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AIBU?

Does your massage therapist hug you?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:35

After treatments, my massage therapist gives me a nice hug. Part of his service or inappropriate?

AIBU?

If I was in his girlfriend's shoes and knew he was giving hugs to clients I would probably not be very happy!

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MalcolmTuckersMum · 29/06/2013 21:37

I wonder how many people actually have such a thing as a "massage therapist"?

Sounds just a teensy bit wanky to me.

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bulletwithbutterflywings · 29/06/2013 21:37

Mine does, but she's my stepmum!
Sorry, not helpful... It does sound inappropriate though.

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HollyBerryBush · 29/06/2013 21:38

I don't have massages, neither do I need a therapist. hug me and I'll probably kick your shins.

does that help?

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bulletwithbutterflywings · 29/06/2013 21:38

Well aren't you a charmer Malcolm Hmm

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pompeii · 29/06/2013 21:38

Does he let you get dressed again first?

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YoniBottsBumgina · 29/06/2013 21:38

My mum doesn't do massage but a different kind of touchy-feely "woo" therapy and she occasionally hugs her clients if they've been upset or something like that.

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NeoMaxiZoomDweebie · 29/06/2013 21:39

If you're thinking "hang on a mo...." then it is NOT appropriate. That's what instincts are for.

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ChaChaDigregorio · 29/06/2013 21:39

Sounds a teensy bit envious Malcolm ?

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TattyDevine · 29/06/2013 21:40

Mine used to give me a half hug (bearing in mind I was lying down on a bench) and a kiss on the forehead, and tell me I was beautiful and a goddess!

I no complain.

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fuckwittery · 29/06/2013 21:41

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TattyDevine · 29/06/2013 21:41

(Married female, btw, for what its worth)

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:41

Yoni haha 'woo' therapy!!

I only called him that because I didn't want to call him a masseur!

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HandsomeEddy · 29/06/2013 21:41

I'm with Neo. You obviously aren't happy about it or you wouldn't be thinking about it, so I'd say something or find someone else.

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MammaTJ · 29/06/2013 21:41

MalcolmTuckersMum

People do things in their lives in a different way to the way you do, that does not make them right or you wrong. Being nasty needlessly on here does make you wrong though.

OP, I don't think this is quite right. It obviously felt wrong for you to question it too!!

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 29/06/2013 21:41

Is it a yoni massage? Is he called Brian?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:44

Its when I'm fully dressed at the end. If he were your boyfriend, would that not annoy you?
To be honest, I love the hugs! Maybe he's just being nice.
Unprofessional or ok?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:46

It's not yoni and not called Brian

Well that's good to know that others have experienced this kind of 'added bonus'

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ChaChaDigregorio · 29/06/2013 21:46

Is he called Phil?

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:47

If this guy kissed me on the forehead and called me a goddess, he would need to call in someone to resuscitate me.

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:48

No not called Phil.

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ChaChaDigregorio · 29/06/2013 21:49

Mine's Phil. Always gives me a hug, cos he's nice!

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SnoopyLovesYou · 29/06/2013 21:51

Yeah he always gives me a hug now. Maybe just feels a bit wrong because I fancy him (and I did mention the girlfriend already.)

Should I change therapists for that reason?

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squoosh · 29/06/2013 21:54

I've never been hugged by a masseuse. If it feels a but pervy then it's wrong, if it's just part of their hippy love type vibe well then it's fine.

If you don't like it tell him you'd prefer a nice British handshake Grin

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NewAtThisMalarky · 29/06/2013 21:56

I'm a massage therapist. I have some clients that I hug - but only if they have instigated it. I wouldn't do it as standard.

what is 'wanky' about having a massage therapist Malcolm? I help people with their muscular aches and pains, reduce the symptoms ofchronic conditions such as fibromyalgia and ms, people report that they sleep better and suffer fewer migraines. Is that 'wanky'?

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WhoNickedMyName · 29/06/2013 22:00

If you can feel his hard on pressing against your leg, then yeah, probably a bit inappropriate.

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