Mine's massive...all those brains grin

Passmethecrisps Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:40

Yep. Just tell her to stop. My sister did this when a relative kept calling her baby "big pudding". Sounded cutesy but she had her reasons for not liking it. Big head is just horrid

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:20

And Worra is right.

Just say "Is that supposed to be funny? Because its not, it's just offensive"

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:16:06

Ah, I see jem!

Anyway OP - people like your SIL are usually the type who think its funny to make jokes about others then accuse those others of "having no sense of humour" when they get upset.

Come across a lot of those in my time, oh yes.

Can't stand that type of "humour".

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:15:49

Hi to Funghoul again! Yeah totally agree with Worraliberty, stop it straight away.

xylem8 Wed 03-Jul-13 11:15:04

It did make me LOL, but I wouldn't like it if it were my baby.Just call her Big Arse!

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