To park over my neighbours drive

(134 Posts)
asianbabe Tue 25-Jun-13 21:53:34

Just really wanted some opinions really. Today I parked over my neighbour's drive. There was a reason for me doing this I wasn't being a total arse.

Basically I have two very young children and live on a road where every other house has a drive as we live by a station many people tend to park their cars on my road all day and go off to work. Unfortunately, I don't have a drive.

I've been getting increasingly annoyed with my neighbour who lives across the road for the past year she has only parked her car in her drive a few times instead she chooses to park outside her house on the road. i think she does this so that her visitors are guaranteed a parking spot on her drive.

Anyway I came home from shopping today and was unable to find parking on my road. With Two young kids under the age of 2 and 20 shopping bags i Saw her car not on her drive and just got so annoyed that I parked over her drive. She came out we exchanged words I told her how selfish she was being and she told me to move my car. I informed her that I would not move the car until a spot became available to park in and if she was so concerned to park her car in her drive and I would park my car where her car was.

To cut a long story short she refused and said she was expecting visitors so they could use her drive.

I left my car there over an hour until a parking spot became available then I moved my car.

Just to add she has no kids and leaves her car on the road for weeks at a time so taking up a parking spot.

I told a friend about what I did and she said i was being unreasonable. Just wondered if this is normal behaviour got those that have drives or am I a total bitch hmm

MaybeBentley Tue 25-Jun-13 22:28:24

But it is only the OP's opinion that she is not parking on her own drive to keep it free for visitors " I think she does this so that her visitors are guaranteed a parking spot on her drive." So why is everyone getting so judgemental about her choosing to park on the road (where she has just as much right to park as everyone else) and have legal access to the drive she paid for?

toffeelolly Tue 25-Jun-13 22:30:18

Yabu you were out of order!

MaybeBentley Tue 25-Jun-13 22:30:38

Re-reading my last post I may have been unclear ... I was asking why those criticising the lady the OP is moaning about are being judgmental, not people telling the OP she IBU>

50BalesOfHay Tue 25-Jun-13 22:31:02

Buy a house with parking if you need it that badly. Don't be chippy with neighbours.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 25-Jun-13 22:32:37

Yabu.

You having young children isn't her problem.

myron Tue 25-Jun-13 22:36:14

YABU. I would be pissed off that my visitors/family/DH could not access my own driveway because my neighbour deliberately blocked it due to your reasoning. You are blocking access into the driveway so you are actually making the car parking problem worse - I would think that you were a crazy nutter!

ChairmanWow Tue 25-Jun-13 22:38:27

YANBU. If anyone is entitled it's your neighbour. She lives on a street where parking spaces are hard to find and takes one when she has a perfectly good drive? Totally selfish. Good for you for taking her on. She needs to show a bit more consideration for her neighbours.

Next time park in her drive when she hogs a space in the road grin

AlbertoFrog Tue 25-Jun-13 22:38:59

Sorry OP but YABU.

Good luck with moving to a house with a driveway btw. Myself and my neighbour have shared access (width of two cars) and each have a driveway which can fit 4 cars at a push. Unfortunately my neighbours cannot park their cars properly and constantly block the access. They have even gone so far as to park on our driveway. Twice overnight. We used to ask nicely for them to move but have been sworn at on more than one occasion even though they are in the wrong and I now refuse to enter into any conversation with them.

Police claim it's a civil matter. The local authority will only offer mediation.

I hanker after the days I stayed in an upstairs flat grin

eurozammo Tue 25-Jun-13 22:39:09

YABU. If you want guaranteed parking near your house, buy/rent a house with a drive.

foreverondiet Tue 25-Jun-13 22:39:57

Can you not get a drive?

TidyDancer Tue 25-Jun-13 22:42:20

How can you possibly think this was anything near reasonable?!

You are fortunate your neighbour is nice enough to not have you towed.

You are not a very nice neighbour at all.

BrianTheMole Tue 25-Jun-13 22:43:23

YABU. She is allowed to park on the road as are you, but you are not allowed to park over someones drive. You don't own the road and you can't dictate who parks there.

asianbabe Tue 25-Jun-13 22:44:07

Ok I guess Iwbu then. To put it into context the council are putting residents permits on the surrounding roads due to the problems around parking ours is the last road to be done that's why over the last week or so every one is parking here.

I did apply to have a drive but this was refused as it would have a negative impact on the ever problematic parking issue.

I've lived on this street for over 7 years and never done anything like this. It's only since being on maternity leave that I have noticed that people on my street who have drives do this. I'm not saying they have no right to do this but just it's becoming the norm .

TheOldestCat Tue 25-Jun-13 22:44:14

YABU, but you've already been told that loud and clear! So I'll offer some support - I know exactly how you feel as we live in a terrace with on-street parking. The house opposite is the only one with a drive - they have two spaces free on it, but take up a space on the road with their car, so they hire out one space and keep the other free for visitors.

So I've had to park miles away and lug shopping and small children (particularly annoying when I had a toddler and newborn) home. My neighbours (who are lovely and friendly, by the way) have often watched me do this in the rain and waved as I've struggled by their window. grin

Them's the breaks, I'm afraid. Your neighbours are within their rights legally and while morally it's a pisser, there's nothing you can do.

But wanted to let you know you are not alone and I can see where you're coming from (but don't park in front of their drive!).

southeastastra Tue 25-Jun-13 22:47:39

i'd have done the same, i know it's 'unreasonable' but so is she if she is taking a place on the road when she has a drive (i take it she only has the one car?) the neighbours opposite my mil do this, take up two parking spaces on the road so no-one else can park there, then don't use their drive! it's crackers. Also read on here you can park if there is no car on the drive. hopefully she will think about taking all the parking places in future.

IShallCallYouSquishy Tue 25-Jun-13 22:47:48

Is your name Mrs BOB?

Oh and YABU. Very.

HotCrossPun Tue 25-Jun-13 22:48:20

YANBU.

She has a drive, she should park in it. Her visitors should park in the street when they arrive.

nipersvest Tue 25-Jun-13 22:51:08

yabu, but... "can you not get a drive?" that did make me lol, where is the op supposed to get a driveway from, amazon?

asianbabe Tue 25-Jun-13 22:54:57

Thanks theoldestcat I'm coming across as a right cow on this thread but I also have in the past on numerous occasions park really far from home and dragged my newborn and toddler in the rain.

BriansBrain Tue 25-Jun-13 22:56:11

I understand your frustration but you were still bu

Swanhilda Tue 25-Jun-13 22:56:56

YANBU. This used to happen in our road, and I was the only house left with a garden and no driveway. Why should I have had to park my car streets away or concrete over my front garden just because other people are so selfish? Luckily now we have a CPZ and I am laughing because I still have a lovely front garden, AND can park. Lobby council for controlled parking, especially if you are near a station.
We have incidentally, two neighbours who have never EVER used their driveways but just keep it to ensure their cars (parked on road of course) are never blocked in. It drives me potty that our street has been destroyed in this way. Concrete everywhere, and trees cut down when they are in the way of driveways sad

asianbabe Tue 25-Jun-13 22:59:44

Icallyouswishy I don't understand your comment

TheOldestCat Tue 25-Jun-13 23:00:16

Oh I know - it's a right pain.

When we moved here, DH and I made a pact - we would never complain about the parking. We knew what we were getting into. Well, I've broken that pact (not DH - but then he doesn't drive or come out with us much, so it doesn't affect him).

I even left a note on a bad parker's car once. Passive aggressive me!

GreenShadow Tue 25-Jun-13 23:05:09

YABU for having 20 shopping bags!

Use large bags for life next time and you'll find you only need 7 or 8 (my usual number for a family of 5 inc 3 large teenage boys).

YABU for taking two kids under 2 to the supermarket! Are you crazy?Online shopping is a sanity saver (and hopefully Ocado man will park across the entrance to her drive and cause maximum irritation)

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