For several years I have organised a community theatre project in a local church which involves both adults and children. They rehearse separately and come together in the final week for the last rehearsals and performances. I do this totally voluntarily as do all the participants and the week of the performances is manic involving hours of preparation, painting, stitching etc. There is no charge to any participant.
All the adults involved work full time and are therefore missing family and rest time to participate. We love doing it and don't begrudge it at all but this week I must admit I've started to feel a bit resentful.
We have 36 children involved this year. I gave out a letter at the start of rehearsals detailing what they needed to wear (colourful tshirt, skirt/shorts/trousers in contrasting colour so nothing tricky), giving all rehearsal times and dates and asking parents to commit to helping during one of the six performances. I gave my email address and asked them to contact me directly if there were any problems.
This is the week of the performance. A huge number of parents have asked me what their child is supposed to wear and when reminded about the letter said oh yes but that was ages ago (April) we haven't got it anymore. I have been told this week that three children won't be coming to the Friday or Saturday performances which is going to really mess up the choreography. Several others can't make at least one of the three final rehearsals (the only ones where the whole cast comes together) - again none bothered to let me know before now. Only one parent out of the 36 has agreed to help out for an evening performance and three others are "checking their diaries" others have said they can't possibly because they have a younger child (understandable in a single parent household but they are not) or because "I work 9-5 so I need to rest in the evenings". I have had to ask my family and friends to come and help out as a favour because I would otherwise have to cancel.
AIBU to expect some participation and active engagement from parents who have allowed their child to do this activity (which they would provably have to pay for if they did it anywhere else)? Thanks for reading my tirade I always seem to use mn to moan!
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Aibu to feel a bit disappointed in these parents?
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Caitycat · 17/06/2013 17:09
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