Background: DS (8) has suspected AS. He finds socialising extremely difficult, is disorganised, anxious and seems to have a total lack of attachment or care towards things. He really wants something like a toy and then when has it (birthday/xmas) doesn't really how an interest.
So it's gorgeous today, I ask DS if he would like lunch and a play on the beach. He's very excited. Wants to use his snorkel he bought himself (poundshop!) a few weeks ago but has no idea where he's put it. We live in a 2 bed flat
He always complains about sand/ stones etc and wants to wear socks on the beach - I use to allow him until he would take them off the minute they got wet/sandy and walked bare foot - proving he couldn't possibly do it to be a bit of an exaggeration and so no more socks got ruined.
He has 'crocs' and sandals for wearing in water, plimsoll type trainers and school shoes.
He refused to wear the 'crocs' and sandals - "they are sandy" - they are not as they have been cleaned - and insisted on wearing his plimolls. I made it clear they were not for wearing in water and they would get sandy and as they are the only shoes he has that he can apparently wear he would have to wear them after the beach.
He wears them.
Get to beach - he insists he has to go onto sandy bit about 10 meters from where we were sitting and wear his plimsolls and couldn't possibly walk onto sand from where we are and let me take his shoes for him.
He plays, they get sandy and then he goes in sea with them on.
Comes back, TAKES THEM OFF, Runs back across the bit he couldn't possibly go across half hour earlier, runs across the sand and into the sea.
I went and got him, told him we were leaving and why, explained he now has NO SHOES to wear (at least until plimsolls are washed and dry) and have told him he needs to learn things have value and he must learn to care about things.
He hates me, I feel guilty as it is only a pair of shoes, but AIBU to think it's about the bigger picture and he needs to learn he can't just treat objects how he chooses at the time as it' about the bigger picture.
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to leave the beach because DS DOES NOT LISTEN arggggggggggghhhhhh
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youarewinning · 30/06/2013 14:22
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