I've posted here before about the trials and tribulations of my DD not waiting to travel to the USA this summer for an extended period of time. Unfortunately, with 2 weeks to go, and DD already on school holidays, we still have no firm arrangements in place.
Last night on the telephone, DD 12 - for the first time - decided to initiative and tell her dad that she didn't want to spend 5 weeks overseas in the summer but would prefer him to travel to the UK and spend time with him here so she can introduce him into her life. It resulted in a shouting match between the two of them and she ended up being both proud of herself for very eloquently putting her point across but at the same time, visibly upset by his reluctance to back down.
During the course of the conversation, it transpired that, for a period of 5 weeks, he only intends to take off 7 days holiday and the remainder of the time will organise for her to attend activity groups from 8am to 6pm every week day. Not only is this DDs worst nightmare but what's the bloody point? He's dragging me through the courts to increase his time with her on the basis that he only gets to see her in the summer yet can't even be freaking bothered to organise the time off.
I've looked after her on my own over the school holidays for the past 6 years and have taken unpaid leave to cover any period I was unable to take annual leave.
Anyone have any constructive thoughts on what I should do next? I guess I'll be in court any day soon but they aren't yet aware that he isn't going to take the time off if she goes over there. Thank you.
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ItsDecisionTime · 01/07/2013 13:56
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