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Man in chemist(61 Posts)
Gets right up my effing nose!!!
The chemists is next to our GP's practice, and I go there to get meds for dd's asthma or whatever.
I have two kids, 4 and 6yo and they're happy, cheery souls - they chatter to one another while waiting (but not in a shouty way) and the 4yo will look at the items on the shelves and might touch one or two items - but the older one is sensibly behaved and won't. Neither of them would ever take or steal anything though.
When 4yo was younger i.e. toddler - she may have moved the odd thing, like put a shampoo bottle a few inches to the left or something while waiting, or brought an item to me, and I've told her to put it back - she's never broken or opened anything, or stuff like that.
Well, there's this guy who works there, I'm not sure in what capacity - as I don't think he actually does the dispensing. He works the till though. Anyway - he is really OTT. As soon as 4yo literally lays her finger on something, like for a couple of seconds, he's there, asking me to get her to leave them alone. He's like fucking Gollum with His Precious. Then he makes a point of coming out with his stupid clipboard, and fiddles with the shelves, obviously stocktaking. All she's doing is having a look fgs - it's not doing anyone any harm, and what do you expect small kids to do in a chemist when there isn't always a place to sit?
So today we popped in to buy some plasters, and out he pops within a minute, with his I'm-an-officious-twat clipboard, and immediately goes to the shelf where dd was (she'd literally just pointed at, and touched with the tip of her finger, a Mr. Men gel pad). Grrr.
I was paying for the plasters two feet away, and hadn't even left the scene yet - it's so fucking rude!!! I feel like my kids, and therefore I, who are generally polite, and upstanding citizens are being treated like kleptomaniacs!!
Anyway, this has gone on long enough and though I've never really said anything to him about it before, as when they were toddlers I could understand the
raging paranoia cautiousness a bit more. (Even so, I've NEVER been in a chemists anywhere else, where they've actively been prevented from looking at or touching anything - imagine if that happened in Boots!). I can't decide if he's like that with all kids or just mine, as mostly it's other adults in there waiting. It's not like we are there that often, maybe once every few months - but gradually I've noticed he does it every single time we're in. It's not even funny anymore.
WIBU to have words, if he so much as touches his blasted clipboard again, within two hundred yards of us next them we're in?
Or maybe I could just double back and move/touch everything myself, each time he's finished stocktaking?
Or get as many of my mum mates and offspring to descend on him in one fell swoop and see what he does?
Oh I realise I could go to a different chemist, but it's got to a stage now where I am drawing battle lines. Officious Git.
Malcolm and Holla feel free to borrow my ADHD DD any time you want and demonstrate how you would manage this!!
why do you even let this bother you op
seriously just let it just wash over you
its not important and neither that that twatish bloke with his silly clipboard
Gather all the children you know. Have a 'chemist party' with all the children in the chemists at once. Film his reaction, put it on YouTube and make millions. That'll teach him.
Lessons in being PA from MN. <sigh>
Words, use your words.
Heh here comes the backlash...
Yes I know I should teach them not to touch - 6yo doesn't - 4yo is on the can't-keep-still side, and struggles with standing still if the prescription is taking a while.
This is when she goes over to the shelves and has a look or a poke - it's harmless! I'm talking about going as far as "Oh look there's Mr. Bump on a box!" [poke] and picking up a pack of Lockets and going "Can we buy some of these?" [to which I reply no, put them back, and she does].
It's not like she's emptying the shelves and rearranging them!
But whatever. Maybe I do need to discipline her more, or take her outside. He's still an arse.
At 4yrs of age and assuming your child is NT, they should be taught not to touch.
He does sound like a bit of a jobsworth (though obviously we only have your side of the story) but there's no reason for your kids to be touching things they're not going to buy.
Going to add "look with your eyes, not your hands/fingers" to my "speak with your voice, not your hands" I'm always spouting at DS. (he has communication problems)
He also has a problem with fiddling - and it is a problem when its not his to touch
YABU - your DD shouldn't be touching, she's not buying.
I doubt he thinks she's going to steal anything. There are glass bottles on the shelves, not only can it be dangerous for children to poke about and potentially break things, he'd have to clean up whatever lotion was spilled. Your children might not break things but other children do, it won't just be your children he asks not to touch things. I think you're overreacting.
I have spent my fair share of timing waiting in the local Chemists with small children and have always tried my hardest to stop them touching stuff. However, think about the situation differently. This country is rammed with small chemists shops which exist only because of the prescriptions they dispense, not because of the overpriced rubbish that your kids might touch. He is in business because of his proximity to the GP and his right to dispense.
It will not be long before this situation changes and we and the NHS stop subsidising him. If the local Post Offices can be decimated then surely crappy little chemists are next.
OK, I know they're really useful but he should realise that he is on borrowed time and pissing of the customers won't help.
It causes my DS discomfort when he looks into my cupboard of chaos and sees labels randomly pointing in different directions. So he organises it.
Oddly enough, my spices not being in alphabetical order doesn't bother him, as long as they are ordered.
Talk to the man,or his manager and say that his behaviour is making you uncomfortable because...
Don't make it into a feud.
whiteandyellowiris Oh don't worry it will fade soon enough into a minor irritation. It's just because it happened today AGAIN, and it's just obviously not a coincidence now.
If he got the clipboard out after everyone in there had picked something up, it wouldn't bother me (I'd just think he was a bit odd) - but it's offensive because he's singling my kids out even though they aren't doing anything to the items, just having a look/browse, asking what's this etc - at the most - quite often they're just standing by the shelves and not even touching, just looking.
I'm right by them, making sure nothing breaks or gets nicked and he treats us all like petty thieves...that riles.
I'm another one who has always said "you look with your eyes not your fingers!" She shouldn't be touching or picking things up.
eyes I can see my DS doing this when he can reach the cupboard. He moves things in the house because it just makes no sense to him that I put something where I did
I told the lady in boots once to sod off.
I was at uni so regularly used to go in to kill half a hour and buy a drink before lectures. I used to have great fun taking the most bizarre routes because every single time the security guard would follow me. (Didn't help I had jeans trainers and a hoody on most days). I would have a look at the perfume counter see if there were any offers on and not once did anyone speak to me! Once they even moved the tester pot out of my way !!! ( I swear I didn't look that bad!!!!)
One particular day I'd wore my hair down and was dressed a lot smarter because I was going to a meal with some friends and popped in to buy some nail polish and the perfume counter lady asked me if she could help and would I like a sample!
I told her to sod off and explained that every other day when I come in I look scruffy they send security round after me. So no. Just because my hair was done for a change I didn't want some of their bloody samples.
Could you ask the pharmacist who the manager is & 'check with the manager' if he has special needs-OCD or something-explaining that you not understand why he is acting the way he is, in the hope that they have a word with him or affirm that it's a common problem?
At worst/best? It will let him know you are aware of his oddness but seeming concerned. Or he might actually have special needs & it could change your perception.
Alternatively, I'd send in some other families and ask for a report back. Let us know the outcome please!
The thing is, it's not just where there are bottles, that he's super vigillant, it's everywhere - even with the unbreakable stuff like plasters.
And she doesn't tamper - just touches, if that. You would think that after a few stocktakes, he would actually realise that the things ARE in the right place and nothing is missing, and would stop treating dd like she's a menace to society, but no. Out comes the clipboard within seconds, out he comes, bloody well touching everything himself as he counts. Ffs..
Still. I will use the phrase "Look with your eyes not your fingers" with dd as it seems to work so well!
That's a fairly bizarre post, Suttonmum
The NHS is subsidising his shop, so he should be so grateful for customers he should let their kids run amok and use the shop as a playbarn?
God it gets better . If he has special needs...
He doesn't want to have to mark down stock as shop soiled after hundreds of grubby little fingers have left their sticky residue on it.
I seriously doubt that he is the pharmacist. Why don't you ask to speak to the pharmacist and just say he makes you feel unwelcome. Pharmacies like everyone else are struggling these days. They will value your business!
Och come on cat. We've all had 4 yos and they are sticky fingered, shelf display destroying nightmares. Op goes in every 3 months
yet still manages to get pissed off I hardly think they'll be weeping in to their prescription pads if they lose her custom.
Fluffy, this sounds like the man in the chemist I now avoid, but if it is the same one I'm totally happy to join in on a flashmob!
Are you in the North-West?
Ummm, I'm not sure what the problem is with touching things in a shop, even if you happen to be 4. I often touch things I have no intention of buying. Picking up breakables, rearranging a make-up counter, etc, is not okay. But: Mummy look at these Barbie plasters! Poke. That's fine. Such tactics from my own DC have every so often resulted in me buying said Barbie plasters, because now they mention it, we're out of plasters...
Another "look with your eyes, not your hands" here.
I've worked in retail and it is so annoying when darling children make new displays on the shelves while mum / dad looks fondly on 'ooh he / she is so clever building a castle'. that being said I don't run round after every child clearing up. I silently seeth and wonder why parents don't teach children to look with their eyes not with their hands. I appreciated the parent who said put that back please, don't touch etc
Frances No, not in North-West lol - there must be more of them.
solarbright - yes you're spot on - it's that kind of situation, and not as if dd goes along each shelf systematically picking everything up - it's just the odd thing, under my supervision.
To me it's all part of browsing, and we did indeed end up buying the slightly more expensive Peppa Pig plasters yesterday, because of dd saying "Look! Peppa Pig ones?" [points, takes off shelf and hands to me] - so she actually got me to spend a bit more! If this guy was a bit less anal, perhaps they'd get more custom.
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