...to hate the phrase "9 months on, 9 months off"?

(69 Posts)
SpooMoo Tue 25-Jun-13 17:48:34

My baby is 8mo and while I have lost some weight (all the pram pushing and breastfeeding) I am still overweight and nowhere near back in shape. But I don't have the time or energy to focus on that right now! I just feel like a failure that I'm nearing 9 months postpartum and that's when I "should" be back to normal, according to this phrase! AIBU?

WorraLiberty Tue 25-Jun-13 17:50:59

The phrase is complete and utter bollocks

Some people take 3 or 4 days to go back to exactly the same weight they were before pregnancy...and others take months/years.

It depends on so many different things.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 25-Jun-13 17:51:40

Fairly sure that phrase was probably coined by a man,who had no children.

Yanbu.

JaneFonda Tue 25-Jun-13 17:51:44

I think the phrase is meant to reassure people who feel like they need to be back to pre-baby shape within three weeks!

Don't worry - concentrate on your lovely baby.

HeySoulSister Tue 25-Jun-13 17:56:04

I get annoyed when people say they can't 'focus' on their weight loss/diet etc

Why does it need such focus?

SpooMoo Tue 25-Jun-13 17:57:53

HeySoulSister - do you have a baby?

usualsuspect Tue 25-Jun-13 17:58:20

I've never heard that phrase in my life.

After my last child it's been 9 months on, 20 years still not off.

thebody Tue 25-Jun-13 17:58:51

Never heard the phrase to be honest but now I do it's bollocks.

SpooMoo Tue 25-Jun-13 17:59:25

Pre-baby I ate fewer snacks and I went to the gym 3-4 times a week. I still cannot find time/headspace to join a gym, it gets me down to be honest.

peteypiranha Tue 25-Jun-13 18:01:15

Can you not do exercise videos, join classes, speed up your walking with buggy or walk further distances etc? Ditch the snacks and you will be back to normal pretty quickly.

CrowsLanding Tue 25-Jun-13 18:02:24

Never heard of that phase before tbh. Everyone's body is different.

SchrodingersFanny Tue 25-Jun-13 18:04:39

It needs focus because healthy eating requires planning, usually more than each night deciding what meal takes the least effort. I never had time to make healthy lunches, instead made a quick cheese sandwich that easy. And snacked because you've had so little sleep and tiredness makes you hungry.

Tee2072 Tue 25-Jun-13 18:06:06

More like 9 months on, 4 years off for me.

peteypiranha Tue 25-Jun-13 18:06:29

If you snack less you will want less snacks. Eat healthy snacks like grapes, strawberries etc, but the most important thing is upping your exercise which is even easier if your not working. Dont get down hearted but just get motivated if you want results.

WorraLiberty Tue 25-Jun-13 18:13:40

And you can't honestly blame a random (and stupid) phrase for making you feel like a failure.

You are making you feel that way, not the phrase.

So perhaps it's time to either lighten up on yourself, or make plans to change things.

RaisingChaotic Tue 25-Jun-13 18:32:40

What Usual said.

HeySoulSister Tue 25-Jun-13 18:44:12

A baby?? I'm a lone parent to 5!

mumblechum1 Tue 25-Jun-13 18:45:55

I'd never heard that phase. After DS1 I was back to pre-baby weight within a week. After DS2 (now 18) I still have a stone to shift grin

Onesleeptillwembley Tue 25-Jun-13 18:51:03

Never even heard it. Is it a local thing?

HeySoulSister Tue 25-Jun-13 18:52:17

Our local park has pram running groups. The gym doesn't have to feature in your regime. Power pramming looks fun!

itsblackoveryonderhill Tue 25-Jun-13 19:10:55

its a load of tosh. DD was 2 before I was back to my original weight, can't say the same about my shape though. shock

PortHills Tue 25-Jun-13 19:15:13

Are you still breast feeding? I didn't lose much weight until I stopped feeding.....

LadyRabbit Tue 25-Jun-13 19:16:18

Another one saying dont stress it OP, and even if you do exercise like a mofo which I did before and after.
(I mean proper stuff like marathons) you might have to accept your body will never be the same again. And why should it? You created a human being FFS! YOUR BODY IS AMAZING. Give it - and yourself - a break.

And yeah YANBU that phrase is a load of shit!

valiumredhead Tue 25-Jun-13 19:16:48

I've never heard of it.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Tue 25-Jun-13 19:17:24

ignore it... I look more pregnant now than I ever did while actually pregnant (Ds1 is 20) grin

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