To think this woman was a nasty caaaah

(34 Posts)
ChairmanWow Fri 21-Jun-13 14:09:33

Ive tried to resist but I need to get this off my chest because I think it was breathtakingly rude.

Yesterday morning I was dropping DS (2.3) off at nursery. I parked up, got 3 mo DD out and into her sling and went round to get DS out. Another car had pulled up next to me. I had the door open and DS's car seat belt undone when the woman in the next car said, stroppily, 'close that door please'. I replied that DS wouldn't be a sec and asked him to be quick getting out as the lady was waiting. He of course chose that moment to start messing about but I got him out and off we went, watched by this woman who was sighing repeatedly and loudly.

Two minutes later the other driver stormed up to me holding her baby and laid right into me. She said 'I'm 20 minutes late for work now. It took me half the time to get her out and I had to wait for him!', pointing at my son. I told her this wasn't my fault, she shouted 'It's not like you have got anything to do today!'. I told her this was inappropriate in front of children. She sighed and stormed off.

Thing is, if she'd calmly told me she was late and asked if I could let her get her baby out first I would of course have let her.

AIBU to still be seething that this woman spoke to me like this in front of my DS and other kids and parents?

tobiasfunke Fri 21-Jun-13 14:13:20

Of course she is a caaaahh. If I was being really vindictive I would tell the nursery manager that she was being really abusive to you at drop off time and that you were really upset and embarrassed in front of the children.

SkinnybitchWannabe Fri 21-Jun-13 14:17:27

Silly cow. Ignore then have a smug smile to yourself wink

ChairmanWow Fri 21-Jun-13 14:18:23

Yeah, I did consider it at the time but DS was fine (muttering to himself about choo choo trains and totally oblivious) and I decided in a smug and supercilious manner to rise above it. But god it's pissed me off.

ChairmanWow Fri 21-Jun-13 14:20:19

skinny weird cross-post re smugness. I will smile a beatific smile in her direction if our paths cross again.

I'd have just acted like I didn't care. Take the wind right out of her cunty sails!

(if she'd have explained properly then of course I'd have obliged).

helenthemadex Fri 21-Jun-13 14:23:13

very rude, it was her fault she was late the stoopid caaaah

Eyesunderarock Fri 21-Jun-13 14:23:38

Poor baby, being dropped off by a grumpy and cross parent with no time to spare.

PearlyWhites Fri 21-Jun-13 14:23:44

Yanbu I doubt your ds took over twenty minutes to get out of the car.

Glittertwins Fri 21-Jun-13 14:24:00

She would still have been 15 mins late anyway if the time taken for you not being there into consideration. She should have got up earlier to factor on mishaps before leaving her house so she was wholly unreasonable.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Fri 21-Jun-13 14:34:28

I think the lady overreacted - probably because she was late - and what she said has upset you. Being late, particularly if you're not habitually late, is a horrid feeling. Seeing your DS messing about would have added fuel to that.

If it would have been me, I probably would have shut the door and let her hare off, you didn't. You weren't wrong but I don't understand what you mean by 'not appropriate in front of the children'. What did she say that was so wrong? I think you're being oversensitive possibly.

tootdelafruit Fri 21-Jun-13 14:39:03

I would have just rolled my eyes and walked away at the first sign of her looking for a row or wanting to get stuck into me. you don't have to stand and listen to it you know- you dont owe her an audience. let her rant into the wind if she feels she must but you don't have to take being spoken to like that so dnt- just walk away in future- if she comes after you calmly turn and say "if you wish to speak to me please check your tone otherwise i'm walking away"

ArtexMonkey Fri 21-Jun-13 14:44:55

She was rude. Rude from the minute she asked you 'stroppily' to close your door. Rude to be sighing and huffing and puffing, rude to make out like her time is more valuable than yours because she works out of the home, rude to blame you for her own lateness, rude to her employers to stand around arguing the toss pointlessly when she is already 20mins late and counting for work. Rude bitch. Ignore. Be icy, like an ice queen.

Housemum Fri 21-Jun-13 14:55:02

I'd have taken more offence at the "not like you've got anything to do" line - how does she know you weren't going to eg a doctor's appt with your other child? She was obviously having a bad day and a few seconds' delay was enough to make her snap. We've all been there - unless she is rude again, live and let live. You may well find that she is feeling awful and dreading meeting you again because of this.

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 16:28:42

I'd have replied with "Perhaps you should have left home earlier then you wouldn't be so late" and smiled sweetly.

SoleSource Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:44

She'd had a bad start to her day and took it out on you and your children.

YANBU she is indeed a caaahhh

Mooooooooooo

silverten Fri 21-Jun-13 16:34:24

Classic example of catching more flies with honey than vinegar I think.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 21-Jun-13 16:37:36

It's not your fault she didn't leave enough time.

You didn't keep her waiting for 20 minutes so she was already late and in a mood. That's her fault, not yours.

Just let it go. She's not worth time in your head.

Some people seem to need to make others responsible for their poor planning. hmm There's a woman in the village who drives like a maniac, overtakes recklesly and hoots if there's anyone in front of her daring to stick to the actual speed limit. Get out of the house 10 minutes earlier, you dopy arse. hmm

Lambzig Fri 21-Jun-13 16:41:57

She was being a caaaahh, bet she is mortified now about it though.

Thumbwitch Fri 21-Jun-13 16:48:55

YANBU. She was just venting her annoyance on the nearest available person, which was you. It was of course entirely her own fault that she was so late, but she didn't fancy taking the blame for it so she decided to blame you.

Pity her for her inadequacies and rise above. smile

Miserable caaah - ignore!

lollilou Fri 21-Jun-13 16:53:58

* LyingWitchInTheWardrobe * Shouting and being rude is not appropriate in front of children in my eyes.

TSSDNCOP Fri 21-Jun-13 16:56:21

She wasnt so late she couldn't spare the time to rip you a new one though.

YANBU, rude and unjustified. Would have got the death ray look of death from me.

Hmm, I assume the baby was her first child and she has not yet had the delight of removing a toddler from a car...

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