To not want to go abroad with Dh & Dsc?

(45 Posts)
Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:03:54

Dh has been making noises about taking dsc on holiday next year to Greece, although I am very fond of her and enjoy the time we spend together am IBU to not want to spend and inordinate amount of money on a family holiday in a hotel with crappy beds, scratchy sheets and drinks served in a plastic cups? I did look at a villa but as dsc is an only child it's probably better for her to be with other children so she can make friends etc.

I think she will be bored for a week with us, I would be! so instead I suggested that as she already goes abroad with her mum and extended family inc other kids we spend 3-4 nights in the UK.

Such as Centre Parcs, New Forest etc. Giving her some fresh air exercise time in nature and doing lots of fun things. While I know these types of breaks aren't cheap they are cheaper than going abroad.

Am I doing her out of a sunny holiday even though she has 1-2 a year with her mum?

You are looking in the wrong holiday brochures. You can get fab holidays for as much as it costs to holiday in the uk.

Whocansay Thu 23-May-13 18:06:22

I think you may be in for a surprise if you think that Centreparcs is going to be a cheap option!

Does your dh get a holiday abroad? Maybe he wants some sun?

LIZS Thu 23-May-13 18:07:38

Why wouldn't she enjoy herself ? You can get villa complexes so she could meet other families or go on package to a family resort with kids clubs. How old is she ?

We looked at Centreparcs & it was extortionate.

And don't forget the other obligation you'll have wink

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:11:17

YANBU.

<whispers> You shouldn't have mentioned the words "do not want to spend" in the same sentence that has the words "inordinate amount of money" when it comes to your stepchild. smile

But no, you're not being unreasonable. Go somewhere that she will have fun and enjoy! Just because you don't want to go abroad it doesn't mean she won't have fun! We're going to Haven because we don't want it to be too much for our 2 year old and baby. So DSD has to settle with that and go on nice sunny holidays with her mum!

CloudsAndTrees Thu 23-May-13 18:12:56

YABU.

Your DH has a child, it's only natural that he will want to take her on holiday abroad if he can. You can't expect him to go abroad on other holidays and never take his dd abroad.

You can do fun things, and get exercise and fresh air in other countries as well you know!

I really think that if your DH wants to do this, then you should be supporting him.

KittensoftPuppydog Thu 23-May-13 18:15:57

Mrshelsbells. He he. smile

PicaK Thu 23-May-13 18:17:35

Pay for the holiday. Offer to take a friend.

How old is she?

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:20:04

I'm not sure how IABU! Dh and I have a holiday abroad together every other year as he doesn't like to travel.

DSD has 2 holidays in the sun a year with her mum her family and all the other children. Why is it unreasonable to compromise with a UK holiday?

ihearsounds Thu 23-May-13 18:20:08

Haha Centre parks cheap..
We go abroad every year in the school holidays.. Cannot afford Centre parks.

Why would she be bored at a villa. Do you want to just spend your time shagging ignoring her? Plenty of things to do and enjoy.

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:20:30

She's almost 11

5Foot5 Thu 23-May-13 18:22:05

I did look at a villa but as dsc is an only child it's probably better for her to be with other children so she can make friends etc.

Huh? DD is an only child and we nearly always holidayed in villas or gites or cottages and did things together the three of us (or five if GPs joined us). I am pretty sure she wasn't bored. In fact it was great that we got to spend so much time doing things together.

Nothing wrong with holidays in the UK but it sounds to me like you have the wrong reasons for wanting to do it

I have never ad drinks in plastic cups in a hotel.

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:23:07

DSD has 2 holidays in the sun a year with her mum her family and all the other children. Why is it unreasonable to compromise with a UK holiday?

There's absolutely nothing wrong with this. For your DSD, a holiday with her dad doesn't necessarily HAVE to be abroad. And also, only go by what you can afford, don't go abroad just for the sake of it!

Bonsoir Thu 23-May-13 18:23:46

What is your budget?

5Foot5 Thu 23-May-13 18:23:52

Oh and at 11 I think she might be getting to that age where they are less likely to strike up a friendship with any other random kid anyway

nkf Thu 23-May-13 18:24:46

Why don't they go without you?

CloudsAndTrees Thu 23-May-13 18:24:58

If my DH expected me to go on holidays abroad every other year and never take my children he'd be out on his arse.

The fact that she gets to go abroad with her mother is irrelevant. It doesn't mean your DH shouldn't take her abroad too if he wants to, especially if he goes abroad without her.

Why do you need a compromise? What is it about taking your stepdaughter abroad that seems so terrible?

lunar1 Thu 23-May-13 18:25:42

Why should she miss out on a holiday aboard with her dad. You could stay at home if you don't want to go with them. What she does with her mum is not really relevant, she has 2 parents.

needaholidaynow Thu 23-May-13 18:26:38

Why do you need a compromise? What is it about taking your stepdaughter abroad that seems so terrible?

Here we go.

Alicenotinwonderland Thu 23-May-13 18:29:13

He can by all means go without me! I'm not his keeper. Why is it not ok to take her on a UK holiday?! We have some really beautiful places here!

LIZS Thu 23-May-13 18:29:54

If he wants to be different drive to France, go to an Italian lake (lots of outdoors there) or the Alps. Do you have any dc of your own , if not I can kind of get your reticence to go although your other suggestions seem overly family friendly (Centerparcs in school holidays could be even worse) However it certainly doesn't have to be as you describe wherever you head.

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