Not to want my 11 year old DD wearing Miss Sexy trousers for school?

(55 Posts)
CambridgeBlue Fri 21-Jun-13 13:08:36

Trying to get ahead with uniform buying for next term has bitten me on the bum because DD doesn't like the trousers she's been wearing any more and wants some 'Miss Sexy' ones instead. Apparently (and I do take this with a pinch of salt) hardly anyone wears 'those baggy ones' (ie normal bootcut black trousers) any more.

Apart from my intense dislike of the name of this brand, I also think they're completely impractical for school - DD is very slim so she'd look OK in them but I know from wearing skinny trousers/jeans myself that they're not that easy to do stuff in and that involuntarily showing off your underwear is often involved.

I'm torn because I remember how I hated my Mum not letting me wear a split skirt when everyone else did but everything in me says buying these stupid trousers for DD sends all sorts of wrong messages - that she has to follow the crowd, that what you look like is important at school (I'm fairly relaxed about what she wears outside of school) and that she can persuade me to do something just by using the line 'everyone else is/has...'.

Have to say I am sick of one battle after another about what other kids are doing just because their parents don't seem to give a toss half the time be as strict as I am.

AmbrosiaCreamedMice Fri 21-Jun-13 17:37:37

@plainjaney Thanks so much! They're perfect. Sorry OP, buy these instead!

Happymum22 Fri 21-Jun-13 17:36:51

Agree with others, while they may look horrendous or not be the most decent, at that age -as much as you wish it didn't- self-esteem and confidence comes from that sort of thing. Its not going to do any harm. Pick your battles in life.
Agree, search for something similar and see if she will compromise- otherwise Miss Sexy isn't going to do much damage. The name makes me sad though in the same way as when I saw super padded, underwired bras for 8 year olds.
At least it isn't a super short skirt she is wanting.

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 17:29:35

OK, have had a look at DD's and hers have side pockets, they are possibly Bengaline but for some reason they look a lot baggier on the website than they are in real life.
They are quite tight to the knee then flare slightly to the ankle in the bootcut. The rear view is probably a closer representation of the fit in this picture than the front view.
smile

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 17:24:02

@Ambrosia, I did have a look and I can't actually see the ones DD had online. I only bought them a few weeks ago so they should be instore. I'll go and have a look at the label in hers....

hackmum Fri 21-Jun-13 17:10:05

I eventually gave into this particular request from DD - after several months of "please can I have Miss Sexy trousers? Everyone else has them" over and over again. Shortly after the school banned them.

Your DD's school will also ban them. Trust me.

KurriKurri Fri 21-Jun-13 17:06:54

Go out to buy them for her, and when you get to the shop say to her 'actually they are really nice, I think I will get a pair for myself too' she may go off them. grin

AmbrosiaCreamedMice Fri 21-Jun-13 16:50:53

@ plainjaney If you get a minute, would you mind linking to the Matalan trousers? Is it the Bengaline ones? Ta.

Startail Fri 21-Jun-13 16:43:51

We also have a fair few of Ofsteds hidden rural poor.

For them it's good the middle class DCs rebel and look slightly scruffy.

Like wise school don't worry about old style games kit or everyone wearing summer uniform. So far they have stepped carefully. I hope they continue to do so.

xylem8 Fri 21-Jun-13 16:43:02

Just googled them
They are not school trousers.

Floggingmolly Fri 21-Jun-13 16:42:02

Oh, it's an all girls school, in case the no trousers rule sounded odd!

Floggingmolly Fri 21-Jun-13 16:41:22

I don't do airs and graces either, Startail grin
I think the uniform is a hangover from it's glory days as a grammar, and trousers are most definitely not allowed.
They'd still have straw boaters if they thought they'd get away with it

piprabbit Fri 21-Jun-13 16:36:25

Offer her a compromise.

She can have Miss Sexy trousers on condition that she gets ones with a bit of growing room.

Bahahaha.

Startail Fri 21-Jun-13 16:35:49

We are a ordinary rural comp. in a grammar school area (not quite a secondary modern because we are a long way out).

We just doesn't do airs and graces, they just sit baddly.

Startail Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:01

We already have expensive logo'd games and summer polo shirts, expensive odd coloured skirts and posh jumpers.

Adding trousers to the list would, I think be, the straw that broke the camel's back.

The girls would say Fuck off and many Mothers would too.

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 16:32:23

Cambridge my DD is a funny size, exceptionally tall and very skinny. She's a size 6 everywhere else but Matalan trousers seem to size up quite small. If you struggle in there then New Look do the same style in their teens range just dont buy their school shirts - cheap yes, but godawful to iron.

Floggingmolly Fri 21-Jun-13 16:31:42

No, Startail, it's a London comprehensive (although it is an ex grammar). And yes, the uniform is eye wateringly expensive. Seems to be fairly universally adhered to, though.

Startail Fri 21-Jun-13 16:28:02

Flogging, if your DDs go to a private or a grammar school, you can just about get away with a fixed uniform.

Even then I know private school girls who's mum's substitute £20 blouses with cheap ones.

A state school in a very mixed area is treading on very thin ice if it starts stipulating certain items when far cheaper and perfectly adequate alternatives are already owned.

Presenting parents who's daughters already own clothes in tbe spirit of the rules with an unnecessary
£18 x no.of DDs x spare pairs bill
will not end well.

CambridgeBlue Fri 21-Jun-13 16:26:34

X-posted plainjaney - Matalan was going to be my first port of call because they also sell polo shirts that tick all of DD's boxes hmm.

CambridgeBlue Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:46

Thanks all, some really interesting (and funny!) replies. I do agree about there being bigger battles ahead so am going to try and compromise. I am sure that other stores will sell a similar style of trousers that fit in with DD's desire for something less 'baggy' without being called something ridiculous and inappropriate so I'll try and track something down that will keep us both happy.

I do love this place for giving me a sense of perspective smile

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:33

Matalan actually do a stretch skinny bootcut trouser thats really really robust. They look exactly like the Miss Sexy ones but are only £12 and last.

My DD is 15 and a size 8 and these fit her perfectly. Wouldn't dream of sending her into school in baggy ones because its not worth the ridicule. I was 15 once, it's difficult enough without battles over a cheap pair of trousers.

I agree flogging I'm
No prude but I cannot believe what I see young girls wearing to school these days. I know I'm older but not that old. Some are as tight as leggings how they breath or are comfy I don't know.

Madlizzy Fri 21-Jun-13 16:23:21

In my kids' school, it's enough cost to get the blazer, jumper, pe polo, pe sweatshirt from the one shop. The school has a high incidence of children from poorer families who have to prioritise funds and our local council doesn't provide school uniform grants. Also, I don't think a small bit of individuality does any harm.

notso Fri 21-Jun-13 16:20:35

DD pestered the back off me for these I refused as they are so crappily made, the material is awful. The compromise was some skinny fitting school trousers from Next which have caused endless trouble from school as they are apparently jeans!

School is in special measures now and the new head is cracking down on uniform. Only tailored type trousers will be allowed from September.

Startail Fri 21-Jun-13 16:17:58

I agree its a horrible name. With buttons, zips and logo showing they are certainly not appropriate. With the DDs untucked Summer polo shirts, many of the designs are better than the leggings and skinny jeans I see outside school.

Floggingmolly Fri 21-Jun-13 16:15:56

Baggy boot cut school trousers are now completely out and unfashionable
Maybe I'm just out of the loop as my dd's school insist on uniform being, you know, uniform; bought from a particular shop and all the same range so every item is identical,
but why is school uniform supposed to be fashionable???

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