daughter given choc cake at scool, she is allergic to cows' milk.

[MyNameIsRio]

That. They all know. Had their new teacher (who they will be having next year) for Fri afternoon and she was given birthday cake. Her own teacher has a stack of her own snacks. Now do I write to new teacher and headteacher?

[BeanoNoir]

Is she ok?

[bragmatic]

Yes.

Is she ok? Does she know the kinds of foods that could contain cows' milk?

[TheDeadlyDonkey]

Both I would say.
How old is dd? Can you teach her which treats she has to refuse?

[MyNameIsRio]

Slightly upset tummy, I gave her piriton as soon as got home.

[Jojay]

Yes, I would. How old is DD?

What sort of reaction did she have?

[SoupDragon]

Now do I write to new teacher and headteacher?

Just go and talk to the teacher!

How old is your DD?

[MyNameIsRio]

She is four, reception.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

How old is DD? There is a school of thought that says you teach your child to ask does this food contain x, if so then no thank you.

Perhaps cake was vegan? You haven't said if DD reacted/needed her epipen if she has one.

Before you write to HT you need to find out if cake was dairy free and if DD needed meds.

[reallifegetsintheway]

If it was shop bought, she should have checked the ingredients.
If home-made, maybe she didn't think it contained milk. I wouldn't think of milk- eggs, butter, sugar, flour cocoa powder but first thought wouldn't be milk. genuine mistake possibly?? End of term - she probably needs a gentle reminder. Sorry your DD is feeling unwell.

[SoupDragon]

I guess at every opportunity you need to teach her to say "I am allergic to dairy, can I eat that?". There will, inevitably, be more occasions like this to come.

[SoupDragon]

But seriously, just speak to the new teacher - she will probably be mortified. Especially as it was only a minor reaction (thankfully!)

[Eastpoint]

Very quietly as an aside, reallife butter is made from milk, hence the problem with cakes...

[reallifegetsintheway]

oops!! So all dairy a big no-no?? Sorry OP said milk so I just thought milk.

[MyNameIsRio]

Thank you.

[MyNameIsRio]

Milk is in loads I'd stuff, butter etc. Also in the form if whey powder etc.

[MyNameIsRio]

In not I'd

[EmmaBemma]

Maybe it would be better to get her used to saying "I'm allergic to dairy", to avoid possible confusion about milk in butter etc.

[SweepTheHalls]

I am clearly dim witted, the milk allergy, butter think hadn't occurred to me either!

[MyNameIsRio]

Thank you. She is a very shy little pickle at school. So very quiet and only just starting to speak to teachers. Still, she must learn.

[TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong]

Speak to the teacher.
Speak to your child.
Your daughter is at the beginning of going out into the big wide world without you being present. That's hard when she has an allergy that will make her poorly. Sadly, for her and for you, she is going to have to be more mature for her 4 yrs than she ought to be, and you are going to have to drill that into her. That she doesn't eat or touch anything unless she is 100% sure. Which is probably, in all honesty, not going to be that often.

I'm sure, as others have said, the teacher will be mortified. But, as you said milk in your OP, do the school also just think it's milk? Not dairy? You need to clarify that with them. Make sure they know, without doubt.

Hope she is feeling better today.

[MrsLouisTheroux]

A four year old is capable of asking before eating. As soupdragon says tell her to say 'I'm allergic to dairy, can Zi eat this?'
If she only had a slight reaction maybe she needs retesting for the severity of her allergy .

[MrsLouisTheroux]

X post. If she is shy, all the more reason to practice what she says.