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To think my husband is not a teenage boy and I am not his mother?

(37 Posts)
Mazzledazzle Sun 16-Jun-13 18:36:19

My husband says he is more than happy to get out of bed in the morning and help with the kids - so long as I wake him. And that's the bit that really bugs me. Why is it my responsibility to get him up? He's a grown man FFS! I'm a v light sleeper. He never wakens when our two DCs wander through in the morning, I do. I get up with them and silently seethe. Hence the resentment. I've told him if he can't waken himself, set an alarm so he gets up on time to help me out in the mornings.

AIBU?

Mazzledazzle Sun 16-Jun-13 19:08:42

Dopey sheep, I was away overnight and returned at 8.30am to a snoring husband and roaming kids, despite the fact that school starts at 9!

It always seems that he gets peace to do jobs around the house and I get the kids. I want some peace! I suppose it will be easier once they are at school. It just seems like I never get time to myself at home to get on with things. The kids generally leave him alone and cling to my legs!

Nooka i will suggest a designated day off.

It sounds like I should be a bit more proactive in giving him a kick in the morning!

crunchbag Sun 16-Jun-13 19:09:12

YANBU he should take responsibility for getting up even if it means setting the alarm

Does he genuinely not hear the children or does he know you will get up any way?

Mazzledazzle Sun 16-Jun-13 19:10:38

Lol at shitsinger's husband! 5am shock

Mazzledazzle Sun 16-Jun-13 19:14:13

Crunchbag - it's interesting...if he knows he HAS to get up (if for example he's promised me a long lie). He leaps out of bed as soon as our wee one's foot hits the floor. This would suggest he chooses to stay in bed every other morning. He'll often say "that was some tantrum she was having this morning" when he was in bed 'asleep' the whole time. confused

Shitsinger Sun 16-Jun-13 19:20:55

Mazzle he is up at 5am eating his bloody breakfast and watching the news !
He likes it and it was very useful when our DC were little wink
The point is we recognised our differences and compromised - he loves a kip on the sofa in the evenings !

crunchbag Sun 16-Jun-13 19:29:28

So he doesn't really need waking up then, he just doesn't want to get up and hopes you forget or won't bother waking him.

That would seriously piss me off, you both are their parents and he will need to step up.

FingersCrossedLegsNot Sun 16-Jun-13 19:33:33

My brother used to sit on my fathers face in the mornings with his shitty nappy. That generally woke him up. Worth trying!

OutragedFromLeeds Sun 16-Jun-13 19:37:14

It's impossible to say until I know how old your husband is and whether there is any chance you could be his mother?

If he's 19 and was born the same day the baby you gave up for adoption 19 years ago was born then chances are YABU.

MrsLouisTheroux Sun 16-Jun-13 20:19:50

He'll often say "that was some tantrum she was having this morning" when he was in bed 'asleep' the whole time. So he's not a heavy sleeper after all. He's just staying in bed leaving you to take responsibility for mornings. That's really selfish if you are tired out.

dorothyelmhirst Sun 16-Jun-13 21:14:05

Out of interest what does he do when you are not there?

Mazzledazzle Sun 16-Jun-13 22:25:28

When I'm not there he relies on my DD to wake him! She's 4...

dorothyelmhirst Mon 17-Jun-13 10:53:59

Go away more.

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