to not insist that DD wears mens shoes

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New head teacher starting in September. Big well overdue clampdown on school uniform. No problem with that, my own DC's have always worn "school" trousers etc, no daft hair colours, no jewellery and all the rest of it. However, my 13yo DD has size 12 feet and school have said that trainers are not acceptable. (my DD has worn plain black trainers for the last 2 years) Just to be clear, I haven't spoken to anyone about this yet, but DD tells me that her tutor has said that she will have to wear men's shoes. I have no intention of accepting DD's word for this and will make a point of speaking to tutor/ head of house tomorrow, but would IBU to say that I am not prepared to make her wear men's shoes. She has enough issues with health problems and her life is already made miserable by boys in school making fun of her "big feet", I don't want to make things worse. And no, I really cannot find women's shoes to fit her, I've been to handmade shoe shops (they only use pre-cut leather, so no help), I've trawled the internet.

Recently she convinced me that she could wear size 9's from Clarks, just to "fit in", the assistant said they would be fine hmm and despite my better judgement I forked out £45 for a pair of shoes that she wore twice, and cut her feet to shreds. I don't want to be unreasonable and fight the school unless it is necessary. Come on, what do you think?

GiveItYourBestShot Sun 30-Jun-13 22:00:02

Men's shoes are bigger in the heel than ladies. (Says a size 10.5)

This is only a last resort, but certain (specialist) shoe shops do mary-janes and other styles in very large sizes. For a particular demographic. Let me know if you'd like a link. I shop on them occasionally because I like high heels and many Big Girl Shoe shops assume tall girls want flats.

CeliaFate Mon 01-Jul-13 10:56:00

Something like this?

2lazyboys Mon 01-Jul-13 11:15:49

How about a pair of flossys? They are pretty much just a plain black plimsole and they are unisex, reasonably priced too, sorry can't do a link but you can buy them in places like office and schuh. Around £20 I think.

louloushoes Wed 30-Oct-13 12:45:12

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SybilRamkin Wed 30-Oct-13 14:01:42

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