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AIBU?

to want to strangle DD (16). She insisted she did not want to go to her school Prom until today - the day of the prom!

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Lionessy · 27/06/2013 14:09

As her circle of friends had decided they did not want to go, she decided she did not want to either. Was not cool apparently and they did not have a dates (probably because all the boys are scared of them!).

I went ahead a bought her ticket anyway as I hoped she would come to her senses. What teenage girl would'nt want to dress up in a beautiful dress, glam up and go out to a country mansion for a posh dinner and disco with all their school friends huh?

This morning, after leavers assembly at 10.15am, she finally caves in and wants to go . Cue me rushing around all morning like a blue arsed fly getting a spray tan organised, nails, buying the ruddy dress (luckily we hit the jackpot and found a gorgeous one), underwear, jewellery etc.

I am now knackered and want to go back to bed. Luckily DH has the day off (told him to book it off in case she changed her mind) so he can drive her to the venue an hour away. Everyone else of course, is going in a limo. DD will have to arrive in our old jalopy as she told the girls booking transport she was not going! She has just had a tantrum as to why we can't find her a limo at a few hours notice .

AIBU to want to strangle her?

One of her friends, who also was not going, has also now decided to go so her mum has had to get onto to the school as she was in tears about it, begging them to get her a ticket! Another friend (the ring leader, who decided not to go) was also upset about not when we just bumped into her in town as she now sees that she's made a mistake.

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Bobyan · 27/06/2013 14:11

She sounds charming.

I'd make her walk.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2013 14:11

YANBU. Blimmin' teenagers. Can't make their minds up about anything.

livinginwonderland · 27/06/2013 14:14

I wouldn't have rushed around and done all that for her, TBH.

Inertia · 27/06/2013 14:14

Crikey, you're more accommodating than me. Mine would have stayed not going, especially after a tantrum.

Bakingtins · 27/06/2013 14:15

You're completely U to be putting yourself out for the ungrateful wretch. She said she didn't want to go. Fine, end of story. She changes her mind at the eleventh hour? Tough, sort it out yourself. Life lesson learned.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2013 14:15

Has everyone who has commented got teenagers?

I would be doing the rushing about if she were mine.

GoldenGreen · 27/06/2013 14:15

Tell her to do that thing where you hang around while others are getting out of a limo, then open the door on the other side, go through the car and get out behind them and it looks like you were in there all along. It will fool everyone.

You are very kind parents, btw.

SauvignonBlanche · 27/06/2013 14:16

She sounds very spoilt.

ShabbyButNotChic · 27/06/2013 14:16

Yanbu to want to strangle her! Im afraid you are a much kinder person than me though, i wouldnt have rushed round sorting her out! I also wouldnt have the spare cash to just buy an outfit/tan etc at the drop of a hat. I think your DD should thank her lucky stars that you are able to do this!

BarbarianMum · 27/06/2013 14:16

I think you should stop rescuing her.

fabergeegg · 27/06/2013 14:17

I feel sorry for your DD. How's she going to survive in the real world without someone rushing around like a fairy godmother, erasing all consequences and undermining the natural outcomes that should be allowed to follow her decision-making? Are you usually like this?

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2013 14:17

Sounds like a teenager to me.

SauvignonBlanche · 27/06/2013 14:17

I hope she is very grateful.

HouseAtreides · 27/06/2013 14:18

Teenagers brains are crazy like spaghetti though, and as rational as a stung rhino. Me, I'd have found her a nice dress from TK Maxx and bugger the rest! Hopefully she will look back when she passes the hideous teenage stage and be prostrate with gratitude at the effort you made.

Tortoise · 27/06/2013 14:18

I have a teenager, I would rush about and sort an outfit if I had the money but not spray tan or nails!

OHforDUCKScake · 27/06/2013 14:19

Your husband took the day off in case his daughter wanted to go to a disco?

How very odd.

Are you in the UK?

Mumsyblouse · 27/06/2013 14:19

You have done a great job helping her at the last minute, but you can't change the car to accommodate her, so you just have to say 'look, I've helped you loads and spend loads, but if you want to go, it's our car or pay for a taxi yourself'. You've been lovely but this is now veering towards piss-take and you need to just be quite upfront that finding a limo at short notice won't happen.

QueenofallIsee · 27/06/2013 14:20

My DD would be the same - and I would tell her ' thems the breaks kiddo, learn your lesson..oh and if you stamp your foot at me again you will know about it'

Jinsei · 27/06/2013 14:20

I think it's lovely that you've made the effort to enable her to go, but she'd be getting a few home truths from me by now. Tell her to stop tantrumming now or else find her own way to the prom.

She sounds a bit spoilt tbh.

EldritchCleavage · 27/06/2013 14:20

Haven't got teenagers, so I don't know how par for the course this is. All I can say is that you are far kinder than my parents would have been-no ticket bought just in case, and 'hard cheese' when I changed my mind.

Bit surprised at spray tan and nails done though-is this routine now, even for 16 year olds? Kids of today, eh?

FunnysInLaJardin · 27/06/2013 14:20

YANBU for wanting to kill her, not at all!

BarbarianMum · 27/06/2013 14:20

More fool you then. I expect mine to be a hell of a lot more self-reliant by 16 and if they are not they will suffer the consequences (bearing in mind that we are talking about a teenage prom not an A level exam or medical emergency).

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Mama1980 · 27/06/2013 14:20

My dd is 15 I maybe would have got her a dress, but sod the rest! And certainly only if she was grovelling and not throwing a tantrum.

AnAirOfHope · 27/06/2013 14:20

Um just saying, could the three girls chip in and rent a posh car for your dh to drive them there? Its short notice but if the car rental place has a suitable car its would be fun!

Startail · 27/06/2013 14:22

You are a very kind and very wise mum.

I am forever grateful school managed to get DD on a trip she'd avoided, being billy no mates.

She had a brilliant time, gained a degree of confidence and has some amazing memories.

Sometimes we have to remember they are still young and don't think through all the angles.

As for the limo, I'm afraid she'll be out of luck, we couldn't get one for Y6 ages before, They had a minor tantrum too.

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