I have 2 DS. I want another baby as does DH. It would be nice if it was a girl but equally lovely to have another boy. I really want a healthy - that's the best. I have always wanted 4 children and just don't feel like I'm ready to hang up my womb just yet.
Anyway, when I mentioned having another one, a lot of family and friends said "you won't have any girls, there's no point in having another one" and then said "you're such a good mum, of boys".
Is there such a thing as being a good mum to just one sex of child? Surely a good mum is a good mum. I'm sure they say this to make me feel better or something but it just pisses me off. It is nice to be told I'm a good mum - especially as most of the time I feel like I'm winging it and the rest of the time have no clue - but it feels like people are saying "you'd be a shit mum to girls" (obviously me being massively over sensitive).
Am I being unreasonable?
AIBU?
to hate it when people say "you're a good mum....of boys"
IamMrsElf · 23/05/2013 09:02
the people you know are odd who says that, a good mum is a good mum regardless of sex and tbh most of us wing it , I have heard people saying Oh i wouldnt know what to do with a boy 
so i guess its the reverse people have weird concepts of children imo, I have a lovely friend who is waiting on her first grandchild and tbh I think she is hoping for a girl as she was one of the people I heard saying ' I wouldn't know what to do with a boy'
yanbu
'you're such a good mum, of boys' - what does that even mean?
I have 3 teen boys.
That comment made to you is ridiculous , just give them a 
look and ignore.
I remember when I had dd2 and i met a friend of my aunts on the bus she said oh what did you have a girl, aww you can try again for a boy, WHAT
One of my acquaintances had a fourth boy. I was conscious that they may have had a few 'ah, shame' type comments, so when I met her I said 'how lovely, 4 boys!' and she replied 'I didn't want a girl, I wouldn't know what do with one, they're so whingy', right in front of my DD 
. Defensive, much?!
When I was pregnant with DC2 (after having DD), DH's great uncle was very insistent that DH would want a boy this time. When I replied "he'd be perfectly happy if we had another DD", he said "Well, he might say that, but he'll want a DS really".
When my mum had a third DD, a woman asked my mum if she was disappointed. When her friend had a third DS, somebody asked her the same question.
My point being that loads of people have very definite ideas about the sex of other people's babies. You being told that you're a good mum to boys is just plain strange - a good mum is a good mum, and you alter your parenting style for each child, regardless of their sex.
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People can be really wierd. I have 3 my first 2 were girls and the joy and jubiation from others that my husband finally had a son on my third made me a little . We would have quite happily taken whatever we got, don't get me wrong obviously now I am delighted we have a son because we know and love him but a girl would be equally as good. My friend has 3 girls and many people expressed their disappointment for her husband. Whatever about our situation that is just plain rude.
YANBU.
some people are stupid, fact.
whether you are a good mum or not is based on attitude, not on whether you have boys or girls.
we have 5 boys then baby girl.
the amount of crap comments I've been putting up with is unbelievable.
I think I've heard it all.
My advice is to ignore the daft comments and questions.
just concentrate on your family.
I hope your dream of having 4 children will come true!
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