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to ask my dh to go out, so I can have my friends round for a laydeez night?

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pictish Thu 20-Jun-13 20:06:33

Ok so...I am thinking of having a lady-what-does-nails round the house next weekend, so I can get a pedicure for the summer hols (in Scotland we break up next week).
I was with some friends today who said they'd be up for the same, so I'll invite them round too and make a wee night of it.
I mentioned it to dh today, and asked how he would feel about disappearing for the evening. He wasn't too impressed.
He's a real homebody and not one for going out. It's also worth mentioning that we live somewhere where he doesn't really know anyone locally, so going out for a pint with a mate is out.

Anyway, his point is that if he wanted to have some mates round for whatever, he wouldn't expect me to leave, even though I could easily find something to do for the evening.

We are arguing the semantics now, and I thought we could put it to the MN jury.

AIBU?

mrsjay Fri 21-Jun-13 21:39:56

what have you decided to do pictish id turf him else where too and your not an old hag you have fairy lights round your tent

pictish Fri 21-Jun-13 21:50:46

Thank you mrsjay - you are right - I do have fairy lights. AND a tealight chandelier! grin

I'm punting him out to the pictues with ds1, who is really excited about getting his dad to himself for the night.

Can I just whisper this too....I do envy those who have sociable, outgoing husbands. My dh is a lovely man, but he's like a permanent fixture across the room there.

DizzyPurple Fri 21-Jun-13 21:59:38

I know how you feel. Mine rarely goes out either! Bit too fond of the tv.. He does socialise more during the day though, gym, cycling club etc. but come the evening it's him and the sofa... Although it does mean I can pretty much guarantee he'll be in to look after DD when I want to go out!

Euphemia Fri 21-Jun-13 22:00:13

Likewise, Pictish. hmm

pictish Fri 21-Jun-13 22:04:06

DizzY - yep same here...dh is very happy staying in with the kids while I go out on the randan, and I get out as much as I can be bothered to.

It's just....it's just....

Dykwim?

mrsjay Fri 21-Jun-13 22:15:41

.I do envy those who have sociable, outgoing husbands. My dh is a lovely man, but he's like a permanent fixture across the room there.

sigh UHU hmm

pictish Fri 21-Jun-13 22:23:36

When we first hooked up, we were out as much as funds would allow...clubbing, gigging, raving, socialising....
It wasn't until I'd had ds1 I realised he was actually a pot plant.

Euphemia Fri 21-Jun-13 22:45:15

I realised he was actually a pot plant.

grin

Euphemia Fri 21-Jun-13 22:46:21

My DH has been in a stooshie all month because he has to go to Edinburgh next week.

We live near Dundee. hmm

NandH Sat 22-Jun-13 06:56:33

YABU to expect him to leave his home for you to basically have a 'pamper party'.... My dp would go upstairs and watch tv/play xbox FIFA rubbish.... Can your dh do something upstairs?

Lavenderloves Sat 22-Jun-13 07:07:09

Send him to the cinema.

He needs a hobby poor man.

teacher123 Sat 22-Jun-13 08:41:47

My DH works shifts, I love those nights to myself! I equally have rehearsals once or twice a week in the evenings so he gets about the same number of nights away from me! Sometimes it gets a bit manic, but as he's around quite a lot in the daytime, we still see plenty of other.

livinginwonderland Sat 22-Jun-13 09:50:15

DP goes out every Saturday night for a games night and I love it. I get to spread out in bed and hog the TV and eat all the nice food I have stashed away!

My 'D'H rarely goes out, he says he prefers spending time with his family. Which is all well and good but not every single sodding night. Although he often calls at the pub after work and arrives home to a cooked tea & children sorted hmmm

Tbh think he's point scoring as I love a good night out, makes the family time more special wink grin

motherinferior Sat 22-Jun-13 11:59:47

I went out last night and am out again tonight. Mr Inferior is euphoric at the prospect of two nights in on his own on the trot.

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 12:04:07

YANBU.

let him stay

get him drunk do he passes out.

paint his nails, do his hair.
full make up

post photos everywhere with the caption " you wish you weren't here"

OnTheNingNangNong Sat 22-Jun-13 12:25:07

I'm glad I'm not the only one with a glorified sofa decoration for a husband. He works shifts so I get the occasional night in, but he never has anything to do in the evenings. Whereas theres loads I want to do but can't atm

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