to wonder if putting our children first is always wise?

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KatyTheCleaningLady Wed 26-Jun-13 09:37:25

I like to start a discussion I in the morning and then go to work so I have something to pop in on during the day. grin

Ok, the other day I felt guilty because I was physically exhausted and so blew off sports day in order to rest before a busy evening ferrying kids about.

I felt guilty because I felt like it's wrong not to suffer any inconvenience or discomfort for even the most trivial of my children's pleasure. I "should" suck it up and stand around in the cold watching races just so my kids see me there. But, why? How is it really good for an exhausted mother with aching feet to do this? Isn't it better for mum to be rested and happy at tea time?

Obviously, some things are so important that you carry on, regardless. I didn't cancel a client in order to rest: the money is important to the family. And, if the event had been something truly important, then it would be a different matter. I would stand cold and aching if it was truly important to the child's well being.

I see a lot of threads on here from exhausted, miserable mums who are burnt out and resentful about their lives. Is some of that due to prioritising the family over their own well being?

TantrumsAndBalloons Fri 28-Jun-13 21:26:00

oldraver did you actually realise what you just said?
Honestly?
Are you not very well? Because I cannot imagine why you would say a thing like that tbh.

MrsDeVere Fri 28-Jun-13 21:28:17

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MrsDeVere Fri 28-Jun-13 21:32:28

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libertine73 Fri 28-Jun-13 21:51:24

oldraver that was a shitty thing to say.

scottishmummy Fri 28-Jun-13 21:57:48

Actually every day lived with bereavement is a what if
And thats what really hurts
The reality of knowing its real

Is everyone OK ?

((( Hugs all round, and goodnight all )))

MrsDeVere Fri 28-Jun-13 22:29:39

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I don't know either MrsDeV, but as always your posts came right from the heart of experience and were an education to all. I wondered if she had also lost a child as she said "we" ?

Was remembering Billie again the other day when I saw a beautiful butterfly in the garden x Thinking what a wonderful girl to leave you with that thought thanks You must be very proud of her.

MrsDeVere Fri 28-Jun-13 22:41:26

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Completely inadequate words to try to say something about the wonderful strength and thoughtfulness of your beautiful girl, MrsDeV.

Was so moved to hear your butterfly story from Billie thanks

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