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To think that 'Big Head' is a horrible way to refer to a child?

(33 Posts)
PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 10:57:49

Dd is 8mo and my pfb, so am willing to accept I may be being a little but precious.

SIL has recently decided that 'Big Head' is an acceptable nick-name to call DD. Every time she sees her it's "hey Big Head!" angry

Now aibu to think this is horrible and DD will grow up thinking it's true?

I'm thinking I'll either start calling SIL the same name or suggesting that we save the nick-name Big Head for when she has children wink

So AIBU?

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:03:05

No, it's not nice.

Your SIL sounds like one of those "Oh I was only jokiiiiing!" Types.

Bundle of nasty laughs they usually are. hmm

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:06:44

Kind of made me lol but such a bitchy thing to continue on with. She could have gotten away with it once but not to name your child such. You need to tell her now not wait til she has kids as you can bet she won't take kindly to name calling.

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:08:51

It didnt make me "lol" hmm - but then I don't find "jokes" based on appearances particularly funny.

YouTheCat Wed 03-Jul-13 11:10:16

I'd bet she has an area of her body she is touchy about so start calling her 'Huge Arse' or 'Mirco tits' and see how she likes it.

You can guarantee she'll get all huffy about it.

I had a friend at school who called me 'Titty' or something (I wasn't that bothered at first but it was constant). Funnily enough she took a massive hissy fit when I started calling her '2 fried eggs'. wink

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:12:02

I didn't mean it like that Salmotrutta. It's just funny that she thinks it's acceptable behaviour. She seems like the bigger child to do it in the first place.

WorraLiberty England Wed 03-Jul-13 11:12:07

I'm thinking I'll either start calling SIL the same name or suggesting that we save the nick-name Big Head for when she has children

I'm kind of thinking you should tell her to stop fucking saying it

Funghoul Wed 03-Jul-13 11:12:40

That's horrible! I am biased though, mil just bought changing mat with the words greedy pig and little pig pictures all over it because my dd is a greedy pig according to her. Dd is 7 weeks old...

Yanbu!

xylem8 Wed 03-Jul-13 11:15:04

It did make me LOL, but I wouldn't like it if it were my baby.Just call her Big Arse!

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:15:49

Hi to Funghoul again! Yeah totally agree with Worraliberty, stop it straight away.

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:16:06

Ah, I see jem!

Anyway OP - people like your SIL are usually the type who think its funny to make jokes about others then accuse those others of "having no sense of humour" when they get upset.

Come across a lot of those in my time, oh yes.

Can't stand that type of "humour".

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:20

And Worra is right.

Just say "Is that supposed to be funny? Because its not, it's just offensive"

Passmethecrisps Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:40

Yep. Just tell her to stop. My sister did this when a relative kept calling her baby "big pudding". Sounded cutesy but she had her reasons for not liking it. Big head is just horrid

Beeyump Mexico Wed 03-Jul-13 11:18:54

What's wrong with having a big head?? Mine's massive...all those brains grin

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:23

They are the ones who normally have some insecurity am I right Salmotrutta? She was prob the bully at school when she was younger, just don't let her start on your baby.

Cheeseatmidnight Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:40

Call her big gob next time she says it

LookingForwardToMarch Wed 03-Jul-13 11:19:50

I call mine stinky bum

But then she is only 4 months old

And it's generally around changing time that I call her it

grin

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:21:43

Yes, I think there is insecurity involved.

Maybe a mechanism to deflect attention/ criticism from themselves.

Or then again, maybe just plain lack of emotional intelligence combined with a mean spirit.

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:22:16

I used to call mine "seal pup" and "chubber" because she was 10lbs 14oz when she was born, she grew into it though (now 16months and tall for her age, plus she was my child so that's ok, someone else doing it, not so much. Would have cracked me up.

Chivetalking Wed 03-Jul-13 11:27:14

Unkind and unnecessary. "D"B nicknamed DC1 something faintly derogatory as a baby and it always made me angry when he said it. He'd have been the first to whinge if I'd done something similar with his kids when they arrived hmm.

YANBU

Funghoul Wed 03-Jul-13 11:28:29

Oh god I'm a mil basher...
Hi jem blush

jemstipp Wed 03-Jul-13 11:29:42

Haha Funghoul it's a SIL this time ;-)

PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 11:32:34

Thanks for replies.

Yes I will tell her to stop, but just know in laws will all pile in, stand-up for SIL and use this as another example of how up-tight I am.

SIL isn't generally nasty. I think it's more wanted to have a 'special name' hmm that she calls DD. This is the second NN, the last one was calling her by the first letter of her name. That used to piss me off as well, but at least it wasn't horrible.

Gah. You spend months picking out the perfect name for your DC, why can't people just use it!

Salmotrutta Wed 03-Jul-13 11:42:04

How old is she?

If she's not normally insensitive or nasty could you have a quiet chat away from prying ILs ears?

PinkSippyCup Wed 03-Jul-13 11:46:06

22, old enough to know better IMO, but likes to play 'the baby'.

Won't make it a big deal, I'll just say something about it being horrible next time she says it.

I loathe any kind of confrontation, but know I need to stand up for DD.

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