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To be VERY annoyed with noise kids are making outside

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HoppinMad Tue 18-Jun-13 20:31:23

I wish I could open the window and scream about the bloody racket. But they're kids so I wont.
Argh the level of screaming, shouting, swearing and loud laughter is getting on my nerves, it has taken me over an hour to settle dc. The baby fell asleep after about half an hour, but toddler is a very light sleeper and despite being shattered from a half day at nursery and various activities just couldn't settle because of the sheer noise.

We live in a quiet cul-de-sac with mainly young families. It is generally the same two or three families that allow their feral dc (ranging from early teens to about two or three years) to be out till very late, and allow them to make all the noise they like disturbing all the other neighbours. Its only since late spring, summer started to be fair, but its beginning to piss me off. I have wasted an hour, when normally it takes 15 minutes max. Kitchens a tip which I promised myself to clean but now I am too tired so dh can do it when he gets home from work

But seriously aibu to think people really should have some consideration for others who have children? I really dont care what time they put their dc to bed, but why allow them to be out till so late and make so much noise. Grrr... They are still at it.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Tue 18-Jun-13 23:03:23

Hoppin they aren't my children, so it's none of my business. As a rule, you can't go wrong far wrong with that line of thinking (unless there are signs of abuse of course).

... and no, it doesn't become your business when they go to bed just because you can't settle your children. That's life in a built up area.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Tue 18-Jun-13 23:05:54

Tilly grin FAB. I might just use that one for the kids who stand and smoke outside my place - I'll ask for a cig off of them too. Do you think it would be abundantly clear I have never smoked a cig in my life??

HoppinMad Tue 18-Jun-13 23:06:24

Tilly thats a great idea I might try that tomorrow. Run from one end of the cul de sac to the other screaming and jumping with the little darlings, dh may feel inclined to call the men in white coats if he sees me grin

Iamsparklyknickers Tue 18-Jun-13 23:07:16

Fwiw I agree with the OP. For context I live in a cul-de-sac between a park complete with skateboard ramp, and a primary school.

Kids playing is a nice enough noise - kids swearing, screeching/screaming, using your car as a goal post and running through your front garden isn't. The only problem I have is a couple of the neighbours kids who you can either hear the 'thump' of their basketball or their earsplitting screaming competitions from anywhere in the house. Oh and the ones who pop out from behind your porch when they're playing hide and seek.

I don't think anyone is saying kids should be tied to their beds, just wondering why you wouldn't tell them to play appropriately that close to peoples houses. Kids aren't stupid, they understand instructions and the difference between a park and a back garden. How else are they supposed to learn how to behave and when? I have to say, the fact the kids can be heard swearing from the end of the street doesn't give me much hope in approaching the parents. There's no way they haven't heard it and just let it go.

I can only presume some people have never had a bunch of kids like that practically under their window. Lucky buggers.

AnnaFiveTowns Tue 18-Jun-13 23:15:14

How many warm, light evenings do we have in this country? Over a whole year - very few. We shouldn't stop kids (of any age) from playing outside on the few nights that they can. Even until 9pm. Or even until it gets dark. These summer evenings are so precious, it's sad to waste them. As a previous poster said, it'll be your children soon. And it's very difficult for people, kids or adults, to be quiet when they are having fun. Try it next time you're out with a big group of mates.

HoppinMad Tue 18-Jun-13 23:29:27

Why do so many posters seem to think as soon as my dc are older I will suddenly become selfish and inconsiderate, and allow them to make as much noise and annoy the feck out of the neighbours, regardless of whether they are sleep-deprived young parents with small babies, or an older unwell couple, or whoever it may be [Hmm] I am not that sort of person I assure you.

Hmm also why do so many posters think older children having fun is more important than the sleep of a babies and toddlers. Baby discrimination right there! hmm

ParadiseChick Tue 18-Jun-13 23:33:01

In the same way that as your children leave toddler hood you start to notice how annoying toddlers are when whining and tantruming.

But of course not yours.

ll31 Tue 18-Jun-13 23:36:56

Indeed, how dare children play, nasty beings.

HoppinMad Tue 18-Jun-13 23:39:39

Err actually, I KNOW how annoying toddlers are thank you. Yes my own. Hence the frazzled nerves.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Tue 18-Jun-13 23:57:08

I guess most of us hoped that once you got enough sleep you would see how unreasonable you are to want children in the house by 7pm - guess we were being wildly optomistic!

HoppinMad Wed 19-Jun-13 00:12:08

Look, I am repeating myself here, I dont want children locked up in the house by 7pm ffs I am not a horrible or cruel person. But I would appreciate it if parents would tell their kids to crank the volume down a bit at around that time, I dont feel that is unreasonable tbh. Yeah i'm all for let kids be kids, but why does that have to involve screaming and shouting, and swearing and banging God knows what that awful sound was. I wonder if it was an elderly ill person who was being disturbed by the screaming and constant noise, would you have the same opinion, that 'kids are allowed to play out and have fun'? Well screw you ill person. You know babies and toddlers are helpless little beings too, who need their sleep and rest to function.

WorraLiberty England Wed 19-Jun-13 00:52:46

What makes you think the parents haven't told them to respect the neighbours?

Also when my dc are older, I believe I would still have some consideration for others with young children, and hope to instill that in my dc also

I agree with that but look how often kids get excited and have no idea how loud they're actually being?

You as an adult need to have a polite word with them. Tell them that their noise is disturbing your children who are trying to sleep.

For all you know, they could be mortified and very apologetic. If for any reason they're not...or you get a mouth full of cheek - then it's time for a polite word with their parents.

But kids aren't mind readers. If they don't now they're disturbing you or they don't realise how loud they're actually being, they're not going to keep it down are they?

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Wed 19-Jun-13 00:58:24

You'll understand one day - until then seethe quietly.

fackinell Wed 19-Jun-13 01:08:02

Gah!!! I live right next to a primary school and impossible to get a lie in. The bell wakes me and there is one kid that does this constant high pitched shriek. Not to mention constantly finding rubbish thrown into our garden plus balls, hoops, clothes and shoes.

I did ask the school to mention to the kids about the rubbish but can hardly tell them to be quiet.

BellaVita Wed 19-Jun-13 06:19:39

Agree with Chipping.

Smudging Wed 19-Jun-13 07:49:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Abra1d Wed 19-Jun-13 07:55:37

Go outside and say, very politely, 'Hi, everyone, isn't it great we can be outside now it's warmer! Would it be possible for you to be a little bit quieter when you're outside our house so the little ones can sleep? Thanks for your help.'

MiaowTheCat Wed 19-Jun-13 08:41:07

I get pissed off when the parents turn them out of the house, telling them not to play out in front of theirs (the very very quiet in terms of traffic end of the street) because THEY don't want the noise of their own children and kick them further along the street so we have to put up with it. That's being a twat- sorry, and if we have another summer like we did last year with them outside OUR houses till 10pm most nights, and our car being damaged again (just by them playing and not really thinking - hence us having to just suck up the cost which we could really ill afford) - I'm going to their letting agent with a complaint.

If it was a game going up and down the street in front of everyone's houses I wouldn't mind as much - but the kicking them well away from their own houses so the parents in question don't have to put up with the noise (and we know this goes on - we've heard the shouted conversation... you could have heard it in the next county to be honest) pisses me off a lot.

Thankfully the kids' bedroom's to the rear of the house so the noise for DD1 is minimal. DD2 though still is in with us downstairs till we go to bed and then our room so does get disturbed by it.

IWipeArses Wed 19-Jun-13 08:50:06

Just because your kids bedtime is 7, don't presume that everybody else's is.
I think 9 o'clock is a reasonable time for things to quieten down.
As if school kids get four hours to play after school, haven't you read any of the homework threads?

mrsjay Wed 19-Jun-13 08:54:15

I think I have got to that age where kids making noise just gets on my wick , in a few years I will be the grumpy old lady who wont give them there ball back blush we seem to have had an influx of kids here and god they are bloody noisy my own precious DDs were never as noisy wink

mrsjay Wed 19-Jun-13 08:54:29

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valiumredhead Wed 19-Jun-13 08:58:13

Baby discrimination did you really just say that ? grin

xylem8 Wed 19-Jun-13 09:16:57

so OP perhaps you should not use your garden during the day, because night shift workers might be sleeping?

Nanny0gg England Wed 19-Jun-13 09:42:53

Oh you lot do make me laugh!

Indeed, how dare children play, nasty beings.
How many warm, light evenings do we have in this country? Over a whole year - very few. We shouldn't stop kids (of any age) from playing outside on the few nights that they can. Even until 9pm. Or even until it gets dark. These summer evenings are so precious, it's sad to waste them. As a previous poster said, it'll be your children soon. And it's very difficult for people, kids or adults, to be quiet when they are having fun. Try it next time you're out with a big group of mates.

The OP wasn't objecting to children playing, just the fact it was bedtime, they were loud and they were outside her house, not their house. Funny that. Especially when you know there is a park right next door to the street.

I also highly doubt, that when the OP's children are old enough to play out, that she will let them disturb the neighbours during those 'precious' summer evenings.

And as for being quiet when out with a big group of mates - how old are you? Do you hang about outside people's houses 'having fun'?
Really?

doormat Wed 19-Jun-13 09:48:28

Yabu...good gosh...life doesnt revolve around your babies....kids are kids...have a quiet and nice word if they are outside in your garden but otherwise they are only playing...and 8.30 lare lmao ...my 12 yr old stays out to 9.30...11.00pm on fri sat as long as i can see him on the front

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