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To wish it wasn't "another brilliant report for my dc" season on Facebook?

(52 Posts)
IfIonlyhadsomesleep Thu 13-Jun-13 19:48:04

I know, 1) it's Facebook 2) people are right to be proud of their dc and 3) I don't have to look.
But I've just seen three accounts, one blow by blow, of how brilliantly their dc have done. One with accompanying picture of the cake baked as reward. I just would rather praise my own children, tell our nearest and dearest about their achievements and save Facebook for other aspects of life.

AmyFarrahFowlerCooper Thu 13-Jun-13 19:57:52

YABU. Everyone uses fb different.

AmyFarrahFowlerCooper Thu 13-Jun-13 19:58:12

Differently (bloody phone!)

BarbarianMum Thu 13-Jun-13 19:58:16

YABU Facebook is, as far as I can see, exactly for sharing all the trivial drivel of one's personal life, generally with people who couldn't care l

Chottie Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:01

Let it go, life's too short smile

Nux Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:40

As far as I can tell, the purpose of Facebook is to be smug on.

Arisbottle Thu 13-Jun-13 20:04:05

Why would you not be happy that your friend's children are doing well?

Isn't that the whole point of FB?

CloudsAndTrees Thu 13-Jun-13 20:06:13

If you would rather do it privately, then that's up to you. Just the same as its up to other people what they do.

As you said, it's Facebook, you don't have to look, and people are just showing pride in their children, which is a good thing! You seem to have glossed over those points, but really, your thoughts should have stopped there.

Heartbrokenmum73 Thu 13-Jun-13 20:06:53

Makes me laugh when relatives whose children are little shits unruly start posting about their wonderful reports and I just think 'you lie!'.

Won't be posting anything smug about DS1 this year - his teacher had to speak to me AGAIN today about his daydreaming and lack of work in class, so I suspect a report full of Cs for effort is on it's way...

LadyBeagleEyes Thu 13-Jun-13 20:06:58

I haven't seen that on my facebook but if a friend did put something like that up, I'd give it a massive 'like' and a well done comment.
Why can't people be proud of their kid's achievements?

What Arisbottle said.

cansu Thu 13-Jun-13 20:07:58

This kind of crap is one of the many reasons I do not want to be on Facebook. Why do people feel that they can put this stuff on Facebook when they wouldn't dream of saying it to anyone?

NynaevesSister Thu 13-Jun-13 20:10:28

I don't mind. It isn't easy to make lists etc and I assume they are putting them up for close friends and relatives, and that everyone else will just skim over. My son has learning issues and I proudly post his achievements too even though they are two years behind his peers.

Lizzylou Thu 13-Jun-13 20:11:48

If Ds2 gets a good report I will get it printed on a T-shirt, perhaps bunting and take an ad out in the local paper.
Fb will just be for starters.

Not likely to happen anyway grin

Thymeout Thu 13-Jun-13 20:12:36

Everyone's proud of their children's achievements.

But when you post it on a social network, it looks like boasting to me.

VivaLeBeaver Thu 13-Jun-13 20:13:47

I agree.

I seriously know someone who goes on FB about five times a year. Each time it is purely to be smug about something their dc has done.

fuck off

Makes me feel a bit shabby but I admit I'm in a foul mood today!

VivaLeBeaver Thu 13-Jun-13 20:14:01

Stabby even.

VivaLeBeaver Thu 13-Jun-13 20:16:17

And part of me thinks like posting something ridiculous on my own status.

Darling X although only in Year 8 has successfully gained 3x a* at gcse and got national curriculum level 22 in all other subjects and has been made school captain for next year. Well done on a time of 15 minutes in the 5000m at sports day. Love you so much I could burst with pride. Xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

ignore it of you don't like it , I posted when kids did well was proud , and then as my DD got to be a teenager most of my status about her were, DD got excluded again, but I only have close friends and family on FB so the support helped if it was bad and if it was good others were happy as well.

Mine are a bit small yet for that kind of posting, But whenever I post a photo of DC or recount something cute or clever they have said, Its for their grandparents and far away relatives to feel like they are a part of their lives not to be smug or boastful.
Am sure most people are the same.

IfIonlyhadsomesleep Thu 13-Jun-13 20:19:08

I suppose it's just that the kind of posts I'm talking about wouldn't pass my filter system which goes along the lines of "will I make so wine who's having a hard day feel worse by posting this?".
I'm really pleased for my friends when their children do well. I tell them so too. Actual conversation allows you to judge the mood and decide whether today's the day to tell them about dd1's piano exam going well, or whether I'd be better making a cuppa and hearing about a tough time their dc is having. They do the same for me no doubt. aharing joys and woes is the bread and butter of proper friendship. Fb is too blunt a tool IMO. This discussion is making me think about it all and work it out a bit.

Chunderella Thu 13-Jun-13 20:21:06

It always seems rather tacky to me.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 13-Jun-13 20:25:06

I get more annoyed with the negative, attention seeking, sob stories on Facebook. I like FB being about nice positive things that make people I like happy.

FB is a blunt tool, but it's not trying to be anything else, it just is what it is. It's the fact that people use it in so many differs ways that can cause problems.

Clouds I agree, I would rather see 'my child got a fab report' than 'I'm feeling sad what's the point of life
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