To be annoyed by all parents of 16-18yos

(69 Posts)
MortifiedAdams Thu 27-Jun-13 13:31:08

Who insist on calling up their DCs place of work / potential place of work to do the following:

*Ask about job vacancies
*Ask how to apply for jobs, what the pay is, hours and holiday
*Ask how their dc did at interview / when their dc will hear back from HR
*Ask how their dc will get to work in the snow / on the bus etc
*Ring in sick for their dc
*Call in to speak to management about shifts, hours worked etc

IN short, everything a person actually IN (or applying for) the job should be doing.

Part of working is being responsible for doung this not having Mum and Dad doing it for you. And I dont even work in HR, must be worse for them!!

Myliferocks Thu 27-Jun-13 13:32:29

I have a 17 year old and I have never done that.
I'm evil and make her do it! grin

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Thu 27-Jun-13 13:33:44

I don't mind at all.

It narrows down the applicants quite nicely grin

Gunznroses Thu 27-Jun-13 13:35:16

I agree with everything except 'ringing in sick for their dc' if dc is sick what's wrong with parents or friend whatever ringing in on their behalf?

ilovexmastime Thu 27-Jun-13 13:35:46

That's just weird, isn't it? I had a part time job from 14 onwards and my parents never got involved, in fact I'd probably have died of embarrassment if they had.

Remotecontrolduck Thu 27-Jun-13 13:36:19

Do people actually do this?? Really?? shock

Is it common? DD is 19 and would think I was insane if I tried that!

londongirlatheart Thu 27-Jun-13 13:37:44

I have an 18 year old. In two years I have rung work once for her (she was struggling to keep out of bathroom long enough to ring in herself!). Always had to ring college as college expected the parents to - showed absence was legit.

I can't understand why parents do this - except when someone is genuinely too poorly to call in sick. Or as my mum did for me - called in sick when I had the opportunity to go to Paris for the weekend but had one shift in a supermarket to do. grin

Crinkle77 Thu 27-Jun-13 13:38:42

YANBU. there are people like this who i work with and always wonder why they are interfering. When I was a teenager my mum would make me contact people and find info out for ourselves. I hated it and would ask her to do it but she would refuse saying i had to learn to do things myself. i thought she was being mean but now i can see that she was teaching me to be independent.

FudgeyCookie Thu 27-Jun-13 13:38:46

My mums rung in sick for me a couple of times, once I had tonsillitis and had no voice so couldn't speak, and the second time I was huggin the toilet and couldn't. I think in those circumstances it's acceptable.

My mums actually for me both of my jobs - both bosses were talking to her about maybe employing new staff, my mum suggested me, I got casually interviewed as they knew me already and got the job both times. She would never call somewhere for me though, to ask for any vacancies, pay etc

Remotecontrolduck Thu 27-Jun-13 13:39:11

Obviously when too sick to actually do it it's clearly reasonable!

londongirlatheart Thu 27-Jun-13 13:40:03

Gunz - always think that if they ring in sick themselves with a cold etc at least work can hear how ill the sounds.

kotinka Thu 27-Jun-13 13:41:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

HongkongDreamer Thu 27-Jun-13 13:42:36

My mum called in and told somehwere I quit cause of how they were treating me, glad she did looking back on it. Was 17 at the time.

kotinka Thu 27-Jun-13 13:42:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

No, I have never done this, dd got her job by walking round and giving her CV into every shop she saw and it paid off. I d never ring for her, all part of the adjustment period for her I believe from child to adult. (obvioulsy is she was too ill to ring herself, I would)

But, I do know parents who would.

I worked with a 17 year old girl whose parents put in her CV, drove her to the interview, chased up the interview, chased up the interview again, got no response... Then, came into the shop in person and complained that they'd had no response when chasing up the interview. Then when she got the job (to shut them up), they phoned up to arrange everything for her to start.

She was a really down-to-earth, lovely girl who seemed really embarrassed about being famous for the girl who got the job because her parents were pushy arseholes.

Not always the teenager's fault!

Gunznroses Thu 27-Jun-13 13:53:02

londongirl- I don't think its for work to determine how ill someone sounds, they've just got to take it on trust, though I do see you point.

Kotinka - Precisely why there's always a 'croaky' sounding voice when the sick call is made wink. Croaky doesnt always equal sick, sometimes its just that...a 'croaky' sounding voice. I do a really good one by the way grin

AmyFarrahFowlerCooper Thu 27-Jun-13 13:56:47

I used to beg my mum to phone in sick for me but she always refused because she HATED it when teenagers used to get their parents to ring in sick to her.

solarbright Thu 27-Jun-13 13:57:43

I have never been so ill with a vomiting bug that I could not make a 2-minute phone call to my employer - and I've had some severe bugs. Unless you are unconcious or have lost the ability to speak (in which case, text or email), you need to make the call yourself. It does look bad if mum/partner/friend calls instead.

WitchOfEndor Thu 27-Jun-13 14:02:12

My DAunt does this for my DNephew. She also makes his sandwiches, washes and irons his clothes and is worried about what will happen when she and DUncle are dead because DNephew will have to cope with running a house on his own. He is 29. She is 60 this year so in all likelyhood he will be in his 40s ( and probably still at home) when this happens.

She can't see that she is doing him no favours at all.

StuntGirl Thu 27-Jun-13 14:03:45

I agree with everything except 'ringing in sick for their dc' if dc is sick what's wrong with parents or friend whatever ringing in on their behalf?

It's often in your contract or employee handbook that you must personally call in yourself.

MortifiedAdams Thu 27-Jun-13 14:04:03

I took a call this morning:

"Hi Im calling to see if you take on Students over the summer"
"Yes, we have a selection of jobs avaliable on our website, and applications can be made there. We have casual contracts and permanent ones"
"Yes but do you take students on for the summer?"
"Yes. We take all applications into consideration. If yiu go.onto the website you can apply from there"
"Oh right, I will have a look for my son tonight"

«phone down...bangs head on desk»

I would never do any of these things for my teenagers, as long as they are not in hospital they can phone in for themselves, the most I have done is check their C.V and print it off for them.

Gunznroses Thu 27-Jun-13 14:34:31

Stuntgirl - I know, but that's why I'm querying it. Taking solarbrights point, there are may different types of illnesses that may prevent you from ringing in personally, i don't see why having the sick bug would prevent you from ringing, as you said, it only takes a minute and you dont usually continue being sick without a break. However i have had period pain where i was screaming for help and rolling on the floor, there was no way i could ring in personally, or when i lost my voice for 3 days, or when i had malaria, or when my bf got hit in the jaw with a hockey stick etc

I think where possible you should ring in personally but if you've been up in pain all night and have finally managed to fall asleep at 6am or in such a condition such as to render you incapable of ringing i don't think its unreasonable for someone to ring in on your behalf and don't see why it should be frowned upon.

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