To avoid using Facebook?

(33 Posts)
sewingandcakes Fri 28-Jun-13 23:00:05

I've been staying away from it for a couple of months now, as every time I sign in I end up depressed/angry/envious about things other people have posted.

Yet family members keep telling me about photos they've posted and seem surprised that I don't spend every waking hour more time there.

AIBU to lurk on Mumsnet instead? wink

HooverFairy Fri 28-Jun-13 23:09:10

YANBU, I hate Facebook because it usually makes me feel like shit. This is either because I'm envious or because I start thinking people are really pathetic and then feel guilty for it. I want to get rid of it, but I'm afraid I miss something...pathetic really. It's way better to lurk here smile.

sweetestcup Fri 28-Jun-13 23:10:59

Queue a whole thread of "Facebook is the devil" posts now no doubt. Look its a social network site, if you dont like it, dont use it, no-ones forced to.

AgentZigzag Fri 28-Jun-13 23:24:41

I quite like a bit of facebooking, but it sounds like you're taking it too seriously.

Maybe seeing it as a reflection of the things you want but can't have, like to do but can't?

Like MN, just dip in, get what you want out of it, then leave it (if it's fucking you off).

It'd be a shame to miss the piccys.

WorraLiberty Fri 28-Jun-13 23:29:14

I don't see how you can possibly be unreasonable?

If the website pisses you off then don't use it.

AgentZigzag Fri 28-Jun-13 23:33:55

Very good advice worra, but if people took it MN would be a ghost town grin

It'd spill over into RL, with lots of pent up frustrated women running round aggressively hoiking at innocents.

WorraLiberty Fri 28-Jun-13 23:51:07

It'd spill over into RL, with lots of pent up frustrated women running round aggressively hoiking at innocents.

And that in turn would boost the amount of threads started on MN by around 100% grin

"AIBU to wonder WTF most women are wearing their knickers under their chin and tutting at me?"

FoundAChopinLizt Fri 28-Jun-13 23:55:23

I get people saying to me all the time 'you won't have heard this, you're not on Facebook'

I say

'other sources of information are available'..smilesmile

I like my privacy, I don't want to emote constantly. I will never join Facebook or it's equivalent in the future.

MeSoFunny Fri 28-Jun-13 23:57:46

I'm a fb whore.

dappledawn Fri 28-Jun-13 23:59:54

Not on it, won't do it, why should I feel pressured? MN is much better! and deserves what free time I have, more, IMHO.

WilsonFrickett Sat 29-Jun-13 00:01:53

Well I love Facebook. And MN. And even oh wheesht now Wilson Twitter.

But that's just me. You don't have to.

(Although I add my usual disclaimer about not getting hooked on Ceefax - that is, stay one step ahead of the DCs, for their own safety.)

WorraLiberty Sat 29-Jun-13 00:02:31

To some posters, MN is just Facebook without the endless photos of what they're having for tea anyway grin

TheSecondComing Sat 29-Jun-13 00:03:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BackforGood Sat 29-Jun-13 00:03:55

Not sure why you would think anyone would think you reasonable, or unreasonable.
It's a resource which you can use a lot, glance at occasionally, or never ever use. Totally up to you. Totally reasonable to do any of the options confused

aldiwhore Sat 29-Jun-13 00:10:26

If you log onto FB and feel angry within minutes, you have the wrong friends.

Revise your friend list. Revise your family.

If at bare bones you still get angry, then I suspect those self same people would piss you off in RL too!!

Agree with BackforGood REASON isn't really an option if you just don't like facebook in general!!

For the record. I don't have extended family I don't much know on Facebook, I only have friends I know/have known/have seen in the flesh. I delete friends without explanation, sometimes it's a mistake and I refriend, mostly it isn't. If I didn't like what was appearing on my newsfeed, I would (actually) take notes and delete repeat offenders... most other stuff I let go, I roll my eyes a lot and you can often hear me saying FORFUXACHE very loudly when home alone, but meh. It doesn't get to me.

When it gets to me, I get gone, or get deleting. Saying all that... YA neither NU nor U.

AgentZigzag Sat 29-Jun-13 00:24:51

But if you get all superior about MN over fb you miss intellectual genius like this.

And great games like guess who kept everyone awake last night grin

usualsuspect Sat 29-Jun-13 00:35:31

I like fb.

I don't really care if you don't

cookiegem Sat 29-Jun-13 00:45:00

It brings out the worst in some people, people I previously thought sane. Dozens of photos of offspring, almost daily, or crap inspirational quotes. Those are the things irritate me.

Deactivate your account or have a huge cull.

carolthesecretary Sat 29-Jun-13 00:53:06

I feel exactly the same as you, OP. So much so I have deleted myself off all social networking sites.

I feel a million times better. I don't have the most exciting life but I'm actually very happy in my own little world. I really don't need to know the minutiae of my friends' lives, how many glasses of wine they've drunk tonight or the price of their new Joules gilet... <stifles yawn>

wonderingagain Sat 29-Jun-13 01:00:53

I think if there is something you don't like about facebook you just have to control it better. Limit the posts coming from certain people and hide or unfriend people you don't particularly like.

It's much better if you actually use facebook yourself, for sharing interests and comments. It makes my life much richer. Tonight I have spoken to two primary school friends I thought I would never see again, shared joke with a few people, shared notices about charity events, found out a jilted but deserving friend has found a lovely new girlfriend, and listened to some tunes and watched a funny video. I have also had about a dozen messages of support about something my daughter is going through.

There are a few people that don't know how to use it properly and get a bit heavy with photos or comments, but you adjust settings so you only see their important updates.

What I can't bear is the dozens of facebook friends who say nothing, do nothing, share nothing until they want to stealth boast about their expensive holiday. I'm getting very close to unfriending a whole lot of people who only want to use facebook to snoop on other people and don't share anything about themselves.

Facebook is about sharing. If you're not the sharing type, just don't go on it.

I like it both personally and professionally. But if you don't, don't use it.

prissyenglisharriviste Sat 29-Jun-13 01:33:02

I don't fb much. Prior to last week i saw it as a fairly pojntless and occasionally loathsome habit. But last week we had a local state of emergency which resulted in our wee town being completely cut off (roads destroyed in both directions and some internally), with about 45 houses destroyed, large swathes of town evacuated, and power outages. No one knew where anyone else was, where they had been evacuated to, who was safe, etc etc.

Literally the only thing that got the community back on it's feet was people attached to their cell phones using the intermittent coverage to update what was happening where. Three local institutions were broadcasting up to the minute news via fb.

I'm a convert, really. In fact, I was pretty much glued to it for an entire week. It was quite literally the only way that anyone knew what was happening.

But it'll be a cold day in hell that I bother to play candy crush.

mercury7 Sat 29-Jun-13 01:44:11

I think you just summed it up Wondering!
I am not the sharing type, I just never could jive with FB, thats why I dont use it grin

zippey Sat 29-Jun-13 01:47:05

There are plenty of people who hate MN, it tends to bring out the worst in some people too. Facebook is fine.

AgentZigzag Sat 29-Jun-13 02:12:46

In the way some MNers look down on fb, I've never been able to work out what it is about getting angry about things other people enjoy but you don't, that makes some people feel compelled to pour scorn wherever they go.

I probably do it as well with some things (I just never admit it to myself wink) but like my mum would get OTT involved in condemning people who ate in the street, or watched ITV (and not the Beeb), or whatever, why isn't it possible to accept the difference and not make any displeasure known?

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