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To find my MIL aggravating....

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allthatglittersisnotgold Sun 16-Jun-13 12:57:27

She's just contacted my dp to remind him to speak to his dad today, he's in his 30's fgs! It's just the tip of things that rattle my cage. Last time I saw her at a family event, she managed to chastise me for leaving food in front of everyone! Think she struggles to see us as our own people, even though we own a property and both work full time. I dread meeting with her now, as there's always a scathing undertone. Even though I have been with dp 5 years she's never once asked me a question about my life or family. I am a prolific question asker, it's so awkward being asked nothing back!

allthatglittersisnotgold Sun 16-Jun-13 17:04:29

Red. She's not old enough to remember rationing but for sure she uses bossiness and reminder texts for her to communicate with her son. My own mother has suggested she doesn't have social skills to communicate with me properly....however she's got some nice friends and seems to get on with them well. I have actually met these people and they are nice. Had some good times with them (at events). They are very welcome at our "wedding". She is a bit bossy with them but they seem to handle it. For example when she said dp was looking thin. I said he's in great shape and eats loads actually. The she looked a bit cross and said I wish I could lose weight (as she tucked into her pudding and 3rd glass of wine) to which her very nice friend said, oh but we don't move hardly do we?! That's why we struggle! She just laughed. Now if I'd said that it would obviously be a different story.

diddl Germany Sun 16-Jun-13 17:05:08

I think that my MIL is quite "possessive".

She'll often talk about before I knew him or people he knows but I don't.

Ridiculous really.

He loves us both, there's room for us both as we each have a differnt relationship with him.

Hugglepuff Sun 16-Jun-13 19:00:41

I'm not particularly close to my MIL - but I do think that is as much to do with my attitude as to do with hers ! BUT she is a brilliant Mum and Grandmother - so I respect her for that ..... Even if we annoy the pants off each other !

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