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To be scared to go to work.

(61 Posts)
Sleepgrumpydopey Thu 23-May-13 21:22:05

Finish work late on Saturday and I have to walk to a multi storey car park in bham city centre. Aibu to be scared to walk to car alone as I'm Indian and EDL don't really know the difference and think everyone brown is a Muslim.

ByTheSea Thu 23-May-13 21:26:10

I hate the EDL and am so sorry you are feeling this way.

Fakebook Thu 23-May-13 21:27:05

That's sad. Could you get a male work colleague to walk you to your car?

Sleepgrumpydopey Thu 23-May-13 21:27:24

smile thank you

gordyslovesheep Thu 23-May-13 21:28:07

can you ask a co worker to walk with you? Can you avoid the multi story? Do they have security guards who could escort you?

I am sorry you feel this way xxxx

LEMisdisappointed Thu 23-May-13 21:29:28

Thats awful that you feel that way Sleepgrumpy - I too hate the EDL, in fact, apart from the obvious anger at those utter pigs who did that terrible thing yesterday for what they did, i also feel anger on behalf of he peace loving muslims who will now be fearing retaliation sad Why can't we all just live together in peace, it makes me so sad.

FWIW i don't think that at all, i never really think about peoples religeons.

libertyflip Thu 23-May-13 21:30:16

So sorry you feel this way, would it be worth you speaking to your employer to see if they can do anything to help?

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman Thu 23-May-13 21:31:27

I am so sorry you feel this way I agree with the others, could a co-worker walk with you?

Sleepgrumpydopey Thu 23-May-13 21:32:46

I think I'm just a worrier. Will try and make sure I go with co workers. If not will phone DH all the way to the car.
Thanks for the hand holding though.

Sticklebug Thu 23-May-13 21:33:27

Agree with asking a sturdy (not necessarily male) collegue to walk with. Horrid that you feel like this.

McNewPants2013 Thu 23-May-13 21:36:53

What is EDL.

Would a panic alarm be any use or have 999 on your phone ready just incase.

Hope you can get someone to walk with you.

sweetsummerlove Thu 23-May-13 21:42:04

have been told walking on the phone makes you more vulnerable, I guess because you can't be fully aware of your environment. ...im so sorry you feel this way. You are not overreacting at all. x

MummyCoolski Thu 23-May-13 21:45:41

McNewPants2013 EDL is the English Defence League. Basically racist scumbags whose members are the kind to smash the local takeaway "in retaliation" after a terrorist attack.

SleepyGrumpyDopey you poor love. Please remember that people like that are a minority. Is there a March planned

MummyCoolski Thu 23-May-13 21:46:56

Oops! Is there a march planned for Saturday or is it a general worry?

qualitytoffee Thu 23-May-13 21:48:10

pet, ring work and tell them how you feel, and get someone to be with you xx
Could you get a taxi perhaps?
There'll be loads of police around, but that doesn't excuse your fear bless you xxx

ivanapoo Thu 23-May-13 21:48:41

I think your employer has a duty of care here... Any way you can park closer to work? Or get your husband to meet you with the car at your workplace?

ivanapoo Thu 23-May-13 21:49:12

PS I too am sorry you feel this way, it really angers me.

McNewPants2013 Thu 23-May-13 21:50:21

No wonder you are scared flowers

NicknameIncomplete Thu 23-May-13 21:50:40

Sleepy that is horrible, i hope u get home safely.

I would keep one hand on my phone & my keys in the other hand. Just incase.

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 21:53:02

So sad that you feel this way when you should feel safe. I did a self defence course and it was excellent. Walking on the phone makes you vulnerable and unable to react quickly. Carry your keys in your hand and (not that anything will happen) should you ever be in the position use your keys or your fingers in any soft spot.

Eyes, soft part of throat, just below the armpit and shout 'Fire' rather than help.

You will never I hope need to do this. thanks

Oldraver Thu 23-May-13 21:54:07

Isnt it PRIDE this weekend ? I think the city centre will be heaving... obviously dont say where you are but could you park in a different place maybe Arcadian ?

If you (or others) work late then your employer should have a risk assessment for late working written and take reasonable steps to mitigate any risks (I was the H&S officer and had to keep ours updated in a previous job). Could be worth talking to whoever is responsible for Health and Safety at your workplace (legally there has to be a named person IIRC).

Sunnywithshowers Thu 23-May-13 22:00:25

flowers I'm sorry some people are such fucking idiots.

Dawndonna Thu 23-May-13 22:08:06

So sorry that you have to experience this.
thanks

Sleepgrumpydopey Thu 23-May-13 22:19:20

Thanks everyone. I think I'll email work tommorow and see what arrangements there are. I don't think there's a march planned. oldraver thanks for mentioning pride, I'd forgotten all about that. Feel better knowing the city centre will mostly be full of happy people.

Alice some great tips there, thank you.

I shouldn't really be scared as that's what the terrorists want, people like me born here, British through and through feeling unsafe amongst other Brits.

Me and my kids all wear our poppies every year, we are Sikh but celebrate Christmas and Easter too. I hate the thought that when someone sees me they see an immigrant who hates England. This is my home.

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