To think it's a bit strange to take photos of your child after an accident

(54 Posts)
Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 14:57:51

Just opened FB and a friend's daughter was in a car accident last night.. thankfully she is ok.

She posted photos of her daughter sitting outside the car with blood pouring down her face and crying her eyes out, then she posted photos of her being put on the back board thing by the paramedics and then being carried into the ambulance.

Perhaps it is just me and I am trying not to be too judgey, but I don't quite understand taking photos of your child bleeding and very distressed with the paramedics just after a car accident.

I think it was very close to home as mum got there before paramedics.

Bunnygotwhacked Mon 24-Jun-13 10:44:02

We do the minor injury photo's here too Zen especially if it's bleeding then it's extra wicked according to ds. Mind you it's a bit different for her to be taking photos of her dd after a car accident what goes through someones head when their child is seriously injured and shocked and the parents first thought is ooo best take some pics and update my fb

ZenGardener Mon 24-Jun-13 10:11:18

Last year a friend of mine's daughter caught chicken pox. We had over 20 photos taken over the space of a week to update her progress.

My DS2 insists on having photos taken of all his various injuries. Between those and the pictures he and DS1 took of their bums and willies I really hope social services never get hold of my phone.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Mon 24-Jun-13 10:02:18

Taking pictures.. well there could be all sorts of reasons to do that, as others have said. Posting them on Facebook though - that is bizarre behaviour.

Has social networking turned us into a nation of narcissists and attention seekers? confused I'm trying to think of a time before Facebook and the like, to when people behaved sanely at the scene of an accident!

KhaosandKalamity Mon 24-Jun-13 09:58:13

If the girl is crying then I don't get it, but I kind of understand taking pictures. Usually we wait until after painkillers and medical attention though, and the one with the wound is the one that asks for the picture to be taken.

TeaCuresEverything Mon 24-Jun-13 00:24:48

I hate ppl who do this. someone I have on fb took photo's of her dd when she was ill with d&v recently. actually showed the poor girl holding a bowl and looking miserable! why does anyone need to see that?!

shallweshop Sun 23-Jun-13 21:07:21

I think it is awful, shocking and totally out of order!

kennyp Sun 23-Jun-13 20:57:31

a woman i know uploaded pictures of her 10 year old son being nebulized in hospital. really upset me tbh. that poor boy did not ask to be broadcast.

IneedAyoniNickname Sun 23-Jun-13 19:58:25

I can sync my phone and fb silly so all my photos upload. I haven't though. Luckily, as ds thinks its funny to take photos of me in the bath or asleep hmm

SillyTilly123 Sun 23-Jun-13 19:38:24

Is there a "add all pic to facebook" button? I have photobucket and when I 1st installed it there was an option to upload every photo taken. Though if shes adding taglines than I doubt its that..

I had to take photos of my 6 year old DS's split ear whilst the nurse was getting ready to glue it together - not for ArseBook or any of that shit, but because DS insisted as he wanted to see what was going on! grin

Hassled Sun 23-Jun-13 19:02:07

thebody - that must have been horrific for you - I'm sorry.

I actually did this once and now I don't know WTF I was thinking. A DC was bitten by a dog and I put a photo of the bite-mark on FB. God knows why - I'm not usually one for over-sharing on FB. I think it was outrage and anger and upset - OP's friend may well look back as I have and think "WTF was I thinking?". You don't always act rationally after a shock like that.

megsmouse Sun 23-Jun-13 18:58:06

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thebody Sun 23-Jun-13 18:32:41

When my dd was trapped and bleeding surrounded by other children and teachers, one who was dead (adult)and others critically injured, ( children and adults) the vast majority of motorists stopped to help.

Some however just took pics of which one appeared on the front page of one out rather nastier papers with the child's face clearly visible.

They had to pay for that mistake!

We took pictures of her many injuries at some point after to help build a compensation case which she needs and of course to provide a journal of memories for her to have as she grows older.

As for face book no I certainly wouldn't put them on there.

I don't do Facebook but, like a poster upthread, I took photos of my DD in hospital at 1 year old throughout all the stages of her heart surgery - from admission and our allocated room, then immediately after operation in ICU surrounded by masses of wires and equipment (and painted yellow iodine?) right through to drains out, dressings off, stitches out and finally our goodbyes and thank you's to amazing hospital staff.

Made into a book with the hospital tags, ECG printouts, drug charts etc and all the get well cards and messages. During all her growing up years DD has loved looking through the album and had lots of questions. At 18th get together her friends were really interested and amazed at the detailed "record".

So, actually I can understand taking photos in perhaps strange situations (I've also photographed family funerals too and received thanks from those understandably unfocussed at the time to take notice of everything) but of course it is each to their own smile and definitely not so good if purely for financial gain through compensation, rather than genuine concern.

Because my privacy setting only allow close friends and family members to see them.

Floggingmolly Sun 23-Jun-13 17:38:54

Why the hell poet them on Facebook???? hmm

Manchesterhistorygirl Sun 23-Jun-13 17:25:59

I can understand taking photos for insurance purposes, but to post them on fb?

Although DH ds post pictures if the towbar in boot situation (literally a photo of towbar in boot) that occurred just days before our caravan holiday last year.

IneedAyoniNickname Sun 23-Jun-13 17:23:13

I've posted pics of a.couple of the dcs injuries, but not unless they are calm enough that I can take them. And certainly not pics involving lots of blood

LadyFlumpalot Sun 23-Jun-13 16:43:12

I posted on Facebook during the 2 hour drive to get to my fiancé after a serious car accident had him airlifted to a specialist unit. My mum was driving, she drives slowly and carefully (as well she should) and I was going out of my mind. Face booking about inane stuff helped.

I also took pictures of him in hospital, as well as getting the attending firefighter (rural area - everyone knows everyone) to text me the picture of his car in situ, as I knew DH (then fiancé) would want to see them when he got better, which thankfully he did.

Posted the car picture on FB, not his injuries though.

I posted a pic of DD in an ambulance on FB, she was being transferred between hospitals and was giving a 'thumbs up', it was to reassure the family members that we'd left behind that she was OK.
Would have dreamt of doing it if she was distressed or unstable.

digerd Sun 23-Jun-13 16:22:37

Yes, morbid sympathy seeking attention imo on FB

shock How odd, now that is a fb picture i DONT agree with, which is a 1st for me!

Sirzy Sun 23-Jun-13 15:55:26

I wouldn't think to take photos in that situation but I have when DS has been in hospital.

When he was on Cpap at 8 weeks old a nurse suggested I took photos, seemed odd at the time but they were strangely comforting afterwards. I have never considered sharing them on Facebook though to me that doesn't seem appropriate but I have no problem with others wanting to.

His first smile came whilst he was on oxygen so I did put a photo on Facebook of that - the nasal specs in just make the photo more special in a strange way.

He has had too many hospital admissions since then and I have posted photos of him sat in bed smiling, or in the play room simply because a lot of people care, ask how he is etc so it is a nice way to show he is on the mend.

mrsjay Sun 23-Jun-13 15:48:59

Mind you, I once remember reading about someone who was tweeting about their child's accident while they were waiting for help.

a friend was posting on facebook while she waited on an ambulance for 1 of her kids

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sun 23-Jun-13 15:48:48

I have photos and a record of dates and places and how on my calendar of every head injury dd has had this year. It helps when we see consultants to illustrate how often dd falls over. Not fb-ed them though.

Did fb a pic of how badly dd had chickenpox when she was hospitalised. But it was mainly so I didn't have to go through the same explanations to multiple family members all asking the same questions

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