To not want to go abroad with Dh & Dsc?

(45 Posts)
Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:03:54

Dh has been making noises about taking dsc on holiday next year to Greece, although I am very fond of her and enjoy the time we spend together am IBU to not want to spend and inordinate amount of money on a family holiday in a hotel with crappy beds, scratchy sheets and drinks served in a plastic cups? I did look at a villa but as dsc is an only child it's probably better for her to be with other children so she can make friends etc.

I think she will be bored for a week with us, I would be! so instead I suggested that as she already goes abroad with her mum and extended family inc other kids we spend 3-4 nights in the UK.

Such as Centre Parcs, New Forest etc. Giving her some fresh air exercise time in nature and doing lots of fun things. While I know these types of breaks aren't cheap they are cheaper than going abroad.

Am I doing her out of a sunny holiday even though she has 1-2 a year with her mum?

theoriginalandbestrookie Fri 24-May-13 07:38:32

YANBU to not want to go on a package holiday but don't let that put you off going abroad. We had a nice holiday in the designer when da was that age,cottages with shared pools and lovely local restaurants.It's good to try something different much as I love centre paves.

dancingwithmyselfandthecat Fri 24-May-13 07:32:35

Nothing wrong with a uk holiday but don't expect it to work out cheaper than Greece, unless the only way you do abroad is five star. If the weather turns bad the costs will particularly mount up.

Alicenotinwonderland Fri 24-May-13 06:42:42

Great links quoteunquote, thank you !

Pendipidy Fri 24-May-13 00:01:53

What the op means, as is clear in the second to last sentence in her op , is that she doesn't want to spend more money taking her dsd abroad when she could spend less in the UK. Why?

TigerSwallowTail Thu 23-May-13 23:52:53

What other obligation helsbels?

quoteunquote Thu 23-May-13 22:41:58

bivouac

watergate bay

both brilliant, with tons to do.

nkf Thu 23-May-13 21:27:58

Well, there you are then. Lovely love Centerparcs instead of Greece. Success.

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:52:10

She's happy to go away for a few days in the UK she said she'd like to try one of those tent things. I think she means glamping, Greece looks attractive again! But if that's what she'd love when we come to book that's what we'll do!

LIZS Thu 23-May-13 18:48:09

Does she mean stay at home or go away in UK ?

ZZZenagain Thu 23-May-13 18:47:50

that works out all right then

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:47:02

No children of my own, we have holidays in child free hotels and we've just asked her if she would like to spend a week abroad..she said no thank you she'd rather stay at home as she doesn't like the 2 hols a year she has anyway, she'd rather have one.

Problem solved.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 23-May-13 18:44:53

It is ok to go on a UK holiday. I'm sure it will be lovely. Except your DH doesn't want a UK holiday. He wants to go to Greece.

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 23-May-13 18:43:33

Ask her what she thinks, we've done villa holidays for the last few years and yes mine started to get bored. This year we are going somewhere in this country instead

StillGotBabyBrain Thu 23-May-13 18:39:28

I cannot see why you wouldn't want a holiday abroad with your hubby and step child? Do you have any children yourself? I have two step kids and my hubby would love to take them away abroad, we can't afford to do holidays full stop. Imagine what she must think, you go abroad every other year but won't take her?! Weird.

tumbletumble Thu 23-May-13 18:37:02

Of course it's ok to take her somewhere in the UK! But if she and DH would both prefer to go abroad then you do end up sounding like a bit of a kill joy.

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:36:40

Work within your budget. A little caravan holiday is far cheaper than a villa in Greece. Don't spend money you haven't got.

I think this is the point rather than a general problem with your DSD.

ZZZenagain Thu 23-May-13 18:35:28

what sort of holiday do you usually have with dh if you go abroad (without dsd)?

nkf Thu 23-May-13 18:34:20

I don't really get the problem.

thebody Thu 23-May-13 18:32:13

What hotels do you go to that serve drinks in plastic cups?? Crappy beds?

I have never stayed in such a place anywhere so you need to sort out your travel arrangements.

Centre parcs is very expensive for a middle class butlins.

11 is a lovely age to take away, old enough to behave and too young for the teen strops.

Take her.

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:32:00

I'd tell him to go without you OP. Obviously though the money that would have gone towards your place, put to one side and treat yourself to a spa weekend or something ;)

LIZS Thu 23-May-13 18:29:54

If he wants to be different drive to France, go to an Italian lake (lots of outdoors there) or the Alps. Do you have any dc of your own , if not I can kind of get your reticence to go although your other suggestions seem overly family friendly (Centerparcs in school holidays could be even worse) However it certainly doesn't have to be as you describe wherever you head.

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:29:13

He can by all means go without me! I'm not his keeper. Why is it not ok to take her on a UK holiday?! We have some really beautiful places here!

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:26:38

Why do you need a compromise? What is it about taking your stepdaughter abroad that seems so terrible?

Here we go.

lunar1 Thu 23-May-13 18:25:42

Why should she miss out on a holiday aboard with her dad. You could stay at home if you don't want to go with them. What she does with her mum is not really relevant, she has 2 parents.

CloudsAndTrees Thu 23-May-13 18:24:58

If my DH expected me to go on holidays abroad every other year and never take my children he'd be out on his arse.

The fact that she gets to go abroad with her mother is irrelevant. It doesn't mean your DH shouldn't take her abroad too if he wants to, especially if he goes abroad without her.

Why do you need a compromise? What is it about taking your stepdaughter abroad that seems so terrible?

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