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To want to spend some of this money on myself ?

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cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 18:33:07

I've just been lucky enough to come into a bit of money ( £2400). I've been out of work for the last 3 yrs and things have been tough. I'm keen to go back to college and the part time course I 'm looking at is about £600. I don't go anywhere or do anything apart from when I'm out with the kids because of money being tight. Dh has a gym membership which I've never complained about as he has suffered from depression on the past and exercise definitely helps his mood. With the rest of the money I wanted to get a week away somewhere and get some things done in the house. Told dh about college and he made a face and said he thinks I'm getting carried away and should hold on. I was raging earlier.....I'm basically a fucking hermit and do very little purely for myself. Am i being selfish to want to spend £600 on myself?

livinginwonderland Thu 13-Jun-13 19:47:15

Do it!

DeskPlanner Thu 13-Jun-13 19:48:31

If its something you will enjoy, then do it. Good luck.

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 19:54:45

Scottishmummy - woo woo rubbish ? Can't recall asking for opinions on my choice of course. Won't come chapping your door looking for business ehen I'm qualified so no need to worry about me ripping you off. I'm not talking hopi ear candles and chakra readings but learning massage which could take me into sports massage etc......all beneficial stuff.

scottishmummy Thu 13-Jun-13 19:57:22

complementary therapies,well it's usually associated with woo-hoo and dubious theory
your money up to you
does this lead to employment?

ARealDame Thu 13-Jun-13 19:59:04

Above comments are a good example of why never to answer questions on MN, ever...

If it were me OP, I'd spend, spend, spend - esp. after such a frugal time. You can always buy your husband a nice pressie too wink.

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 20:05:40

That's the title of the course. Once you've studied the basic anatomy and physiology parts of the course you can opt for swedish massage, reflexology, aromatherapy or the likes of reiki (which I've never bought into myself.). As well as the usual employment opportunities in salons etc, there is also the option of going self employed, I've even read that massage therapists can be employed with the Nhs.

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 20:07:35

Cheers Arealdame. He might get a free massage if he's lucky !

PestoSwimissimos Thu 13-Jun-13 20:08:56

It's a great idea, do it!

Bogeyface Thu 13-Jun-13 20:13:04

I think you are barking up the wrong tree.

I wonder if this has nothing to do with the money but the fact that, in your words, you have been a hermit and done nothing for yourself for years. But now you are spreading your wings a bit and asserting some independence. ITs very common for men to kick off as they dont want the status quo changing, "What about MEEEEE????! You shouldnt do anything for you, it should all be about MEEEEEE!"

lordleofric Thu 13-Jun-13 20:15:26

Doesn't matter what the course is or if it leads to employment. The only thing that matters is that you have wanted to do for a while.

scottishmummy Thu 13-Jun-13 20:20:37

massage therapist in nhs?very unlikely
sorry but the more you elaborate on course,the more woo. hoo it sounds
do be realistic about ourcomes,however,as you rightly say its your money.

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 20:24:40

Bogeyv- that thought did cross my mind too. I'm generally an easy going person but I will occasionally did my heels in if something is important. DH is used to me beig laid back and getting things his own way. Lord- I think that's what's important too, that I'll enjoy it. I spent 10 yrs in a job I hated and vowed tha t I would at least try this as it really appealed to me.

EllaFitzgerald Thu 13-Jun-13 20:27:23

It doesn't matter what the course is, or whether it will lead to employment or not. You've wanted to do it for three years, so if you've got a roof over your head and food in the cupboard, enrol tomorrow and buy yourself a fabulous pair of shoes to celebrate!

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 20:28:36

Thanks for your concern Scottishmummy. Right now I just want to do something that I might actually enjoy and I'm not thinking too far ahead about outcomes.

INeedSomeSun Thu 13-Jun-13 20:28:39

Massage therapists can earn really well, you definately should do it.

I don't know why anyone would think it was woo woo. The benefits of massage are proven and our children's centre even runs baby massage sessions.

I'm sure your DH will change his mind once you start practising on him...

Bogeyface Thu 13-Jun-13 20:31:11

massage therapist in nhs?very unlikely

Wrong I am afraid. In my town there has just been opened a very large NHS funded alternative therapy centre including massage, acupuncture (which is also offered in the physio department at the main hospital) and homeopathy. I got acupuncture treatment for breast pain before my surgery, which was recommended by my consultant and delivered by the physios.

Oh give over on the woo woo nonsense.

OP go for it, massage courses are well worth their cost. My Mum is a practitioner and from the courses she met many people who do all forms of massage. She specialises in aromatherapy and Indian head massage, could earn a killing from it if her hands weren't arthritic!

Damnautocorrect Thu 13-Jun-13 20:33:52

It's investing in yours and your families future. It's exactly what you should be spending it on

AwkwardSquad Thu 13-Jun-13 20:34:20

Go for it. You can practice on me grin

YANBU

vintagecakeisstillnice Thu 13-Jun-13 20:37:13

Do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it do it

I speak as someone who has to book a massage at least 3weeks in advance.

ShadeofViolet Thu 13-Jun-13 20:48:21

Do it.

And ignore the nay sayers. Massage is a great career with earning potential. Not woo at all.

LineRunner Thu 13-Jun-13 20:53:28

I want a massage.

scottishmummy Thu 13-Jun-13 20:59:28

if you have the interest,stamina and weigh up the pro/con,the yes go in informed
yes pct,gp can commission massage etc but it's certainly not lots jobs
in private health club/retail there are opportunities

cannotfuckingbelievethis Thu 13-Jun-13 21:04:20

Awwweee sod it. Am going to get my boobs done instead...Dh will be happy and I can always do some glamour modelling. Everyone's a winner !

ihearsounds Thu 13-Jun-13 21:17:48

Where I work, we have a massuese come in weekly in the name of staff wellbeing. We get this person from the pct, who is funded by a very generous beneficiary. I am not in health club or retail.

At the end of the day this is something that you want to do, so do it. Dont be put off because in years to come you will think fuck why didnt I go for it. There has probably been lots of things that you have given up over the years, dont this be another thing. Tis is your money and if you want to spend it on further education, bags and shoes then go for it.

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