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To want her to stop asking (and I have already asked her!)

(65 Posts)
Souredstones Thu 27-Jun-13 13:01:46

Colleague of mine has, just now, asked me for the umpteenth time when I will be announcing a new arrival. I'm not pregnant and struggling with ttc and its driving me mad.

Her justification is that I am a newly wed and its expected of me now to have another baby (desperately want one)

She's making me really angry now with her constant asking

All strategies welcome (as long as stabbing her with a pen isn't one...I'm considering that one now)

Pilgit Fri 28-Jun-13 15:13:34

if you can do it effectively -burst into tears, create a scene whilst explaining loudly through the sobs that the stress of peoples expectations is a factor in stopping you being able to conceive. Alsolike threatening her with HR.

RalphtheTimid Fri 28-Jun-13 15:36:43

I wonder what Freud would have made of your interest in my reproductive system.
Mmm yes definitely food for thought don't you think.

Or: 'I don't answer rude, nosy questions from stupid people.' Said with a bright smile.

wildfig Fri 28-Jun-13 17:28:22

I always wish I had that 1930s-ish dazzling polite/crushing way of saying, 'Gracious, what an odd question!' for situations like this.

Although coward that I am I sort of agree with those suggesting she may have no idea why it's an upsetting question, in which case you should probably say, 'I don't want to talk about/didn't you know pressure from other people is proven to impede conception?'. And THEN you can resort to freezing Mitfordism.

I like Tangled's response.

ZillionChocolate Fri 28-Jun-13 17:57:21

Midnight Scribbler's made me laugh.

If it were the first time she'd asked, I'd have gone for "don't you think that's an intrusive question and wholly inappropriate for a colleague?". Given that she keeps on at you, be blunt.

Souredstones Fri 28-Jun-13 19:45:30

I am loving these responses and will have to put them into use...saying that...guess what we got yesterday...

Here's hoping it sticks and runs the course!

I'm still going to give her a mouthful if she asks again though!!

ChasedByBees Fri 28-Jun-13 20:19:22

Oooh!! Doesn't want to assume.... But ooh!

Just to be absolutely clear - what are you hoping sticks?

Shitsinger Fri 28-Jun-13 20:24:24

"Its none of your business, repeat, repeat ,repeat ...

Roshbegosh Fri 28-Jun-13 20:27:50

You have to work together though, I think a less confrontational way than Hecsy's would be better. You can be blunt and clear without threatening her.

LEMisdisappointed Fri 28-Jun-13 20:29:11

"Stop fucking asking me, trust me, when i get pregnant, you will be the last to know"

greenfolder Fri 28-Jun-13 20:51:59

oohhh fingers crossed!

however, if you share a line manager- tell them to tell her to stfup

i am indeed a line manager and i have twice had to tell busy bodies who should know better to butt out of these kind of converstations.

that is one thing you never ask or refer to in any way shape or form.

Souredstones Sat 29-Jun-13 08:33:36

I think I will have a word with my line manager if she doesn't stop it. But I will feel a bit of a mug when I start to show! grin

Yeah I'm still on a high from my bfp.

ChasedByBees Sat 29-Jun-13 09:32:06

Yay for BFP!! I didn't want to ask outright after this thread. grin

Good idea to have a word with your line manager.

Dontlookbehindyou Sat 29-Jun-13 09:41:10

Congratulations on your bfp!
I'm always being asked when ill be having a little brother or sister for ds (2) I just tell then the truth and they shut up pretty quick and never ask again.
If love another one but can't have any more or it'll put me in a wheelchair, it wouldn't be fair on ds or the hypothetical new baby.

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