To think that DH is selfish and thoughtless?

(164 Posts)
chinley Sat 25-May-13 20:49:59

This will probably seem petty to some but I'm actually so angry I feel like crying.

DH and I had plans to go out this evening. He's been at his mother's house all evening. I came home at 7pm and started getting ready to go out, spent an hour and a half getting ready, showered, shaved, washed my hair, put full makeup on and then received a text from DH saying he was going to stay there and we could go out tomorrow instead.

Now, tomorrow I'm going to be driving his mother on a 5 hour round trip so I will be too tired to be getting ready all over again and then going anywhere.

I just don't understand why he waited for me to go to so much effort and get ready and THEN tell me!

It just seems so careless!

AIBU to be fuming?

I honestly feel like crying.

JumpingJackSprat Sun 26-May-13 05:40:25

You really, really dont have to put up with this. imagine that first moment youre free of him - does it feel like relief? I know it did with my ex, and my current DP is such an amazing loving person... you can find someone who cherishes you.

Pinkflipflop Sun 26-May-13 05:45:53

Someone I know is married to a man who sounds similar.

She's 59 now and will never leave him.

She looks back and is full at regret of her wasted life and what could have been...sadsadsad

WinkyWinkola Sun 26-May-13 05:47:46

What a vile man. He really thinks it is okay to let you down and then scream in your face? The word is wanker.

Wouldn't it be nice to know that he can no longer bully you like this?

He can no longer let you down on a whim?

Your doors will remain intact.

You sound like a lovely, caring person and you do not have to live like this.

You do have choices. Women's Aid can help you like they've helped thousands.

hope you're ok Chinley x

myroomisatip Sun 26-May-13 07:14:45

I'm another one hoping you are okay sad

I know how you feel, I've been there sad

Here's hoping you can find the strength and courage to LTB flowers

Chivetalking Sun 26-May-13 07:31:54

You poor thing.

I hope you are OK this morning and I really hope this thread has helped clarify just how much you need to kick this tosser to the kerb.

MrsWolowitz Sun 26-May-13 07:48:41

Hope you're ok.

I've not ever said this before but I think you should leave him.

He will never put you first. Never accept responsibility and never respect you.

flowers you don't deserve this. If you're scared, call women's aid.

BearsInMotion Sun 26-May-13 07:57:25

Hope you're ok OP, and thinking about the future flowers

Cerisier Sun 26-May-13 10:44:23

Hope you're ok OP. Please start getting organised and prepared. Wishing you strength and courage to face up to him and to extricate yourself from this relationship.

Mimishimi Sun 26-May-13 10:49:33

He got into such a rage that he broke your bathroom door? You do realise, don't you, that it's only a matter of time (especially with the frustrations that come after having kids) that the violence is going to be turned onto you?

Moxiegirl Sun 26-May-13 11:02:32

Reading about these men on mn makes me so angry. Hope you're ok, I know it's not easy but please try and think about getting away from this nasty man sad

foslady Sun 26-May-13 11:32:23

Another one hoping you're ok OP, been thinking about you and hoping that you are gathering strength from this - you deserve to be happy and without fear

RhondaJean Sun 26-May-13 11:46:18

What a cunt of a man.

Op you don't need this in your life.

I'm sure you are probably driving your mil right now rather than reading MN but I hope you are telling her what her son is like as you do so.

Please consider leaving.

YesIamYourSisterInLaw Tue 28-May-13 18:48:23

Are you ok op?

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