One of my colleagues does this and she's getting on people's nerves. Last week her American cousin's husband died suddenly. Very tragic, obviously but my colleague barely knows her cousin and had only met the husband a couple of times. However, on Friday she wouldn't come to another colleague's retirement drinks because 'given her family bereavement it wouldn't really be appropriate and she didn't want to put a dampener on things'. I mean, FFS. Two colleagues have lost their fathers in recent months and she's making more of a fuss than they did.
Last year her mother had her credit card skimmed and this colleague went on as if the woman had been mugged at knife point, talking about how 'shaken up' the whole family were and 'you never really think it will happen to someone you know, do you'.
She took a day off work when her sister was having her appendics out (op in morning, home that afternoon) because she'd only be 'worrying and no use to anyone'.
AIBU to wonder how she will ever cope if she has something serious to cope with and also to feel that there are people in work with real worries and traumas and she should get over herself and stop being such a drama queen?
AIBU?
To find people who like making a three act tragedy out of everything v annoying
arabesque · 24/06/2013 13:38
I have a colleague like this too. It really pisses me off especially when she gets to leave work early to attend to a family emergency which imo is not a 'real' emergency situation.....like her mum getting a flat tyre on her car 
- call the RAC ffs.
My ILs are like this. They treat any minor health concern of theirs as a solemn serious life changing event. Yet other peoples health problems are brushed over as insignificant. Example:
MIL: I have something to tell you . I have waited until FIL is not here. You may want to sit down. . FIL has......tinnitus. Am afraid we did actually laugh.
Yet when I had an emergency c section and prem baby they came to stay 4 days later and didnt help one jot and expected me to make them dinner etc. MIL was breezy about any post surgical ache or pain I had, forgetting I think that after her c section she had 2 weeks in bed . Likewise when DH and I had norovirus at their house they ignored it and didnt even bring us a glass of water I had to do it in between chucking up.
The other variant of this that irk me is people who post FB updates like "I can't believe this has happened." or "A tragic, tragic day for us."
Begging someone to ask what, and then start a chain of woeful responses. . . . .
my dad died at home. a couple of hours later the funeral director arrived to collect his body.
My SIL acted like it was her DF who has died - and the funeral director expressed his sympathies to her as his daughter & she lapped it up.
I stood there open mouthed. She didn't like DF. he did not like her.
on the upside she is at least consistent and does think the world revolves around her and I steer very well clear of her 
Sorry, meant to say glad everyone's in agreement (full stop). Just want to make myself the star of everyone else's threads .
that's fine vintage - you are the star - we are just bit parts in your show
(are you my SIL?)
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