To think my birthday could be about me?

(64 Posts)
phantomhairpuller Sat 22-Jun-13 19:22:02

Ok so it's not a milestone birthday or anything but still!

DH and FIL went to the pub this morning to watch tho lions game. MIL stayed with me to help get things sorted for the family do which was taking place this afternoon.

Picked up the men folk at 1.30 and they were both fairly well oiled. They continued drinking when they got back to our house. My family descended at around 3pm and FIL immediately started with comments about how the English players were better then the welsh players during the game (it doesn't matter that they were all playing for the same team on this occasion!) he was trying to get a reaction from my (welsh) grandfather. It worked, my 79yr old grandfather walked away from the 'conversation' saying he couldn't be bothered with it- fair enough IMO.

To cut a long story short, you could cut the atmosphere with a knife and consequently my family left after 2hrs. DH passed out drunk and then MIL and FIL left without barely saying a word.

So on my bday, I've done all the clearing up and looked after a toddler and a newborn, basically on my own.

AIBU to be a bit pissed off or do I need a good slap and to get over myself?

Would love a wine now but am bf-ing hmm

ladyMaryQuiteContrary Sat 22-Jun-13 19:23:36

Next year you need to boom yourself and a pal into a spa for the day and leave them to it. wink

ladyMaryQuiteContrary Sat 22-Jun-13 19:23:53

Book!! Not boom

RandomMess Sat 22-Jun-13 19:26:23

Blimey, I'd be fuming tbh whether it was my birthday or not!

Flobbadobs Sat 22-Jun-13 19:32:12

Well on the bright side hopefully your MIL is giving your FIL an earbashing for acting like an arse..
And hopefully you'll give DH one when he sobers up. Can you ditch him and go out somewhere nice with friends or your family tomorrow?
Time your wine carefully and you can still BF safely I think.
Happy Birthday flowers

VestandKnickers Sat 22-Jun-13 19:32:43

I'd be bloody livid. Don't think the whole birthday thing is that relevant once you're a grown up but they sound like immature arses and they spoilt a nice family day.

VestandKnickers Sat 22-Jun-13 19:33:51

Oh, and happy birthday! Here are some flowers

Catsize Sat 22-Jun-13 19:34:45

Not being unreasonable.

Poor you.

When it is your husband's birthday, go on a girly shopping trip and leave him with the kids.

Buzzardbird Sat 22-Jun-13 19:37:06

Your husband is a selfish arse. I hope I put that clearly enough?

phantomhairpuller Sat 22-Jun-13 19:43:00

I am fucking furious. He's now got up because DS1 went and disturbed him. And he's got the fucking cheek to be treating me like I'm the bad guy. He's sitting there watching me get the boys ready for bed, not offering to help but making really useful comments like 'mums got it on her'.

Fucking knobhead cunty-bollock-headed prick. Arrrgghhhhh angry

Aniseeda Sat 22-Jun-13 20:02:21

YANBU but hosting a family do wouldn't be my idea of a fun way to spend my birthday at the best of times and even if they were all the best of friends.

I really hope you won't make any effort for your DH's birthday this year.

And, next year, go out with friends or just your parents and the DC.

phantomhairpuller Sat 22-Jun-13 20:04:31

Bit late for not making an effort aniseeda, I threw him a huge surprise party for his 30th in march hmm

I'm so upset and angry with him right now!

HairyWorm Sat 22-Jun-13 20:09:10

I'd wait until tomorrow when you're calmer and spell out why you're upset and that he will be taking you out next weekend for dinner so you can have 'a birthday'.

Although I'd find it very difficult not to smash the TV over his head before then.

Catsize Sat 22-Jun-13 20:16:13

He is only 30? Assumed he was at least 600million years old, with his stoneage views.

StuffezLaYoni Sat 22-Jun-13 20:24:44

Well he's totally out of order making stupid goady comments while semi pissed, and it's obvious you're trying to get the boys ready for bed. I wonder if he's trying to pick an argument...

squoosh Sat 22-Jun-13 20:29:13

Stick him under the patio.

phantomhairpuller Sat 22-Jun-13 20:32:32

He's most definitely trying to pick an argument. Very occasionally he's an absolute arse when he's pissed. This is one of those occasions hmm

StuffezLaYoni Sat 22-Jun-13 20:40:52

How horrible for you on your birthday. If you don't want the day to end totally miserably, I think you should stay away from him, bite your lip (I know you shouldn't have to) then calmly ask him tomorrow to explain himself. Why the fuck is he trying to upset you on your birthday? Probably to detract from the fact his behaviour already ballsed up the day.

phantomhairpuller Sat 22-Jun-13 20:43:56

He just started trying to make small talk so I got up and left the room <super mature>

Am now in bed! 8.30 on a Saturday night. Rock and roll wink

ENormaSnob Sat 22-Jun-13 20:45:18

I would fucking kill him tbh.

What a selfish twat.

StuffezLaYoni Sat 22-Jun-13 20:47:46

You can come round and drink gin and tonic at my place! grin
It's really shit but I think you've done the right thing. I would be really upset on behalf of my family though.

HumphreyCobbler Sat 22-Jun-13 20:50:39

I agree with EnormaSnob

What an arse. Sorry you had such a shit birthday. Especially after going to such trouble for his birthday.

PoppyWearer Sat 22-Jun-13 20:56:48

YANBU

Happy Birthday thanksthanksthanksthanksthanks winewinewinewinewine

StuffezLaYoni Sat 22-Jun-13 20:58:03

Oh shit yeah, happy birthday!

ArtexMonkey Sat 22-Jun-13 20:59:40

Send him round to his parents until he can be less of a cunt.

Happy birthday btw, sorry it's been shit for you.

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