To think the sample girls pack from the school nurse was totally inappropriate.

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Picturesinthefirelight Sun 16-Jun-13 17:45:48

Dd wanted a private talk this morning. Turns out that in Friday they had the puberty talk and were given a pack. Except they ran out of time so no time to discuss how to use the products.

There were a couple of always panty liners, three Always towels a normal one, a night one and a "silk" one. They were huge. I can't see dd bring able to wear a leotard in one of those.

Then there were two Tampax Compact (the ones with plastic applicators) one Regular Yellow one & one green Super one. As if a year 6 child will be able to insert one if those. When I was at school we were given a same of the special lites ones. They could put her off for life.

Luckily I had anticipated this and a couple of months ago bought a lovely little make up style case by Lillets contains various if their teen products. Smaller child sized towels but that are supposed to be extra absorbent and small easier to insert tampons.

I know they were free samples but really!!'n

Picturesinthefirelight Wed 19-Jun-13 11:21:10

Am a dance moms addict too in a masochistic kind of way

VonHerrBurton Wed 19-Jun-13 11:02:53

Dance Moms! Loved it! Gutted the series has finished, roll on series 2! Miss Abbie, what a ledge! Hilarious.

Sorry, totally unrelated! As you were.

I'm not sure what your problem is - your DD was given samples which aren't as well-suited to her lifestyle or preferences as other products that are available. Presumably you are free to go and purchase the preferred brands/sizes/varieties for her and don't need to wait to be given free samples?

The fact that the freebies are unsuitable are neither here nor there - they will be suitable for someone, and if they're not, there is always the bin and Superdrug.

The end of mrsminiverscharladys reply made me <boak>. Seriously?!

valiumredhead Tue 18-Jun-13 12:16:19

Girls have the talk in yr 5 at ds's school and the boys slightly cover it in yr 6 but properly in yr 7.

I'm surprised that so many schools leave it as late as year 6! The county where I teach covers puberty in detail in year 5. I teach year 4 and have 2 girls in my class who are already visibly developing.

My own DD was in a crop-top bra and shaving her armpits in year 4. She started her periods in year 6. There are usually one or two in any year 6 class. My DD had an extra pencil case in her school bag from yr 5 onwards that had spare pants, a travel pack of wipes and several slimline towels.

She's now yr7 and has just switched to Lillets teen-sized tampons, which are fabulous.

MiaowTheCat Tue 18-Jun-13 10:16:29

My periods started at ridiculously heavy and painful levels (to the point I'd vomit and pass out from period pains). I just won't be relying on the school to sort it out and do the educating (knowing I started mine very early in Y7, I'm working on the assumption that late on in Y6 might well be TOO late for "the talk") or providing with sample packs anyway.

As for everyone knowing what the drawstring bag is - was the tampax plastic flip top box thing when we were kids.

And I thought the only point of school sanitary protection sample packs were for the tampons to be slung over the branches of every local tree like some kind of strange Xmas bauble anyway?! Added bonus points for immaturity if you got busy with a red felt pen before doing so! Or is that just the local schools near us?

Dancergirl Tue 18-Jun-13 09:56:34

Never seen Dance Moms, but my dd started last year and she's a keen dancer. She uses towels and you can't see them under her leotard. I think it helps wearing tights under the leotard, wearing a leotard with socks might be more of a problem.

valiumredhead Tue 18-Jun-13 09:31:53

Yes I do watch crap Tellyblush

valiumredhead Tue 18-Jun-13 09:31:22

I watch Dance Moms,I can't see how any of them could wear even a thin towel without it showing.

WafflyVersatile Tue 18-Jun-13 08:58:05

The body get them round for the chat anyway! Then report back here.

valiumredhead Tue 18-Jun-13 07:59:45

Good tip, when I discovered that things were much easier mummy,I always aimed 'up!' Ouch !

MummytoKatie Tue 18-Jun-13 00:30:30

Just a thought but a tip for mums with pre teen girls who may want to use tampons - tell them to aim for the small of their back - it never occurred to my mum to tell me (as it is obvious) so I was trying to get them in vertically. Couldn't work out why it was so uncomfortable!

Dancergirl Mon 17-Jun-13 23:26:24

I had that book valium! It was THE book in the 80s.

Has anyone else noticed the OP is only posting in relation to her dds dancing? Perhaps this isn't about San pro at all, more a stealth boast about getting in to a dance school...?

Some girls are eleven in year 6. Depends when their birthday falls. Dd friend turned 11 last sep but dd is not 11 till August. Both start year 7 in September.

Anyway yabu. I really thought when I opened your thread I was going to read the nurses pack contained a pack of condoms or something.

My first period was heavy and its stayed that way ever since

valiumredhead Mon 17-Jun-13 19:00:10

Ha ha it was such a good book, told you everything very clearly and simply.

madamginger Mon 17-Jun-13 18:53:21

Valium I had that book! I started aged 10, and I gave it to a friend at school when I was 12 and her mum went batshit.
I hated tampons at that age I always used pads (and the pill and tranexamic acid) I was soooo heavy I used to get through 3 packs of kotex super heavy every period.
I converted to a mooncup a few years ago and I love it.

valiumredhead Mon 17-Jun-13 18:01:53

I agree that 8 is more appropriate.

TallulahBetty Mon 17-Jun-13 17:21:51

How can some people on this thread say year 6 is too young for this talk?! IMO, it's too OLD!! I started my period in year 6 (aged 10) so this talk would be too late for me! And many others these days I expect. Lucky for me my mum had prepared me years earlier, but for those not so lucky? Needs to be age 8 I think.

marriedinwhiteagain Mon 17-Jun-13 17:07:31

Blimey laineykazan, dd's suddenly in D cups - she's be bouncing everywhere if I vetoed bras. I even buy my 18 year ds condoms. Someone on here once called me a narrow minded old boot!! Haha

valiumredhead Mon 17-Jun-13 15:16:27

Did anyone have the book 'have you started yet?'

It was brilliant,all the girls read it in our year,we borrowed it from the library, it was very well thumbedgrin

lainiekazan Mon 17-Jun-13 15:03:38

I wish I'd had any kind of talk when I was in Year 6. My periods started at 12 and it was a nightmare as my mother had failed to give any kind of "talk" or even left a book on my bed (as my friends' mothers did). A school talk would have been a godsend.

And as others have said, for some girls the bigger the better! My periods were terrible during my teenage years. The pain was debilitating and I sometimes had to wear two pads at once to cope with the flow. Oh, the joy when wings came in!

I remember watching the television when the advert came on with whatsername... the agony aunt... advertising towels with wings. My mother huffed and puffed and said those sort of adverts shouldn't be allowed. sad And I agree with FryOneFatManic, my mother was cross when she saw I'd bought some tampons (when I was 17) and said I'd have to buy them out of my pocket money. Oh... and deodorant wasn't allowed and nor were, wait for it.... bras! (Thank goodness I was not very well endowed!)

BackforGood Mon 17-Jun-13 15:02:03

At my dcs Primary school, both the boys and girls have the same lessons. The do split them into boys in one room and girls in the other, but they all get to find out about tampons, sanitary towels, wet dreams, the lot. I'd be surprised if that wasn't the same for all Yr6 ??

valiumredhead Mon 17-Jun-13 14:45:13

Thebody-my son's school did it too in a puberty workshop they held.

VenusUprising Mon 17-Jun-13 11:20:32
Oh this brings me back to ju mother having hysterics that I would deflower myself with tampons.

And this, in a nutshell, is the idea behind the older generation being so disapproving of tampons. It might be dressed up as a concern for safety, eg not using tampons at night in case of TSS. But the ignorant idea that somehow "good" girls didn't use tampons was quite widespread. Even some of my school mates had mums who wouldn't let them use tampons because "it wasn't proper for girls", and I'm 44 so not that old.

My dd got her first period at 10, in the middle of Tesco. The staff couldn't have been nicer, blocked off a changing room for her, brought wipes, a selection of clothing (she had to have a complete change from the waist down) and were completely lovely.

We'd already had the talk about puberty, sanpro and all related things after some of her friends had started their periods at 9!

Dd and ds have had great fun trying to recreate some of the craft items found on the tamponcraft website grin

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