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to feel a bit fed up with always being the bad guy?

(20 Posts)
JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 17:28:21

Now I know I'm lucky to be able to spend so much time at home with my dc but the constant cry of 'I want Daddy' from my 3yo is ever so slightly draining. My dh is a wonderful dad but seems to have acquired magical heroic status purely by not being here for the tears, tantrums and drudgery all day (sorry bad day!). He is about to arrive home to a heroes welcome and I just feel a bit irrationally envy .

So aibu and does anyone else feel the same?

CloudsAndTrees Fri 28-Jun-13 17:38:44

Yes, I've felt the same! It's normal.

LimitedEditionLady Fri 28-Jun-13 17:41:44

I have the opposite,im at home with my boy most but he does not want daddy because he is with me all the time so daddy feels left out.OH feels awful like he isnt wanted.I dont kniw which is worse!

Dackyduddles Fri 28-Jun-13 17:58:23

We have same issue as limited. I'm knackered. Dad is sad. Toddler will not have anything done by him! Argh!!!!!

digerd Fri 28-Jun-13 17:58:58

In the 'olden days', when we were children, it was always the dad who did the disciplining. My poor DM who used to sometimes be at the end of her tether with my DB organising exciting things for us 3 to do in the house < usually meant tipping up settee and arm chair to play chase the tiger and using the wardrobe door opened to wall to chuck all the bedding behind it so one of us could eventually stand on it to look over the top etc>. I remember her words said so often " Wait till your dad gets home!"

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 18:06:11

It is always me she calls out for in the night or when she hurts herself but otherwise it's 'daddy daddy daddy'. Mind you I know he is envious of how much more time I get to spend with them so I guess the grass is always greener

Onesleeptillwembley Fri 28-Jun-13 18:08:43

You're staff, Daddy is entertainment. wink Don't worry, it's normal, they soon grow out of ut.

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 18:12:57

That's exactly how it feels onesleep!

Squitten Fri 28-Jun-13 18:25:37

LOL - yep, we have that too. Let Daddy be the hero - while they're jumping into his arms after his hard day of work, take yourself off for a nice bath smile

raisah Fri 28-Jun-13 18:29:20

That's why I went back to work so I get a heroes welcome too but sadly dhs welcome is still akin to a full cheerleaders routine!

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 18:52:59

I work a couple of days too and was hoping the tables migh be turned on those days. Sadly not. I've even been greeted warmly with 'why hasn't daddy come to pick me up'. I give up!

ILoveFrogs Fri 28-Jun-13 19:08:21

YANBU, seriously OP I could have written that! It is ridiculously obvious to everyone how much more my DS prefers his dad, it is so draining!

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 19:47:42

I'm surprised there aren't more posts frogs. There must be more of us second best mums out there wink .

RudolphLovesoftplay Fri 28-Jun-13 19:56:59

I'm a second best mum to one of my DS, and very much best to the other smile fairs fair I think!!

LimitedEditionLady Fri 28-Jun-13 21:00:08

I wish my boy wanted daddy a bit more,i need daddy to take him out and do more with him so i have a bit of time to get jobs done not at ten oclock at night when im knackered!I think I'd melt a bit if I saw him running to daddy x

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 21:00:29

Oooh now this is looking promising rudolph. I have a 9 month old too. Maybe I'll be her favourite grin grin

gintastic Fri 28-Jun-13 21:02:29

Huh, I took my 3 to the school fete this evening. Daddy went to the pub. Then DS threw a strop because we forgot to buy biscuits from the cake stall to take home for Daddy. Who is still in the pub now, might I add...

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 21:35:57

That is rough gintastic! They know how to get to you don't they

gintastic Fri 28-Jun-13 22:17:45

Yeah, I was unimpressed. Although OH has just got home with pizza, so am slightly mollified!

JustPanicking Fri 28-Jun-13 22:26:30

Mine came home with wine so I am also prepared to forgive wink

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