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AIBU?

To think that the older retired generation have it too cushy ...

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suebfg · 30/06/2013 21:52

Nice holidays, large houses now worth £££, good pensions etc. (I know I am generalising her)e.

And the young/middle aged people can't rely on an inheritance as the elderly people may have to sell their homes to pay for care. Yet the elderly people did get an inheritance and are enjoying it on their holiday spending sprees.

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Souredstones · 30/06/2013 21:54

YANBU the generation that is aged 25-35 is screwed really

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funkybuddah · 30/06/2013 21:57

Nobody should ever rely on inheritance. I'm getting none and my kids are most definitely not.

I'm gonna spend every pound. And I encourage my parents/grand parents to do the same.

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PearlyWhites · 30/06/2013 21:59

What a strange attitude funky do you actual have any children yet?

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suebfg · 30/06/2013 22:00

I don't feel that way. I want to be in a position to leave an inheritance for my DC- I want their lives to be easier.

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juule · 30/06/2013 22:01

Yes, you are generalising and so YABU.
Not everyone who is retired has it cushy and not everyone who is younger has it difficult.

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MollyBerry · 30/06/2013 22:01

I'm not personally really bothered but YANBU.

The book by David Willets says it all The Pinch: How the Baby Boomers Took Their Children's Future

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AndHarry · 30/06/2013 22:02

I'm not relying on anyone's inheritance but I do feel a pang of envy when friends my parents' age and older talk about the 3-bed semis they bought for £14k thirty years ago that are now worth £200k+. £14000 wouldn't even have covered our deposit when we bought a modest home 3 years ago. The lifestyles that generation enjoy are unobtainable for anyone my age (doomed age bracket as above!) unless they're absolutely loaded.

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AKissIsNotAContract · 30/06/2013 22:03

YANBU

My mum keeps going on about when we move to a bigger house. We have a 3 bed semi and I don't think we'll ever afford anything bigger. She doesn't seem to get that it's not like it was when she was buying property that would double in value in a few years.

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Shakirasma · 30/06/2013 22:04

YABU

This is a generation who grew up in wartime/post wartime Britain. The younger generation's entire lives have been cushy compared to the childhoods the older generation endured.

If they have done well for themselves, or just caught a break, well good luck to them and I hope they enjoy it.

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WineNot · 30/06/2013 22:05

I always find it interesting on here that 'benefit bashing'/generalisations arent allowed but 'OAP bashing'/generalisations about wealth are

I know very few OAPs who are even comfortable, let alone wealthy.

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AndHarry · 30/06/2013 22:05

Saying that, more than a few OAPs live in desperate poverty. As always, those who rode the gravy train have had an easy ride and those who missed it have never been able to catch up.

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ManAliveThisThingsFantastic · 30/06/2013 22:05

YABU. Every winter elderly people die due not to being able to afford heating. The care they pay for may well be the reason they enter an early grave - some care homes are horrific! Not every older person has it so cushy.

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funkybuddah · 30/06/2013 22:06

Yes I have 2, I've never grown up with the notion of inheritance my parents don't own their homes, I'm unlikely to ever own mine. Why would i squirrel away money that I've earned for them to have when I'm dead? Maybe those from backgrounds where there is disposable income expect more.
My mother lived from day to day for the best part and I have plans for when my kids have flown the nest and they cost a fair whack.

But as that clearly makes me odd I'd best change my life plans and be bored and unfulfilled, on my deathbed wishing I'd done something interesting.

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PseudoBadger · 30/06/2013 22:06

Ha ha my parents would have it cushy - except that we are so poor we have to live with them forever temporarily :o

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ImNotBloody14 · 30/06/2013 22:07

Hmm, i think you sound quite entitled op. some might have it cushy, whether that be through inheritance or success during working life, but equally there are alot of 'retired' people who have had to stay working to keep oil in the tank and food inthe fridge and some who cant even work to do it and freeze during the winter. There are also a good number of working age people who are sitting very comfortably aswell, for various reasons.

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suebfg · 30/06/2013 22:08

And it's crazy that the wealthy ones still get the winter fuel allowance ...

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Itsjustafleshwound · 30/06/2013 22:08

Yabu and generalising massively.

Once again, it is something being peddled around about. Somehow, the elderly I know are not the well off, entitled people of which you speak. They may be asset rich, but are cash poor.

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NowThatsWhatICallANickname · 30/06/2013 22:09

I agree. My fil and step mil are in their late 70s, both retired at 60, own a nice property that is now worth a few bob and go off on holidays and caravan trips for months at a time.

I don't think I will ever enjoy that kind of life because by the time I retire the age will be about 80 I think!

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usualsuspect · 30/06/2013 22:10

Yabu , I know plenty of skint pensioners.

But then I do seem to live in a parallel universe to some mnetters

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stickortwist · 30/06/2013 22:10

Yanbu.
Not a lot we can do about it though. Aged 33 we can (just) about afford a house. However i'm still paying off student debt and will be for many years. A sizable sum goes into my pension too.... However the yr which i will be able to get it gets pushed further and further away.
Im pretty sure there wont be free bus passes or winter fuel payments.... More likely we will be paying to "top up" our nhs care if the nhs still exists

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Heartbrokenmum73 · 30/06/2013 22:10

Yeah, my Mum and Dad, who will have my youngest brother living with them until they die (because he's SN and will never cope with living alone), and are struggling to get by each week, and could never afford their own property, yeah, they're really leading a cushy life.

Over generalisation and talking out of your behind OP.

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Snugglepiggy · 30/06/2013 22:10

Feeling a bit grumpy today so would tend to agree,and I worry greatly for our DCs ( mid 20s) generation.
At a party last night and DH and I chatted to 2 couples in late 60s who I have no doubt worked hard and saved etc but all had had careers in public sector and seemed thrilled to bits with their retirements ,holidays and lifestyle and maybe it does sound a touch green eyed but as self employed and having ridden through yet another recession feel they have had the best of deals that younger generations could only dream of.

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Itsjustafleshwound · 30/06/2013 22:11

Once agIn, this op sounds like just another version of the feckless benefit scroungers with their big SUVs and flat screen televisions ...

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Triumphoveradversity · 30/06/2013 22:11

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suebfg · 30/06/2013 22:11

Of course, people have different circumstances but I'm talking about the general shift in society. It's getting harder for young people to get onto the property ladder, they have to pay university tuition fees, the working environment is far more competitive and stressful etc. Whilst older people have benefited from rising house prices, most mothers were able to stay at home (not having to juggle all the plates like working mothers now), blah de blah.

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