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Who is BU?

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sqigglywiggle Sat 15-Jun-13 23:39:31

i was just mentioning to DH something me and DD did and he said "its nice to know you can be girly sometimes". I was a little confused and said that I always wear make up do hair etc so why wasnt I girly?
He refused to discuss and when I pressed stormed off and went to bed as apparently "you always do this"

Deep breaths - Im going to be in trouble tomorrow now.

Sparklysilversequins Sun 16-Jun-13 00:59:56

F*ck Him Off!

He sounds like a right twat.

<<falls down once again with gratitude at single status>>

Damash12 Sun 16-Jun-13 00:54:55

Wow, you have bigger issues than the "girlie" comment. You are married to a complete twat!!! Is this the kind of relationship you'd enjoy seeing your daughter in??? Mmmm think not. Give him his divorce and be happy.

VodkaJelly Sun 16-Jun-13 00:46:40

Another vote for

Statement - I want to divorce you

Answer - good, I want a divorce also, I cant stand being married to a twat anymore

AgentZigzag Sun 16-Jun-13 00:20:22

Are there any reasons you can see for his extra neediness in this last year?

AgentZigzag Sun 16-Jun-13 00:19:14

Where would you normally go?

I'd go to the spare room myself, just because I wouldn't want any misunderstandings, with him thinking I was OK being treated like shit.

Did he flounce a bit when he went out of the room squiggly?

Was there a dramatic flourish in getting up, maybe a door slam, stamp noisily up the stairs?

Seriously2712 Sun 16-Jun-13 00:17:58

Had you both had a drink??????

RinseAndRepeat Sun 16-Jun-13 00:16:27

Go to the spare room. If he kicks off in the morning with the divorce talk then just call his bluff. Anything's got to be better than putting up with that sort of treatment. Honestly, he sounds horrid.

BuntyPenfold Sun 16-Jun-13 00:15:28

Why are you wasting your life on him?

sqigglywiggle Sun 16-Jun-13 00:12:06

Thank you. I know i can be hard work sometimes but the last year has been so stressful with his "needing attention" amongst other things. Hes perfect by the way in his eyes so no chance if reasoning. Off to bed now..... Our room or spare??

BriansBrain Sun 16-Jun-13 00:11:18

It's Father's Day.

Are you going to do the card thing in the morning or not bother because he is going to divorce you anyhoo.

Do you have time for him being a gas lighting arse?

Hopasholic Sun 16-Jun-13 00:07:36

Well I'd just be: 'ok then you see a solicitor on Monday, I'll see one Tuesday'.

End of.

Threats are horrible, nasty and really a meaningless way of getting you to tow the line. Call his bluff and tell him to fuck off.

BuntyPenfold Sun 16-Jun-13 00:06:06

he sounds a right dick quite honestly.

AgentZigzag Sun 16-Jun-13 00:04:24

Calling his bluff was the first thing I thought of reading about the divorce threats.

'Go on then, make my day.'

Ltb

There's just no need to put up with this shit

AgentZigzag Sun 16-Jun-13 00:02:58

Me and DH have similar memories, his is the shit one grin

But he'd never try to belittle/humiliate/hurt/game play with me, and there's no way I could stand living with someone who I knew thought so little of me to do that.

It's spiteful and petty, and you have to wonder about a person who gets off on needling someone they're supposed to love.

Do you go ballistic when he pulls this kind of shite?

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Sun 16-Jun-13 00:00:38

Why not divorce him? There's no way I'd put up with what you are putting up with.

RinseAndRepeat Sat 15-Jun-13 23:59:18

The memory thing is called gas lighting, google it.

Your DH is a prick.

sqigglywiggle Sat 15-Jun-13 23:58:48

The "girly" thing i was doing with DD was rolling round giggling and pretending we were twins! No pinkness involved.

AgentZigzag Sat 15-Jun-13 23:58:01

I wear make up and do my hair, but arf at the thought of me being girly grin

How do you normally react to his threats of divorce?

<eye roll> or <blind panic>?

sqigglywiggle Sat 15-Jun-13 23:55:23

Hes always saying he wants to divorce me and that he only built the loft extension so he had a place to get away from me (not that he uses it). He says horrible stuff all the time but cant stand getting called on it or taking any himself. He has the worlds worst memory for stuff and will make stuff up as he thinks it was which really annoys me as i have a completely date /time type memory and can prove with photos and stuff but he will still belittle me.

DarkWinter Sat 15-Jun-13 23:53:57

I'm a beauty editor - and I couldn't be any less fucking "girly" if I tried. Very much sounds like there is more to this than you are letting on OP. Good luck.

ThisIsMummyPig Sat 15-Jun-13 23:51:31

Lots of women do their hair and wear make up, and then go out to do sensible careers - business, A&E whatever - you wouldn't be 'girly' in those settings.

I wonder if you there is confusion with 'girly' and unfeminine.

Maybe it was a comment on the activities you do with your DD - were you doing something different with her? I recently took DD1 shopping for the first time, we play together nicely most of the time, but we would class shopping as a 'girly' activity, whereas playing in the park isn't

pinkyredrose Sat 15-Jun-13 23:51:02

Well he sounds a right catch hmm

Does this happen often?

itsmyturnnow Sat 15-Jun-13 23:48:56

Hmmm, just to add after your last post that if you can't have a fight without him threatening divorce then maybe there is a LOT more to all this than meets the eye!

itsmyturnnow Sat 15-Jun-13 23:48:17

I bet he probably didn't really mean anything by it, it was a throwaway comment, and then when you press him it feels to him like you're picking a fight and finding fault with him. Men!

I hope tomorrow is ok. xxxx

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